Seven Tests To Pass Before You Say I DO

Seven Tests To Pass Before You Say I DO

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I know that there are no perfect persons and we are all projects in the hands of God, however, there are basic traits to watch out for generally. While you may not be able to find a person that successfully combines all these, the qualities should guide you in your decision. If a person does not have character defects and does not live in habitual sin, some of these qualities can be improved upon by asking God for His grace.

1. The Test Of Integrity.

Test him for faithfulness and integrity in little and big things. Make sure she has integrity and her words and actions line up. Integrity is very important because that is what will eventually preserve you.

The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them. -Proverbs 11:3 (KJV)

God loves integrity. In Job 2:3, God boasted about Job and he mentioned his integrity. Integrity in that verse means ‘innocence.’

The potential guy or the lady must have integrity as well. It is a great legacy to pass to the children. Integrity is from the word ‘Integral” meaning one. You are supposed to be the same person within and without.

Don’t marry a gentle saint on Sundays but a vicious man on Mondays. Be careful of dual personalities who seem to give their lives to Jesus one moment and then take the life back the next moment. How will you know all these? These are the things you will find out when you are friends. 

That is why pre-marital sex should be avoided because it will get you confused and distracted. You see, the moment you are illegally bonded together in pre-marital sex, the obvious character defects that others can see will mean nothing to you.

They will ask you questions like, “What are you doing with that kind of person?” And you will be like; ‘leave me alone, I love him, he will change!’

You see, you have not even changed yourself! You are not the Holy Spirit who changes people! What the scripture says is that you should not be unequally yoked!

Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? -2Corintians 6:14-15 (MSG)  

2.   The Test Of Diligence.  

You cannot afford to marry a lazy man or an indolent woman. It will slow your journey down. Diligence is measured with so many indices like tenacity, business acumen, career pursuit, doggedness, and so on. You may not have so much today, but with diligence in a potential spouse, you can be sure you will be great in life.

Do you see a man diligent and skillful in his business? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men. -Proverbs 22:29 (AMP)

You cannot afford to commit your life to the hands of a lazy person. That is subjecting your life to unnecessary afflictions that could have been avoided. 

To be continued…

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have the Spirit of wisdom to discern and choose that which is good for my destiny.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Holy Spirit, fill me afresh with your wisdom in the affairs of my relationship.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry put you further behind. – Proverbs 21:5 (MSG)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Commit your ways unto the Lord

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2King 12




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Questions You Need To Ask Him Before Saying Yes – Part 4

Questions You Need To Ask Him Before Saying Yes – Part 4

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Are you still following the series? These questions are necessary to ask before you conclude that you’ve met your soul mate.

7. Habits

What are his habits? Be specific and ask directly.

Do you drink?

Do you smoke?

Do you club?

If the answer to the above is in the affirmative, you obviously are not on the same page.

Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?

2Co 6:14 (MSG) 

There is nothing to pray about, there is no need to pray that God would change him for you because nothing can happen until he makes up his mind.

If he says no, he doesn’t do all of these and then you discover later, run for your dear life.

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Run because he has the capacity to be untruthful. Insincerity and adultery are cousins! They hang out together.

If he says, yes, but he would change later after the wedding, he is unlikely to change! Marriage is not a change agent.

Also, be careful of those who want to change because of you, not because they feel it is wrong. They would go back there later!

Also, be careful of people who say you should change them. You cannot change anybody. You are not the Holy Spirit.

8. Sexual Compromise

What is his disposition to sex before marriage?

If he believes there is nothing wrong with it, he is more or less telling you that he would defile you before the wedding day. He is already telling you that he would put pressure.

Nothing is as frustrating as loving a man that doesn’t love God. Nothing is as agonizing as to have given your heart to a man who has not given his heart to God.

To be Continued…

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will marry rightly.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to ask the right questions.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Isaiah 30:21 [KJV] And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Ask the right questions.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Micah 2




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Giving Is A Great Habit For You

Giving Is A Great Habit For You

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Do you know that giving is a great habit? And God has given you a pattern of how to give. According to the bible, God gave His only son, Jesus, to die for your sins.

God loved the world this way: He gave his only Son so that everyone who believes in him will not die but will have eternal life. John 3:16 GW

Jesus did so too through His actions, to show us that giving is a great habit. Look at how He fed the thousands of people while teaching them about the kingdom of God.

Then he took the five loaves and the two fish, looked up to heaven, and blessed the food. He broke the loaves apart and kept giving them to the disciples to give to the crowd. Luke 9:16 GW

Giving is a great habit. It’s a habit you show that makes people know that you are truly a child of God. If God can allow Jesus to swap places with you, why won’t you forgive that person that hurt you? If Jesus can pray to God to bless the food to feed the people, why won’t you pray for a friend who has a need?

