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We will be looking at communication during love making. By communication, I mean both verbal and non-verbal communication. During love making, should there be talking? Or it should be as silent as a graveyard?

Another question is, should the room or any where you choose be dark, poorly lighted or fully lighted? That another question we will be looking at today.

All these questions are what you may be asking or is on your mind and we will together throw more light on them.

Well, your comments will be highly appreciated and welcome. Let’s know what happens in the ‘other room’. This can help another couple out there.

In my opinion what happens in ‘the other room’ is as the couples want it. However, being rigid to a particular mould is what may not be too good for the marriage. In my own marriage, we do more of non verbal communication to verbal.

Because our foreplay is usually very long (I strongly recommend this for couples except for quickies). We delight ourselves in each other during foreplay, where we get to explore our bodies. This time, we are free to talk, play and tease ourselves. But during intercourse, we don’t talk much, but a lot of moans! And then we also talk after.

My husband feels (and I agree with him because it works for us,) that talking breaks his flow and concentration. We like to savour every moment. It helps us enjoy each other more. That may be entirely different with you! Talking may just be your trigger!

Some people believe all kinds of dirty talks are allowed and that it is those dirty talks that make them reach orgasm. Let’s have your view.

For the second question, do you like it pitch dark, partially or fully lighted?

I remember when we were newly married, I used to like it when the lights are off. That was when I was shy. But I am no longer particular after I have been married for twenty-two years.

My husband has always liked it when the light are on. And his explanation was simple, “Don’t you know that men are moved by sight?”

As I said earlier, variety is the spice of marriage. We have the lights on now and sometimes, partially lighted.

Let’s hear your opinion. What is going on in your own marriage?

I am waiting for your responses.

My marriage is blessed.

Lord, help me to love my spouse unconditionally

Prov 5:19 (ESV) As a loving hind and a pleasant doe, let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

Discuss with your spouse based on the topic of today

1 Chronicles 7 – 10