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4. Attach Pain To The Experience Of Having An Affair

Until an affair is associated with pain in the mind and the brain, a thorough work is not done. The erring couple must have several quiet moments of self-talk and deep ruminating of the issue. That’s why depending on the situation, the erring spouse must be left alone to have some sober reflections.

These sober reflections are necessary for certain positive conclusion to be made. Also, a lot of prayers are needed in this period. The support of the other spouse is also needed by not criticizing, nagging and not showing rage or irritability.

A lot of love, emotional support, care and reassuring words should be given to the erring spouse at such times as this.

A spouse should come out of this ordeal stronger, better and bigger, ready to help those on the same predicament.
That’s the way God organized things in the kingdom. What you have overcome, you have the Grace to help set others free from.

5. Change The Environment

It might be necessary to change that environment where the affair happened. However, this may not always be possible. If you can’t change your environment, you can at least change what you do within that compromising environment.

If you have lunch breaks together alone with a particular lady, you have to change this.
Note that an affair is not necessarily sexual, it could be an emotional affair. Don’t be deceived, an emotional affair is as serious as a sexual affair, in the sight of God, they are the same.

But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. –Matthew 5:28 (NLT)

6. Make Sure You Don’t Play The Blame Game.

What has happened has happened. Don’t cry over spilt milk, don’t wallow in self-pity. That is the devil’s domain; you don’t want to cooperate with the devil to make your freedom difficult. You must embrace Gods free gift of forgiveness and obey all His principles. Don’t go to the extreme of condemning yourself.

David committed adultery and murder, yet God called him a man after his own heart. God restored him, and he was one of the most famous kings on earth.

Don’t doubt Gods love, when He says He has forgiven you, He means exactly that.
Embrace His love and His forgiveness.

I believe you have found these steps helpful. May God enlighten our darkness in Jesus name.

God bless your marriage!

My marriage is blessed and fruitful

Ask for the grace to be a good spouse

I bless GOD every chance I get; my lungs expand with his praise. –Psalms 34:1 (MSG)

Put the above points to practice

Job 5-6


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