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Notice I did not write what every man deserves, but what every man wants. Those are two different things.

Every man has what he is looking for in a spouse; but these are some in a general sense.

Tomorrow, I will write about what every woman wants

1. A wife, not a knife
There is a difference between a wife and a knife. A knife cuts and lacerates. Such is Job’s wife who looked at him in the height of his crisis and pain and told him to curse God and die!

A wife does not give up. A good wife stays there and believes the best for her husband and home.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11-12 KJV)

2. A companion, not a competitor
A man wants a companion in his wife. There is a difference between championship and companionship. A home is not a WWE arena. No man will feel good who thinks his wife is out to compete with him.

Competitive spirit between a couple defeats the very reason for marriage.

3. A help; not a hell
You tell some men to repent of their sins or else they will go to hell. They simply laugh and tell you there is no hell hotter than the ones their wives are giving them at home. Sounds humorous, but is actually sad to hear.

Every man needs genuine help. He may not own up to it if he is overly egocentric, but the truth remains he needs help.

A woman was created to help the man. But when she decides to give him hell at home, all will not be well.

Sometimes, it is the man that pushes the woman to this point, but it is not always a good place to be in.

A joke was told of the devil invading a particular club and everybody ran away including the club owner except one man.

The devil was surprised. So he asked him,

“Are you not scared? Everybody is running from me and you are just sitting there?”
The man sips his drink and calmly replied,
“I am not scared of you. What can you do? I have been married to your sister for seven years, what else can you do that she has not done?

4. A friend, not a fraud
Every man needs a friend. A friend is always there for you. A friend loves genuinely. Friends talk and communicate. Friends cover each other’s back. Friends want to be around each other. Friends look forward to being together.

There is no point getting married to somebody whose guts you hate.

Are you still your husband’s friend? If not, do all you can to become friends again.

If there is a courtship or marriage where the couple is no longer friends, crisis is in the corner.

5. A playmate, not a co-tenant
Every man loves to play. There is a recreational tendency in every man. If he doesn’t see it in his wife, he would hang around the boys in town!

Ever wondered why your husband would leave a large LCD, curved Samsung TV at home to go and watch football in a club on a smaller TV? It is the ‘play” in the watching, the comments, the laughter, the conversations that ensues while the game is going on.

It is not wise to get so busy and leave him all alone to watch his football. Get interested; learn the names…and you will be amazed!

I receive the wisdom of God to advance my marriage

Father, help me to be a wife indeed.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11-12 KJV)

Support your spouse all the way.

Ps 127


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