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It is often said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. The value of friendship is known in hard and tough times. Nothing is as soothing as when a friend speaks to you in your down moments. When his or her words are like cold water to a thirsty soul.

If the effect of a friend could be that felt, how much more is the effect of a spouse. Of course, our spouse is supposed to be our best friend with who we are vulnerable, with who we can share the joy and the privilege of being naked and not ashamed.

I think every spouse should ask themselves this question. “Am I a friend to my spouse?” “Can my spouse confidently say, he/she can find a friend in me?” “Does my spouse find me easy to talk with?”

Every spouse should ask these soul-searching questions and try to find answers to these questions.

It is easier to point accusing fingers at your spouse. Quit playing the blame game and face reality, walk and work together.

Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Amos 3:3 KJV

Come in agreement with each other. Forgive every hurt and pain. For marriage is where we hurt deeply.

Some spouses are so hurt they vowed never to forgive. If you have any knotty situation, talk things over with your mentors. Sometimes, the issues in marriage require the authority of someone higher than you. Just a word, a prayer or a prophetic utterance can solve such issues.

Some people have destroyed their marriage because of staying on their viewpoint of being right. In marriage, it is not always about who is right or wrong, but our willingness to allow God’s purpose to be done.

Jesus, our model didn’t insist on being right. He willingly suffered for us, the righteous for the unrighteous. He loved us while we were yet sinners and died for us so we can be made sons of God.

The mandate on our marriage must be fulfilled. Let’s get over all forms of bitterness, malice, and unforgiveness. These are toxic to our being best of friends with our spouse.

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

Proverbs 18:24 KJV

This scripture is very profound. You must show yourself friendly to have your spouse as your friend.

The question is some of us don’t even know to be friends. We must aim at being friends with our spouses. I believe the Holy Spirit, the spirit of truth and revelation will help us if we ask Him to.

Some ways to being friends with your spouse

1. Maintaining the right attitude and positive disposition is important.
2. Kind words and loving words. Every human being responds to love.
3. Believing the best of each other.
4. Being fun to be with.
5. Not pointing attention to the weak areas of your spouse.
6. Encouraging our spouse.
7. Avoiding criticism, accusation, and blaming.
8. Being very understanding.

These are few tips for being there for your spouse.

God help us indeed.

May God bless our marriage!

My marriage is blessed.

Lord, help me to be there for my spouse always.

Prov 18:24 (CEV) Some friends don’t help, but a true friend is closer than your own family.

Be friends with your spouse

Prov 18


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