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SINGLES – How To Be Sure Of Your Choice In Marriage

Being directed or led by God is the most important issue before marriage; when you are not led, it only leads to misery, pains, sorrow, and regrets.

My prayer is that you will not experience these. If your answer to that prayer is amen, now is the time to be sure that the person you are in love with is God’s choice for you.

Just because you are in love with someone does not give you enough basis to enter into a lifetime covenant with the person. It’s very easy to fall in love, all it takes is that person having all the qualities you admire, being physically attractive, spending time together, giving him/her a special place in your heart, thinking about him/her a lot and you’re already in love.

You’ll agree with me that it’s possible to fall in love with more than one person but only one person is qualified to be your wife/husband.

Once you have identified your spouse, you are no longer permitted to desire others, but to only admire them.

GOD then used the rib that he had taken from the Man to make Woman and presented her to the Man. The Man said, “Finally! Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh! Name her Woman for she was made from Man.” Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh. –Genesis 2:22-24 (MSG)

The above scripture shows that God himself was very much involved in bringing the man and the woman together.

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. –Romans 8:14 (KJV)           

The question is, do you have God’s spirit? Are you born again? If yes, how are you working on your relationship with God? How consistently do you study God’s word?

What service do you render in a local assembly? How well you answer these questions will determine how well your spirit is developed to receive directions from God, not only in matters of your relationships but in all areas.

You must also make sure that the three aspects of you agree with the choice of your life partner.

Man is essentially a spirit; you have a soul and live in a body. Do these three (spirit, soul, and body) agree in perfect harmony.

Is there peace?  Is he/she intelligent and emotionally mature?

Are you friends? Someone said friendship in marriage is about one soul living in two bodies.

Physically, does he/she meet your standard of beauty? Are you attractive to each other?

Go to any length to find adequate answers to these questions. Ask him/her a lot of questions. Find out where he/she is going. Can you fit in?

Is the guy a good leader? How well has he led himself? Can he lead you well?

Becoming sure is all about erasing every doubt or question in your heart about the person, the relationship, and the future. No one can be sure for you. Until you’re totally sure and convinced, don’t say YES!

Don’t tie the nuptial knots until all the knotty issues are resolved. I pray that God will send help your way in Jesus name!

I have direction from God. In my relationship decisions, I am being led by the Spirit of God. I am not confused in Jesus Name. I will not fall in love with the wrong person. The Spirit of God will help me to be sure.

I destroy every spirit of distraction and deception in Jesus name.

Take me by the hand; Lead me down the path of truth. You are my Savior, aren’t you? Psalms 25:5 (MSG)

Think deeply about your relationships and take an inventory



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