Ways That Show You Love Her

Ways That Show You Love Her

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Ways That Show You Love Her

1. You will be sincere with her. One of the first indications of true love is sincerity. Love is genuinely truthful. Love is truthful to a fault. The concept that God has of marriage is that of a covenant perspective. You are one. The moment you begin to hide stuff, it’s like a beehive of troubles. 

As singles in courtship, if you are not sincere, it is already founded on shaky ground. It is sincerity that eventually establishes trust. Trust, however you see it, is an important ingredient in marriage. Without it, the marriage will not survive.

If you notice that your loved one is habitually insincere, it is in order that you examine that relationship all over again. 

It goes without saying that what you court is what you’ll marry. If you court the truth, you’ll enjoy it in marriage, if you court lies, your guess is as good as mine.

If there is an issue of mistrust and you are already married, seek help. Seek counsel. Don’t keep quiet till it degenerates to a point you cannot manage it. 

Ways That Show You Love Her

2. You will express your love to her 

Where your treasure is, that is where your heart will be. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. So, I really have a problem with folk who don’t appreciate the ones they love and verbalize their commitments from time to time.

Expression of love within the context of a godly courtship should be verbal, not physical.  There is a way we do things in the kingdom.

When a guy begins to get physical on the first date, then your antenna should go up and you should know who you are dealing with. 

You get to know a person through interaction first. Not through touch.

As a young lady, you should not be freely available to be touched, smooched, and petted when you are not married. Expression of love should be contained within the parameters of verbal communication. 

In marriage, you need to understand that praise and affirmations are like food to a woman. She has to be complimented. The tendency is that if you don’t compliment her regularly, you will lose her emotionally.

Again, you need to know that complimenting her, praising her, and affirming her is actually protecting her. When you don’t do these, you increase her vulnerability because people will keep complimenting her outside. 

If you are in courtship, and communication is defective, praise and affirmation are absent, you need to know it is not likely to improve after marriage.

As a guy, if you have not been constantly verbalizing your love for her, you’ve not been praising her, you really need to repent of your “sins” and then make sure you change.

If a guy grows up In a family where they are non-expressive, praise and affirmation are non-existent, he is more likely to find it difficult to naturally do all of these.

However, it is never an excuse. As a man, you have a responsibility to make your relationship/marriage work by making the needed adjustments. That is what makes you a man.

Also to note, there could be needy ladies, who are too overbearing on the man, your fiance or husband is not the Holy Spirit, he would not be able to fully satisfy some very deep longings that only God’s word will sort out.

The most important thing is to strike a balance. 

These are two Ways That Show You Love Her

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Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

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Is It Just A Feeling or Love? One of the most abused statements in this generation is “I am in love.” Two people met themselves, there was strong body chemistry, and they hit on the very moment they set eyes on each other, it was as if they have known each for a long time, in a matter of hours, they are intertwined in each other’s embrace, locked up in sex and everything looks great for them. Is that love? Unfortunately, the answer is a No-No!

Pastor, why do you say so? What about love at first sight?

Well, there is nothing like love at first sight, what really happens most times is lust at first sight. If you think well, what we call love, at first sight, is usually predicated on the intense feelings for each other when you set eyes on each other.

There may be a “knowing” at first sight, where you get to know who the right person is for you either by revelation or by intuition, but there is nothing like love at first sight.

Is It Just A Feeling or Love? To love a person, you have to know that person. You don’t really know a person at first sight, you may have feelings, but you don’t really love him or her because you don’t know him or her.

A Feeling is not love, even though, there may be a feeling in love. Feelings can be fickle, they can change, it is on the surface and if you marry because of feeling alone, you will be heavily disappointed, because there would be times in marriage, there would be no iota of feelings. Will you go and divorce?

In the scripture, Amnon had a strong feeling for Tamar. (2 Sam 13.) The feelings were so strong that he became sick and lean. He was so vexed with love, some other translation says he was fond of Tamar while some others say he was obsessed.

Pastor, you mean somebody can be very fond of me, thinking of me every time, and yet not be in love? The answer is Yes. Pastor, you mean somebody can be all over me, showering me with gifts, ready to “die” for me, cannot sleep without me, cannot do without calling me ten times in a day, and yet not be in love? The answer is Yes!

