It really doesn’t have to be expensive if you are not buoyant, but you should trust God for constant supplies.
There is a large part of the brain that is dedicated to shiny things in ladies.
In men, it is gadgets, anything that looks like a box, phones, cars, sound systems and so on. But in women, it is anything shiny, shoes, bags, jewelries and the likes.
If you don’t agree, buy her one and see how she will grin from ear to ear.
4. Give her time and attention
Hear what she is saying and what she is not saying.
Do not allow communication to die.
Keep talking no matter what.
If you are not in the same city, make sure you contact each other daily unless you are working in a medieval forest where there are no communication networks.
Otherwise, you have no excuse that you are so “busy” and you cannot call.
I really will not agree that a man can be so busy and cannot steal out five minutes out of twenty-four hours to be in touch with the one he professes to love.
If he forgets to call from time to time, it is either he loves another wherever he is or he is deliberately developing cold feet towards the relationship.
If a man loves you, his heart will be with you and he will stay in touch no matter what.
If he has not called you in three weeks, you are the only one in love, he is not.
It can really be painful to be in love with one who is not in love with you. It is a time waster and you should not waste your time on such.
So, time and attention are very important to a man.
I pray that God will grant you more wisdom on this topic in Jesus name!
A shout to all our partners, God will continue to honor you in Jesus name! Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My lover is very happy with me. I do things that please him/her.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, teach me how to make my partner happy.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Corinthians 10:12 For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Tell him/her how much you love them
So yesterday, we looked at how to increase our love walk with each other as couples. I felt we addressed the spiritual aspect more and some people could be asking for something more practical and easy to relate to. At least, not everybody is a pastor.
More practical ways to show or increase in our love walk as couples.
6. Give undivided attention to your spouse
It is disheartening when as couples your spouse gives you little or no attention at all. You feel you don’t matter and your person is not relevant to your spouses’ life. You feel they can do without you and your input doesn’t count.
This is not a good feeling and must be avoided, if your marriage must work. Learn to give your spouse your undivided attention. The best way to do this, is by listening to what they have to say and looking at them eye ball to eye ball.
7. Take time to recreate together.
My husband is a very busy man and I’m grateful to God for his multidimensional ability in painstakingly using his initiative at his work. It is translating to food on the table. Despite his busyness, he still finds time daily to play and make us laugh.
When you are with someone you love, you should make the atmosphere lively and environment conducive to laugh.
Play, joke, make jests, tell stories that touch the hearts (lol), play games together, etc. Just find something to do together.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I give undivided attention to my spouse
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Pray for a closer bonding with your spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out time to bond wit your spouse
We startedyesterday talking about how important it is for you to speak your wife’s language. I also stated that language here means your wife’s love language.
If you didn’t read yesterday’s post, I will implore you to go ahead and read it.
There are five basic love languages which are:
1. Words of affirmation 2. Quality time and Attention 3. Service 4. Gifts 5. Physical Touch
We have looked at Words of affirmation. Let’s continue from where I stopped yesterday.
2. Quality time and Attention It is good to know that basically, it is the responsibility of the husband to learn his wife’s love language. It is God’s order in a marriage that the husband loves his wife while the wife respects and honors her husband.
It is not a case of “my wife is too demanding, she always wants me to speak her love language while she doesn’t attempt to speak mine.” Husbands must concentrate on loving your wife.
Quality time as it suggests means spending quality time with her. Here, quality time could mean different things to different women. To some, it could mean spending time with her when she is in the kitchen cooking, it could mean going on vacation together, having weekend trips, going to the movies, shopping, just spend time with her.
It means you are spending time and giving her attention. You let her know your plans, your whereabouts, investments, meetings, friends, and everything. You don’t keep secrets.
Your wife may be crying for your attention and you are busy working yourself out to stupor trying to provide for the family. She will not sense your love until you slow down and spend some time with her.
If you are a busy husband, schedule time consciously to be together. We had to plan that into our marriage. Call it me and you time. Let nothing interrupt this time. You may need to switch off your phone or do a get-away for two.
It doesn’t have to be expensive or far. If the children are still young, find a friend’s place you can keep them for a few hours to just go. Your wife will appreciate you more for your effort.
Many quarrels go on in marriage because we don’t know where to focus our resources and energy. Once you discover your wife’s love language, go ahead and start speaking it and improve on speaking it.
Your wife may be throwing tantrums just because she doesn’t feel your love. She feels your love when you speak her love language. She will adore you and respect you the moment she can sense your love.
Try and pay attention to her and seek to find out her love language. What does your wife complain about all the time? It is a clue to what her love language is. You may have to try different things before you finally discover which one it is.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have wisdom for my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “In the same way you married men should live considerately with [ your wives ], with an intelligent recognition [ of the marriage relation ], honoring the woman as [ physically ] the weaker, but [ realizing that you ] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [ Otherwise you cannot pray effectively. ]” (1Pe 3:7, AMP)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Find out what her love language is