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When Should a Couple Urgently Seek Therapy – Part 2?

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Apr 16, 2025 | Singles and Married

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…Continued from yesterday.

5. Communication Has Completely Broken Down

If conversations devolve into yelling matches, silent treatments, or complete avoidance, communication has likely collapsed. Healthy dialogue is the lifeblood of any marriage. James 1:19 advises, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” A therapist can teach effective communication skills to bridge the gap between spouses.

6. Abuse Is Present

Any form of abuse—physical, emotional, verbal, or financial—is unacceptable and requires immediate attention. Safety must always come first. If abuse is occurring, seek therapy professionally and consider protective measures. Matthew 7:12 teaches, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” No one deserves to live in fear, and therapy can help victims find healing while holding abusers accountable.

7. Life Transitions Are Overwhelming the Relationship

Major life changes—such as job loss, health crises, the birth of a child, or grief—can strain even the strongest marriages. When these transitions spiral into conflict or resentment, therapy offers support and strategies to navigate the challenges together. Philippians 4:6 encourages, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, present your requests to God.”

8. One Partner Refuses to Engage

If one spouse has emotionally checked out or refuses to work on the marriage, therapy becomes essential. Even if only one partner initially participates, counseling can provide clarity, healing, and insight into the next steps. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 emphasizes teamwork: “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.”

Why Early Intervention Matters

Waiting too long to address marital problems can lead to irreparable damage. The earlier you seek therapy, the greater the chances of restoring your relationship. A licensed counselor or Christian therapist can offer biblical wisdom, practical tools, and compassionate guidance tailored to your unique situation. Learn more about how to seek therapy, counseling and courses Here

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When Should a Couple Urgently Seek Therapy?

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Apr 15, 2025 | Singles and Married

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When Should a Couple Urgently Seek Therapy?

Marriage is a beautiful covenant, but it’s not immune to challenges. While every relationship experiences ups and downs, some issues require professional guidance to prevent further damage. Knowing when to seek therapy can be the difference between healing and heartbreak. Here are key signs that indicate your marriage may urgently need therapy—and why taking action sooner rather than later is vital.

1. Constant Conflict Without Resolution

If arguments have become a daily norm and resolution feels impossible, it’s time to seek therapy. Persistent conflict without healthy communication erodes trust and intimacy. Proverbs 17:14 warns, “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” A therapist can provide tools to navigate disagreements constructively and restore peace.

2. Emotional or Physical Disconnection

When emotional distance grows—or worse, physical intimacy disappears—it’s a red flag. This disconnection often stems from unresolved issues or unmet needs. Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us, “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken,” symbolizing the strength of unity. Therapy can help couples reconnect emotionally and spiritually, rebuilding the bond they once shared.

3. Trust Has Been Broken

Infidelity, dishonesty, or breaches of trust can devastate a marriage. Whether it’s an affair, financial deception, or repeated broken promises, these wounds run deep. Psalm 51:10 prays, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” A trained therapist can guide both partners through forgiveness, accountability, and restoration—a process that’s difficult to navigate alone.

4. One or Both Partners Are Considering Separation or Divorce

When thoughts of separation or divorce enter the conversation, it’s a critical moment for intervention. Therapy provides a safe space to explore underlying issues and determine if reconciliation is possible. Malachi 2:16 declares, “God hates divorce,” underscoring the sacredness of marriage. Seeking therapy at this stage shows a willingness to fight for the relationship.

To be continued…