In the scripture, it says concerning Amnon:

“And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her.”  (2 Samuel 13:2, KJV)

Message Translation:

“Amnon was obsessed with his sister Tamar to the point of making himself sick over her. She was a virgin, so he couldn’t see how he could get his hands on her.”  (2 Samuel 13:2, MSG)

The feelings were so strong that his body began to collapse. That ought to be strong love, but sadly, it is not.

He calls me twenty times a day, it may not be love. She may be calling somebody else, thirty times a day as well. She spends weekends with me, it may not be love. She may be spending weekends with other guys as well. He gives me a lot of money. It may not be love, he may just see his money as a tool to get what he wants and when he doesn’t want it, he withdraws his money.

I can go on and on. Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

You would have concluded Amnon was so so much in love. 

But then he lied to his father and to Tamar. True love is sincere.

He ended up raping Tamar. True love protects, it does not violate!

He forces and uses scripture to manipulate you into sleeping with him and he says he is in love? He is not only lying, he is lying in state!

But Pastor, he is truthful. He told me that I am not the only one he is sleeping with and that I am the only one he would marry! Then what are you doing in that kind of relationship where you are being told with audacity and effrontery such sexual atrocities? How did you get yourself into that place?

Amon, after raping Tamar and getting what he wanted, sent her out of his door and the scripture says something very powerful:

“Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.”  (2 Samuel 13:15, KJV)

In verse 2, he loved her to the point of obsession. In verse 15, he hated her exceedingly, after getting what he wanted. That is not love. It is spelled L-U-S-T!

There is a huge difference between love and feelings!

For married couples, one of the prayers you should keep praying is that God’s love is shed abroad in your hearts. You may wake up some of those days and feelings seem to have travelled, at such times, your love must still remain firm because you are in a covenant with your spouse. You should not feel before you love in marriage, you should love, feelings or no feelings! In marriage, love moves away from feeling completely to commitments!

Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

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50 Ways To Love One Another

50 Ways To Love One Another

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50 Ways To Love One Another. Pastor, what is this thing with 50 this, 50 that? Don’t mind me. It’s not easy to be 50, It can only be God. So bear with me on my idiosyncrasies in this season.

So our topic this morning is 50 Ways to love another, and this is for singles and married. I will write 25 today and conclude tomorrow.

Just before I go on, I want to appreciate you all for the calls, the messages, and the gifts on my birthday! God bless you massively. You will live long in Jesus’ name!

1. Love with sincerity. A major key in marriage.

2. Do all you can do to build trust. Broken trust breeds insecurities. 

3. Be creative in loving your loved one. Boredom can lead to exploring the forbidden.

4. Sex should be kept in the hood for singles while it should be on top of the table for couples. 

5. In Couples, the frequency of your intimacy in the bedroom shows how healthy the marriage is. 

6. Singles, love each other with prayers. Pray more than any other thing you will do in courtship 

7. Don’t stop the wooing process and the pursuit games. Continue that after the wedding and thank me later.

8. Singles, go after God with all your energy. God will be committed that you don’t get it wrong

9. God is committed till it is completed. So, don’t back out on God

10. Love is like a story, what type of character will you be?

11. Going to Cinemas is good, going for the supernatural should be pursued too.

12. Surprise each other every time. 

13. Don’t take each other for granted. Be sensitive to your needs.

14. You can’t bring selfishness into marriage. It won’t last

14. Seek to please each other after pleasing God and you will minimize offences.

15. Forgiveness is a decision. It has nothing to do with who is right or wrong

16. The most mature is the one that says sorry first 

17. The husband and wife actually get angry. One shows it, the other internalizes it. There is nothing like he doesn’t get angry. So apologize to one another.

18. In marriage, you are both right and wrong. It takes two to tango

19. Do not give sex to get love as singles. You never get the love, and he gets the sex.

20. Take everything to God in prayer rather than argue your eyes out.

21. Both of you have your weaknesses. One may show, while the other is subdued. But it is what it is

22. The devil hates you passionately. Don’t do Tik Tok on his terrain. Give him no space

23. Guys, you are her protector. Stop seeing her as a sex toy

24. Ladies, you are his helper, stop seeing him as ATM Machine

25. Read the Bible daily without fail. You will know how to love properly.

To be continued tomorrow.

