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Sally is caught in a cross-fire. She really wanted to submit to her husband, but then some of the things her boo wanted her to do clearly contradicts the scriptures. What should she do? Cooperate with her boo and risk losing God’s favour or hold unto God while her love life collapses and her homes boils?

Even in courtship, the lady is often caught in between pleasing him and pleasing Him!

Let’s take a look at the scriptures.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. – Ephesians 5:22 (KJV)

So we see clearly and succinctly here that a wife is supposed to submit to her husband. It never says that a lady should submit to her own fiancé!

So, when he says you must come over and spend weekends, you don’t have to obey and end up jeopardizing your relationship with God in your bid to “submit’

I am saying in essence that in a dating or courtship situation, you are to absolutely follow God and not man!

If whatever your fiancé wants done is as unto the Lord, there wouldn’t be any problem there. You should gladly submit, even if you are not married yet.

But when it clearly violates your conscience, makes you feel guilty, makes you cry and dissipates God’s anointing in your life, you are to leave that guy alone before he wrecks your destiny.

Now, let’s see some examples here.

He asks you to send your nude pictures or else he would end the relationship. Something is not quite right.

There is some level of perversion that is being shown there. There is some traits of a compromised heart coming up there.

In this case, let your “No’ be emphatic and clear. If he walks away because of that, let him walk, he is not your husband.

If you do it and listen to him, this is not submission in any way, it is more of foolishness. If he is asking for nude before marriage, what will he ask for if he ever gets to marry you?

If you go ahead and do it in a bid to keep him, it shows your own depth of devotion to God. it shows that somewhere in your heart, you don’t really trust God.

If you do, you will never do anything that displeases God in other to please your boo. If you do such things, you just sowed a seed into that relationship and opened the door for the devil to afflict.

To be continued tomorrow…

I will not miss it in marriage.

Lord, help me to trust you.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Pray for insight

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