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Can you see the possibility of a happy marriage. You have to believe that it’s possible, and tell yourself “I will have a happy marriage”, and then do the things necessary to have a happy marriage. We’ll continue from where we stopped yesterday

3. Never go to sleep with an argument.

An argument can occur between the couples at any time, on whatever issue, and in any particular place. However, it is maturity on the part of the couple not to spread the dirty linen outside for all to see.

It is maturity on the part of the husband to lovingly correct any mistake his wife does. She is not your daughter neither is she your maid or servant. She is your wife and covenant partner.

The wife is meant to respectfully suggest her opinion and ideas in such a way that it will not lead to an argument. That is maturity on her part.

Both husband and wife should be discerning enough to know when an argument is ensuring. They should also take note of their responses and how they react.

A soft answer is what the Bible recommends.

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 15:1 KJV

All couples should learn and practice how to answer softly.

Each couple must deal with anger. You cannot do marriage with anger

That is why it is important to deal with every unresolved issue. Every hurt, pain, unforgiveness will only lead to more unhealthy issues in marriage.

Every couple should be willing to fight for their marriage and be ready to walk in and by the Spirit. Only then can we be sure of not being carnal, judging issues rightly, having the right perspective, and being loving in our approach.

Finally, the bible says we should not let the sun go down on our anger. The life span of your anger shouldn’t be more than 24 hours

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.
Ephesians 4:26 – 27 KJV

4. At least once a day, say something complimentary to your spouse.

If your spouse’s love language is words of affirmation, you will have to be very deliberate about complimenting him/her often. Your words mean a lot to your spouse and will often look to you for this need to be met.

You must be quick to look for virtues to celebrate, little baby steps to notice, efforts to acknowledge, and things to appreciate in your spouse.

Some temperaments don’t really need as many compliments and will do well even without a single compliment. You will do well not to judge or criticize your spouse if they need a lot of compliments.

However, as we mature, God should be our source of compliment and we should be secure in His word and promises to us and about us.

I will stop here for today. See you tomorrow by God’s Grace.

God grant us more understanding.

May God bless our marriage.

My marriage will work.

Lord, give me an understanding for my marriage in Jesus name.

EPH 5:28 ESV
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Have a hearty discussion with your spouse today

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