Have you ever felt so sure about something, like deep down, you just knew it was right, and you had that roof-lifting assurance… only for it to turn out completely wrong? I mean wrong, the kind that leaves you in a mess you never saw coming?
Yup, that’s exactly what David meant when he wrote, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” (Proverbs 14:12)
Take it from a king who was also a prophet. David fought countless battles, led a nation, wrote songs inspired by the Holy Spirit, and even prophesied about Jesus in the Psalms. If anyone seemed to have things figured out, it was him. Yet, he still messed up—big time.
This tells us something:
It speaks to the fallibility of man, the fickleness of our desires, and the limits of our knowledge.
If you haven’t realized it yet, you can’t figure out life all by yourself.
As you journey through adulthood, you’ve probably already seen that life isn’t always rosy, and the systems of this world aren’t exactly set up for you to win.
So, how do you expect to navigate life-altering decisions—like choosing a life partner, accepting a job offer, or even deciding where to live—on your own? Especially knowing that you can feel 100% sure right now, and then find out you were completely wrong the next moment?
Why not just hand it all over to God—the One who knows the end from the beginning?
The God who formed you, who understands your path better than you ever could, and who gave you the very life you’re trying to figure out.
Let Him lead. Trust His wisdom above your feelings. You’ll save yourself from a lot of unnecessary heartache.
When you surrender your choices to God, you’re not giving up control—you’re gaining divine direction.
You’re partnering with the One who sees beyond time, who knows where each road leads, and who is deeply invested in your success and wholeness.
Don’t just pray for God to bless your plans—ask Him what the plan should be.
Invite Him into your decision-making. Wait for His peace. Lean into His Word. Surround yourself with godly counsel. And when He speaks, trust that He knows better—even when it doesn’t make immediate sense.
Because life becomes a lot more peaceful and purposeful when you let the all-knowing take the lead by trusting God.
These tips are applicable not only in the context of relationships and marriage but also in business, careers, and everyday life.
1. Pray First, Not Last
Many people decide who they want and then ask God for God’s blessings. They get emotionally attached first, then pray later, hoping for a divine confirmation that matches their feelings.
When your heart is deeply invested, it’s hard to hear God clearly. Instead of seeking God’s will, you start convincing yourself that what you want is what He wants. At that point, it’s easy to mistake His permissive will (what He allows because of your insistence) for His perfect will (what He truly desires for you).
That’s why discernment begins before emotions get involved. Instead of saying, “God, I really like this person; please make it work,” the prayer should be, “Lord, is this your best for me? Show me what I can’t see.”
God is not silent; He will give you an answer, but God won’t force His will on you. If you truly want His best, seek Him first, not after your heart is already entangled. A relationship led by emotions alone may feel right at the moment, but only God’s perfect will brings lasting peace and purpose.
2. Don’t Ignore Red Flags
Love isn’t meant to blind you. If you notice things like dishonesty, emotional instability, lack of accountability, or controlling behavior, don’t overlook them. What seems small now will only grow bigger in marriage. God’s best will never require you to ignore important issues just to “make it work.”
“The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.” (Proverbs 22:3)
3. Listen to Wise Counsel
Sometimes, the people around us can see things we’re too emotionally invested to notice. If your trusted, godly friends, mentors, or family members have serious concerns about your relationship, don’t dismiss them. God often uses wise counsel to confirm His direction.
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14)
4. Give It Time
If something is truly from God, time will reveal it. You don’t have to force, chase, or manipulate anything. Patience allows you to observe a person’s true character and consistency before making a lifelong commitment. If it’s right, time will only make it clearer.
“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.” (Psalm 37:7)
One of the hardest things is waiting when you feel ready for love. But remember, God’s best is worth the wait. Instead of settling for what’s available, trust that He knows what you need and when you need it. A rushed decision may bring short-term happiness, but God’s best brings long-term fulfillment.
How do you know who is truly right for you? With so many voices from family, friends, culture, and even your own emotions, it can be hard to tell the difference between a good option and God’s best. The truth is, not every good person is God’s person for you.
Someone can check all the boxes on paper, but they still may not be the right fit for your purpose. That’s why discernment is so important. It’s not just about what you want, it’s about seeking God’s wisdom and letting Him guide your heart.
What a Relationship from God looks like:
1. It Aligns with God’s Word
God will never bring someone into your life who pulls you away from Him. If a relationship is leading you to compromise your faith, walk in disobedience, or put someone else before God, then it’s not His best. A godly relationship should strengthen your faith, not weaken it.
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
2. It Brings Peace, Not Confusion
You may not have all the answers when something is from God, but you will have peace. This doesn’t mean the relationship will be perfect, but it won’t leave you in constant anxiety or emotional chaos.
“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” (1 Corinthians 14:33)
3. It’s Rooted in Purpose, Not Just Feelings
Being attracted to your partner is great, but that isn’t enough to sustain a godly relationship. God’s best for you is someone who aligns with your purpose and encourages your growth. A person can be kind, loving, and even a Christian, but if they don’t align with what God has called you to do, they may not be the one.
“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3)
