From Letters to DMs: 3 Ways Old School Romance Differs from Gen Z Love

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Dec 19, 2024 | Singles and Married

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Things have rapidly changed over time. The Gen Zs and Millenials will laugh at how we used to do this love thing, while old-school folk will find it ridiculous how Gen Zs do things in their attempt to love.

Here are a few differences.

1. Asking a lady out was done face to face. There were no mobile phones. A few would write letters starting with “Doxology to you”

Today, Gen Zs can do all these using the popular “WhatsApp chats”

This makes the whole love thing playful, and yes, that is what it has become.

2. We used to go before the Lord to seek His face concerning who to marry! Often, with fasting, patience, and waiting on God to give a definite instruction.

Today, people mostly simply choose who they want and then pray to God to approve their choice. People decide who they want by simply checking social media profiles and drawing conclusions from there.

I believe strongly that God wants to lead us and guide us and has preferences for us. We can find this in the place of prayer and seeking His face.

Most people have been married under the permissive will of God. When people insist on who they want before God, they mostly always end in His permissive will. However, the ultimate plan of God is that we get married under the perfect will of God.

3. Fornication was an action that was treated as a sin and with stiff penalties and punishments for those who could not zip their trouser.

Today, the word “fornication” is becoming too blunt and is being replaced with “getting to know one another.”
Today, people use “sex” to greet one another and entertain each other. Sin has been normalized and democratized.

However, God’s word remains the same. His standards and his laws haven’t changed a bit.

Act 17:30 (KJV) And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent:

I will conclude with the Message Translation:

Act 17:30-31 (MSG): “God overlooks it as long as you don’t know any better—but that time is past. The unknown is now known, and he’s calling for a radical life-change. [31] He has set a day when the entire human race will be judged and everything set right. And he has already appointed the judge, confirming him before everyone by raising him from the dead.”

May God grant you more understanding.