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How do you even recognize a good man? It’s a million dollar question!

The Holy Writ even asks the question;

but a faithful man who can find?

Pro 20:6b (KJV)

The scripture seems to portend the idea that it’s difficult to find a good man.

This morning, we will attempt to identify a good man through just one quality. This quality is something you should not trade anything for.

Let’s take a look at another verse.

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

1Pe 3:7 (KJV)

This guy who is interested in you and you are considering for marriage, Can you say he honors you?

‘Oh well, the way he is now, he is not perfect, but I know he will honor me eventually.”

Hey! If he doesn’t honor you now, chances are that same treatment will continue or even get worse. Marriage hardly changes anybody.

His behavior and attitudes now are trailers of the actual movie waiting for you and that movie is long, with several seasons in it! The only way to ensure it’s not a horror filled movie is to be led by God and to open your eyes very well.

 How do you know if a man honors you?

It means to have high respect or great esteem for someone.

If he is sleeping with you through coercion or any form of manipulation, there is no honour there.

If he tells you that you are just one of his numerous girlfriends, there is no honour there.

If he lifts his hand against you, over and over again, only to apologise later, there is no honour there.

Does he delight in you in a genuine way and not because he is going to get some sexual gratification?

Another translation says:

Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding.

Is he understanding? Does he have you in mind? Does he allow you to talk or he shuts you down till your default mode is mute?

Lastly, another translation says:

If you are a husband, you should be thoughtful of your wife.

Is he thoughtful? Is he sensitive to your needs or he feels you are too demanding?

These are pertinent questions to consider carefully.

I pray that God will guide you indeed as you make this all important decision.

The Lord is leading me to a good man

Lord, open my eyes

1 Pet 3:7 (NLT)In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

Look out for the word ‘honor’ in your relationship

1 Pet 3


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