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How To Speak Your Wife’s Language – Part 3

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | Jul 30, 2021 | Couples

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I am devoting a lot of time on these love languages because it is a key element in having a fulfilling marriage. Once you understand your spouse’s love language and the God factor is involved in your marriage, at least, a large percentage of understanding yourselves and loving yourselves is guaranteed.

When you understand your wife’s love language and endeavor to speak it, half of the marital issues are solved.

When you love your wife the way she wants to be loved, you will see a new radiance on her. Then she will blossom, she will be more responsive, more cooperative and supportive. She will have more energy and her creative juice will be more alive.

She will be happy and the home will be more calm and peaceful. Your wife will be that joyful wife you have always dreamt she will be. There will be unity among you and you will be able to fulfill God’s mandate of one chasing one hundred and two of you chasing ten thousand.

The 5 love languages are:

Words of affirmation
Quality time and Attention
Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical touch

Let’s look at another love language today.

3. Acts of Service
This is a beautiful way of showing that you care and love your wife. But don’t try to speak this love language if this is not your wife’s love language. A wife may get irritated at your wanting to help her do her “duties”.

A wife may frown at the idea of her husband coming to the kitchen or cooking dinner. She may even put up a fight, saying that her husband thinks she is a lazy brat that cannot cook. She may even say her husband thinks her food is not sweet.

Any woman that feels that way, definitely her love language is not acts of service or maybe she prefers the acts of service in another way. You will know it is your wife’s love language when she demands that you help her do stuffs.

She will always call on you to help her do things, unlike the wife who has all the energy and will do everything so that even if you want to help, there is nothing to help with.

You communicate love to a wife whose love language is acts of service by doing things for her. You help her with dishes, the kids, laundry, throwing the trash, cleaning the house, cooking, packing her clothes and everything that she needs help for.

Here, the husband must enjoy helping her before she can sense love. If you are too busy, you have to employ people that can help her out. In her frustration, she may cry out that she is slaving herself for you.

Some wives are satisfied when you do things for them. They don’t even want gifts as such. Once you are doing things for her, she’s okay.

God bless your marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am becoming a loving husband

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father, teach me to understand my wife.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:25-26 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Pay attention to loving your wife

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Amos 6- 9