You can give your things, time, prayers and even a smile. As long as your gift makes their situations better.

Developing giving as a habit reflects to others that you have God’s spirit working in you. As you start little by little, it becomes a part of you. And as you grow older, you become a person that gives. That way you have formed the habit of giving.

May the Lord bless you more and more as you give to other people. Amen.

Prayer:
Lord, thank you for showing me that giving is a great habit, and for showing me how to give. Help me to give cheerfully, with love and respect for those I give to. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Action point:
Remember to give with joy in your heart. And to show respect to the people you give to.

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Some Great Habits For You As Children

Some Great Habits For You As Children

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In this series, we would be looking at some great habits children should pick up that will greatly advance them in life.

What shall we say [to all this]? Should we continue in sin and practice sin as a habit so that [god’s gift of] grace may increase and overflow?

Romans 6:1 AMP

What’s a Habit? A habit can be defined to be a set of actions we do regularly, especially if it’s for a long time and quite hard to give up. There are some great habits and there are some bad habits. Let’s take a peep into your life: What are the things you do regularly that you have been doing for a long time and is very hard for you to give up? Can you mention them? Now are these things good or bad?

So habits can be good or bad. It depends on what you are doing. Do you lie a lot? It’s because you probably have spent a long time doing so. Do you smile when you greet others or just pass by without a hello or hi? Is it what you have been used to doing? These are not some great habits you know.

They say it takes 5 days to form a habit and 21 days to break it. So, you can learn to be a bully within 5 days and spend 21 days to try and stop being a bully. You see that it easier to get on some great habits in your life than to break bad ones?

But the thing about habits is that, most people don’t complete that 21 days cycle. There’s the tendency to revert to the old habit. It’s just so hard to do.

Imagine if you always read your bible daily at a particular time of the day? That’s a habit you have formed. And it has been a part of you and will be quite difficult for you to stop doing. There you have it! You can form some great habits.

In this series, we will be looking at some wonderful habits you should form as a child of God. And why you should.

God bless you. Amen.

Prayer:
Lord, help me to form some great habits in Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

Action point:
Can you make a list of all your habits. Which ones do you want to keep and which do you want to stop?

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How To Confront Addictions And Bad Habits

How To Confront Addictions And Bad Habits

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We live in a world where negative things are so rampant that they are all over the place. We pick habits here and there largely from the environment and from friends. Some of these habits are unhealthy for us in many ways. This may include drinking, smoking, sleeping around, gambling, masturbation, pornography, and so on.

When you have an issue you are dealing with, there are steps to take to overcome them and we are going to be looking at these steps this morning in a general sense. Whatever situation you find yourself in and whatever issues you are dealing with, there are always ways to overcome them.

In the scriptures, God has not left us helpless. He has designed ways out for us in any mess or situation we find ourselves in. In fact, He has wrought victory for us in every area of our lives.

The strategy of the devil is to take advantage of our ignorance. When you are not filled with God’s word, you will not be able to walk in the fullness of the victory that God has wrought for us.

The word of God strengthens. The word of God equips. The word of God sets free. Sin is not supposed to have dominion over us again. We have been made free! For example, many believers are still under the influence of habitual sins. May still drink. Many still masturbate. These habitual sins may be prevalent, but they are not supposed to be the norm.

Why is it important to confront habitual sins? You have to work at stopping habitual sins so that you can grow in God, enjoy the fullness of His blessings, and fulfill your ministry.

Here are ten general steps you can take to deal with any habitual sin in your life.

1. Be honest with God

This is the first step. You have to be sincere with God. You have to come clean for God to help you. Never try to deceive God. He knows all things and He sees all things. But God wants accountability. That was why He asked Adam, “Where art thou?” The scriptures says, “Be not deceived, God is not mocked…” So when you go before God, be truthful. Before Jacob’s name was changed from a deceiver to a Prince, he was asked, “What is thy name?” and He had to answer truthfully.

2. Nail down a stake

A stake is used to identify an important spot or the beginning of a journey. Decide before God to put a stop to it. The scripture says sin shall not have dominion over you. Make up your mind and ask God to help you. Don’t just continue living hopelessly and helplessly.

3. Connect with God’s power

You will need God’s power. There are habits you cannot overcome in your own strength. God never designed you to overcome them in your own strength or wisdom. As a believer, you have been configured to survive with the help of the Holy Spirit. Connect with that power and walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

I will stop here for today and continue tomorrow by showing us more ways to confront addictions.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am helped by God to confront addictions.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, give me the strength to confront any known addiction in my life

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Job 31:1 KJV I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Decide to stop all forms of compromise and confront addictions slowing you down

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
1 Tim 5




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