Bible Reading
John 17

Confession
Lord, I love appropriately 

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Two Ways To Love Your Spouse

Two Ways To Love Your Spouse

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Two Ways To Love Your Spouse. Sally is in love. Butterflies are flying in her tummy, her heartbeat accelerating, and there are twinkle little stars on her face always! George is floating on Cloud 9. He is crazily in love with Sally. The mere sight of thinking about her would elicit goose pimples all over him. 

So, Sally and George are in love! How would they take care of each other? 

The Johnsons are married, and somehow the butterflies have decided to rest, the heartbeat is stable and the stars have hibernated. How do you take care of each other or probably rekindle this love?

Here are some ideas for singles and married couples.

Two Ways To Love Your Spouse
1. Communication

Stay in touch. Words are powerful; use them to your advantage. As singles, don’t let your courtship season be a memory of fights, quarrels, and arguments. Be mature with each other. Avoid being incommunicado.

Make it a rule; we must keep talking. That can be a powerful principle to live by as a married couple as well. The devil feasts on silence; assumptions will persist and complicate the issue because assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge.

What is a man looking for? Respect!
What is a lady looking for? Love!

If you learn to communicate this, there will be less tension!

Singles should however note that it is wrong to say you are showing respect while you are disobeying God’s injunctions! More aptly put, you are not showing respect to your fiance by cooperating with him when he asks for sex!

2. Spirituals

Oh, pastor, what has this got to do with being romantic? It’s got a lot to do! Somebody said, in order to be romantic, read the book of Romans! Lol…

Well, candidly, your spiritual life as single or married can determine the success of your relationship or marriage. 

There are two elements to your spiritual life: reading God’s word and praying to God. If you can make this regular and consistent, some order will come into your relationship/marriage.

As you read, you will come to understand God’s thoughts and plan for a good relationship or marriage. 

As you pray, God will give you ideas, resources, and energy to take your relationship/marriage to the next level. Here are Two Ways To Love Your Spouse

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have the wisdom of God to the needful

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will teach and instruct you in the way to go

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 
I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye (Psalms 32:8 KJV)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Discuss the issue of mentorship

BIBLE READING
John 10

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5 More Deepest Desires Of Your Babe

5 More Deepest Desires Of Your Babe

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5 More Deepest Desires Of Your Babe.

6. I need tender loving care (TLC)

Yes, believe it!

I might look like this super amazon of a lady that has everything figured out, but there is a little girl in me that wants to be tantalized!

She wants you to be caring!

She needs you to be tender. 

She doesn’t like it when you shout at her.

As singles in courtship, you must be careful that the TLC does not lead to bedroom! Keep the bed undefiled! 

7. I want a lover-boy, not a lecturer or sermonizer

When she is tinkering with her moods, she needs you to lovingly find out what is happening and not lecture or sermonize!

It is not a classroom or church. 

You are supposed to be a lover boy, not a lecturer or a pastor!

Sometimes, what your wife needs is just to know there is a husband who shows some understanding because she sometimes doesn’t even understand herself!

If you are still single and you have a lecturer or sermonizing lover, that is what will likely continue in the marriage. If it’s not something you like right now, it is in the order for you to go for counsel. Don’t walk down the aisle thinking all will just change overnight because you are now married. 

8. I need you to whisper in my ears and taunt me lovingly 

Your wife loves that a lot.

You just try it out. 

Most husbands are too serious about reading Bible all the time or doing some office work at home.

Office work should be left at the office.

Have some family time and some “wife” time.

It would improve a lot of things. 

Singles, no need to whisper anything, for now, you need more prayer whispers than ear whispers!

9. Concerning sex, make sure we both finish

This is strictly for married couples. Singles can just skip…lol

She doesn’t want to be abandoned along the mountaintop!

Sex for a man is a sure arrival.

For your wife, it is a gradual ascent, a mountain climbing, multi-orgasmic experience. 

This requires a lot of skill and patience on the part of the husband to take it slowly and guide his wife to arrive before him!

10. I need you to find out my love language and speak it

Every lady has a love language.

Find out what it is and your wife’s peculiarity and simply stick with that language. 

That way, you will be able to cultivate your love more effectively.

Singles, go ahead and do online tests to find what your love language is. It will stop all the language confusion at Babel of Tower and bring you into understanding one another as in the Pentecost experience. 

May your marriage be blessed.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I love my wife genuinely 

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, destroy every wrong spirit in our marriage 

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 
1Pe 5:7 (KJV)  Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Plan a surprise for your spouse / lover 

BIBLE READING
2 Peter, Jude

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