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We are continuing on our series, how married couples should handle stress in their marriage. We are looking at different stressors, especially those that are self-induced, and how to handle them.

We have looked at the following:

1. Financial pressure

2. Dealing with in-laws

3. Comparison traps

4. Doing beyond ourselves

5. Not minding our own business

6. Not being able to say No.

And today,

7. Being unforgiving to our spouse.

One of the most important ingredients in having a happy marriage is when couples forgive each other quickly.

The bible is so clear on the issue of forgiveness and also tells us he dangers of unforgiveness.

Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32 NLT

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Colossians 3:13 NLT

When you release an offence you open the prison doors. Unforgiveness puts us in a prison that puts stress in our marriages

To err is human and to forgive is divine. When we forgive our spouse, we invite divinity and all that heaven has to offer. We invite peace, joy, and prosperity.

When we allow unforgiveness, no matter how grievous the offense, we give place to the devil and all that is associated to him.

If anyone is walking in unforgiveness, I urge us to please forgive. Let go and let God. God is not just asking us to close our eyes to the offense, he is asking us to give Him the pain and hurt of the offenses

He says vengeance belongs to Him.

Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Romans 12:19 KJV

God wants to work our vengeance for us in a most beautiful way. He want to compensate us. Most of the time when we avenge ourselves, we don’t compensate the hurt. That’s what God wants to do.

The issue of forgiveness is so big that we can either ruin our lives and lives of our children by not forgiving our spouse.

Families that were once cordial have been separated by the spirit of unforgiveness. Couples who were once loving have been set apart through unforgiveness. Children have become victims of their parent’s unforgiveness.

I understand that it is very tough when your spouse does such grievous and demeaning things. Yet we must let God be true and every man a liar.

Forgive and see the unbelievable release of God’s power towards your marriage. It is almost like magic. It is a miracle.

God comes to defend you in ways you could never have imagined. Favor works for you, you enjoy peace, health, prosperity and the likes.

I will stop here today and continue on this topic of handling stress in marriage tomorrow by God’s grace.

May God grant us the spirit of forgiveness to all that has offended us in Jesus name.

God bless your marriage

I am a wise spouse. I know how to relate to people.

Lord, give me wisdom

1 Peter  3:7  Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Forgive where necessary

Rom 12


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