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In today’s devotional we will be looking at how to make your spouse love you forever.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband
(Ephesians 5:22-33 KJV)

In marriage, there is a joining of the man unto the wife, not just physically, but spiritually as well. But here, we see that the physical is even more emphasized. They two shall become ONE FLESH! Isn’t that interesting?

We can now understand the confusion and disorder that comes into play when two people who are not yet married are trying to become one flesh! That is clearly not God’s order! Jeru trip is for married people! Period!

How can two people become one flesh for God’s sake? That sounds so impossible! What is the full implication of that?

Well, in the next verse, Apostle Paul simply admitted that this is a great mystery that he himself does not understand fully. But there is one thing he said he knows, and that is the fact that the way Christ treats the church is the way husbands should treat their wives.

How did Christ love the church? Christ loves the church even as himself. That is why he now said in verse 33:

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

In order words, marriage is a mystery, I don’t fully understand it, it is kind of complex, NEVERTHELESS… Husbands, love your wife, wives, reverence your husband!

Take a look at verse 31 – 33 in Message translation:

31 And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.”
32 This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church.
33 And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.

I know it is a mystery. I know women are difficult to satisfy. I know men can be egotistical. I know both parties can be so selfish…I don’t really understand how two unlikely people are to come together in marriage, but one thing is clear, and that is all you need to know. I know the way Christ treats the church! This is how to treat your spouse

That demystifies it all. That unravels that which has been a puzzle! That brings the enigma out of the complexity! That changes the equation and solves it! If I can study God’s word as man or as a lady and follow the examples thereof, marriage is easy and enjoyable! If I can follow and do the same thing Christ does in treating the church and treat my wife likewise, Lobatan! (That’s all)

Why follow the example of Christ? See it right there in verse 33 MSG

And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.

Christ gives us a good picture of how a husband should treat his wife, and how each wife is to honour her husband.

Christ is patiently waiting for the church as the bridegroom. So treat your spouse by following Christ’s example, I know as a man, I am supposed to wait for my bride and not demand Jeru Trips before the wedding day!

Let’s break verse 33 down a little bit more because that is the way you are supposed to treat each other in a pragmatic way. Let’s take a look at the amplified version.

However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].

Okay we see it clearly now:

Husband’s responsibilities

1. Love your wife
2. Love your wife as you love yourself

Wife’s responsibilities

1. Respect your husband
2. Reverence your husband
3. Notice him
4. Regard him
5. Honour him
6. Prefer him
7. Venerate him
8. Esteem him
9. Defer to him
10. Praise him
11. Love him
12. Admire him exceedingly!

I don’t know how to satisfy my husband. I just don’t understand him.  Seek to do all the above, you will be amazed. The scripture cannot be broken!

I don’t know what else to do to my wife. She is difficult to satisfy!

Love her as you love yourself! Not too much story! God knows the man doesn’t like too much story, so he gave you in one simple logical explanation; lest you say they are too many, simply love her as you love yourself. What you wouldn’t do to yourself, don’t do it to her! God knows the woman like stories, so He gave it to her using many words! Both parties know what to do. No more excuse!

May God grant more understanding!

Lord, I know how to treat my spouse or spouse-to-be

Pray that God will open the eyes of your understanding the more to understand these mysteries.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (Ephesians 5:28 KJV)

Decide to follow Christ’s example

1 Tim 3


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