Happy weekend to you all. Today, we continue from where we stopped yesterday on letting go. If you missed yesterday’s article, you can catch up here
1. Recognize the tie.
It starts with honesty. You can’t break free from something you won’t admit exists. So what’s pulling your heart back? Is it how they made you feel? The what-could-have-beens? The fear of having to start over?
Being honest about it isn’t weakness; it’s clarity. And that clarity is where healing begins.
“Search me, God, and know my heart… see if there’s any offensive way in me.” – Psalm 139:23–24
2. Ask God to break that bond.
Emotional ties can feel spiritual, and sometimes they are. But even those deep connections can be severed when you bring them to God.
You might not feel ready, but you can still pray:
“Lord, I know this isn’t healthy for me. Help me to let it go.” Let God handle what you can’t. Nothing is too small or too complicated for Him to heal.
“So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” – John 8:36
3. Fill up that space you’ll be leaving behind.
Letting go creates a void—emotionally and sometimes spiritually. And that void wants to be filled. If you don’t intentionally fill that void with truth, purpose, and God’s presence, something else will take over—old habits or new distractions.
Stay close to God. Read the Bible. Talk to someone you trust. Serve God in your local Church and stay committed . The goal isn’t just to “move on”—it’s to become whole again.
“When an impure spirit leaves… it comes back to find the house empty…” – Matthew 12:43–45 (paraphrased)
4. Don’t forget to forgive.
Forgive the other person—even if you never got closure. Forgive yourself for ignoring the signs, for hanging on too long, or for giving your heart away too easily.
And if you’ve been quietly frustrated with God, let that go too. It’s perfectly okay to feel disappointed or confused; just bring those feelings into the light. God can handle it.
Forgiveness isn’t about excusing what happened; it’s about freeing your soul to heal.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
5. And finally, stay surrendered.
Healing isn’t just a one-off event; it’s often a daily choice.
Even after you let go, the memories might stick around. The emotions might pop back up. But that doesn’t mean you’re not healing—it just means you have to keep surrendering.
Ask God daily for the grace to trust His plan and resist the urge to go back to what you’ve already released.
Let your healing go deeper than your need for answers. Let your wholeness mean more than your desire for control.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart… and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5–6
In conclusion
It’s okay to mourn the loss. It’s okay to miss what could’ve been. But don’t be stuck there forever.
God has more in store for you—not just another person, but peace, clarity, and a kind of love that doesn’t come with confusion. Letting go isn’t the end; sometimes, it’s the kindest thing you can do for yourself and your future.
Have you ever been wounded so deeply that the very thought of forgiving felt impossible? The betrayal was sharp, the pain undeniable, and in that moment, it seemed more justifiable to protect your heart than to release the offender.
Unforgiveness is a prison, and you are the one locked inside. Holding on to offense doesn’t punish the other person; it poisons your peace. In every meaningful relationship, romantic or otherwise, conflict is inevitable. But what separates brokenness from breakthrough is one divine gift: forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not saying, “You were right.” It is declaring, “I refuse to let your wrong define my heart.” It’s choosing peace over pain and refusing to let bitterness take root where love once bloomed. Jesus modeled this powerfully.
In His greatest moment of agony, hanging on the cross, betrayed by the very people He came to save, He whispered a prayer that echoes through eternity: “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34). That wasn’t just an act of mercy, it was a blueprint for us to follow.
Scripture makes it clear: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matthew 6:14). To walk in intimacy with God, we must walk in forgiveness with others because when we release others, we free ourselves.
Bitterness is a burden that weighs down the soul. It steals your sleep, robs your joy, and numbs your capacity to love. But forgiveness? Forgiveness is freedom. It heals wounds and restores what the enemy tried to destroy.
I’ve witnessed it, couples on the brink of separation who found fresh intimacy because one person chose to forgive, singles who found peace and clarity after finally releasing an old hurt. Forgiveness doesn’t erase the past, but it gives you power over it.
So I ask you, dear reader: what if your healing and restoration, your next season, your answered prayer, is waiting on the other side of your forgiveness?
Say it aloud today, even through tears: “I forgive. I release. I let go.” Not by your own might, but by His grace (Zechariah 4:6).
Let the Great Healer mend what was broken. He still restores hearts. He still brings beauty from ashes (Isaiah 61:3).
You will smile again. You will love again. And when you do, it will be deeper, stronger, and sweeter because forgiveness made room for the miracle.
We are in a world that constantly pushes us to prove ourselves. Whether it is stepping into a new role at work and silently battling imposter syndrome, or trying to serve in ministry while feeling unqualified and spiritually unworthy. Sometimes, it shows up in our relationships—we question if we are lovable, if we bring value, if we are too much or not enough for the people around us, or those moments where you are trusted with responsibility, but deep down, you wonder if God picked the wrong person. So it’s very easy for us to sometimes feel that we are inadequate or unworthy. But God sees beyond our fears and doubts. He reminds us that our worth, our strength, and our ability do not come from ourselves but rather from Him.
“Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think anything as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God; who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament…” 2 Corinthians 3:5–6 (KJV)
The Bible reminds us that our sufficiency does not come from us; it comes from God. Paul, who preached to nations and wrote much of the New Testament, said clearly:
“Not that we are sufficient of ourselves… but our sufficiency is of God.” (2 Corinthians 3:5).
This means that you do not have to be naturally gifted to be used by God. You do not need all the answers before you obey. You do not have to feel ready to be called.
Just like Moses, who said, “O my Lord, I am not eloquent… I am slow of speech” (Exodus 4:10), or Jeremiah, who cried, “Ah, Lord GOD! behold, I cannot speak: for I am a child” (Jeremiah 1:6) or Gideon who said “My clan is the weakest… and I am the least.” (Judges 6:15–16)
Gideon was also hiding when God called him a “mighty warrior.” He saw himself as small, but God saw His potential. God told him, “Surely I will be with you.”
In God’s eyes, Gideon’s weakness was the perfect platform for victory. God is not limited by your weakness. He chooses the weak to show His strength because he knows you are more than enough.
How, then, do you overcome inadequacy starts? Here are 4 truths to consider:
1. Acknowledge the feeling, but anchor in Scripture.
Feelings are real, but they are not always right. When you feel like you are not enough, declare:
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)
2. Remember that God equips the called.
If He gave you the assignment, He will provide the ability.
“Faithful is He that calleth you, who also will do it.” (1 Thessalonians 5:24)
3. Walk by the Spirit, not by pressure.
“The letter killeth, but the Spirit giveth life.” (2 Corinthians 3:6)
4. Do not live driven by external expectations.
Live led by God’s Spirit. Trust His strength, not your own. Your weakness is not a limitation—it is a platform for God’s power.
“My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
Conclusion:
God is not looking for those who feel ready, He is looking for those who are willing. When you show up in obedience, He shows up in power. So yes, you may feel like you are not enough—but God is more than enough. Let the same God who empowered Moses, Gideon, and so many others empower you, for your sufficiency is not in yourself but in Christ.
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop, replaying memories of past relationships, mistakes, or regrets? Whether single or married, it’s easy to cling to what once was. Sometimes, the past feels safer because it’s familiar, even if it’s painful. However, the Bible encourages us not to dwell on what’s behind. God is constantly working to create something new in our lives.
For singles, it’s tempting to romanticize past relationships, especially when loneliness creeps in. You might think, ‘Maybe it wasn’t so bad,’ or ‘I could have tried harder.’ But remember, God removed certain people from your life for a reason. Holding on to past love stories only hinders the beautiful story God wants to write for you now.
For those who are married, past mistakes or old relationships can linger in your thoughts, threatening the bond you share with your spouse. Comparing your present partner with someone from your past only sows seeds of discontent. Instead, focus on nurturing the relationship God has blessed you with.
Why do we often find comfort in revisiting old memories? Sometimes it’s fear of the unknown or reluctance to let go. But God calls us to trust Him with our future and believe that what lies ahead is far greater than what’s left behind.
Lord, help me to let go of my past and trust You with my present and future. Whether single or married, grant me the strength to embrace the new things you are doing in my life. Free me from the chains of nostalgia and regrets, and help me move forward with a heart full of faith. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Don’t give your past the power to sabotage your future. Choose to move forward, knowing that God has something better ahead.”
Sarah, the wife of Abraham, had passed away. She had been his companion for many years through every journey, every promise, every joy, and heartache. And Abraham did what anyone would do after losing someone they love deeply: he wept. He didn’t avoid his grief. He sat in it, felt it, and honored her with his tears.
Genesis 23:2-3 – “And Sarah died in Kirjatharba; the same is Hebron in the land of Canaan: and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah, and to weep for her. And Abraham stood up from before his dead, and spake unto the sons of Heth…”
But then, he stood up.
Not because the sorrow disappeared, or because he stopped loving her, but because life was still moving forward. There were things to be done, and a future that still held God’s promises.
And Abraham stood up from before his dead These words are a reminder that grief is real and necessary, but so is rising again. Many of us have sat too long beside the memories of what we’ve lost, whether it’s a person, a dream, or a part of ourselves.
Just like the bible says, there’s a time to mourn, and there’s also a time to rise.
Getting up doesn’t mean forgetting. It means choosing not to stay stuck. It means believing that God’s plan for your life isn’t over, even when it feels like something important is gone.
Maybe your “Sarah” was a relationship, a job, a chapter of life, a contract, or a version of yourself you miss. Whatever it is, know this: you can grieve, and you can also move forward.
