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One way you can achieve this is by rejecting the victim mentality in your relationship.

There are people who live with a victim mentality. It is not a good place to be. It is a negative mentality, an unfortunate place to be.

The guy with the victim mentality goes into a relationship expecting it to break up. The lady with victim mentality expects to be heartbroken, expects to be disappointed, and expects to be jilted.

Somehow, that person is addicted to pain. Until he or she is treated in some bad way, he or she is bored. It is a contradiction. He or she prays against pain but then looks forward to it through actions and in-actions. Such a person enjoys the depression and despondency that comes after being hurt.

So the person indirectly positions himself or herself to be hurt. Even when the hurt is not forthcoming, he ensures something happens that will create the scenario.

It is a victim mentality, a time-waster, a destiny twister.

And there we saw the giants, the sons of Anak, which come of the giants: and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.

Num 13:33 (KJV)

How did these people know that they were like grasshoppers in other people’s eyes? It was their belief system.

When you go into a relationship with this mentality, the break up is guaranteed.

This mentality and feeling must be rejected.

Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be abused. Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be jilted. Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be cheated and conned.

Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be dumped and discarded. Don’t go into a relationship when you don’t even love yourself.

Believe the best of God. Love believes the best. Give yourself some hope, stay positive and constantly declare God’s word over your life.

I will stop here this morning.

May God bless your relationship!


I am loved of God

Lord, take away from me every negative spirit

Num 13:33 (MSG)  Why, we even saw the Nephilim giants (the Anak giants come from the Nephilim). Alongside them we felt like grasshoppers. And they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.”

Confession God’s word over your life

Jeremiah 30-31


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