It’s beautiful seeing newly wedded couples. The love spark is amazing.
There is a love wave, love current and all the love vibes around them. They set out professing their eternal love for each other.
They are deeply in love and could never imagine hurting each other not to talk of harming themselves whether emotionally or verbally.
The question is what happened? At what point did they start to deviate from the love zone?
Really, no husband or wife starts out over night from being loving to being rash, unkind, abusive and insensitive.
There must have been little actions or in-actions here and there, that crept into their love affair.
The Bible talks about little foxes that destroy the vine, the tender vine.
Our marriages are like these vines that are very tender. Little foxes are like poisons slowly released that will eventually destroy the marriage. We therefore, need to place close attention so that we don’t allow these foxes.
Here are three things not to do if you want to keep love alive in marriage.
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1 Don’t blame
‘It’s his fault’ ‘She very disrespectful’ ‘He’s not kind and loving’ She’s lazy and overly sensitive’ ‘He’s always hurting’
Stop the blame game. You have a choice, either you keep blaming and remain hurt, bitter and full of regret and revengeful.
When you keep on blaming the other person you focus on their negatives.
You become blind to their positive sides and you put him/ her on edge.
Remember, when you were in love, it was because you were blind to their negatives and only focused on how good, handsome & lovely they were.
Do the same now. Blaming your spouse continuously is poisonous.
I am not asking you to keep completely silent on your spouse’s weakness but rather confront each other respectfully and lovingly.
Remember you have your own faults too. Forgiveness and mercy is reciprocal in marriage.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 131. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 131
And Elisha prayed, and said, “Lord, I pray, open his eyes that he may see.” Then the Lord opened the eyes of the young man, and he saw. And behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.
2 Kings 6:17 NKJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 131
Begin to thank God for today.
I plead the Blood of Jesus over every means of transportation I will use today, in the name of Jesus.
Every negative word that has been spoken against me, I reverse it now in the name of Jesus.
I nullify every destruction that has been orchestrated against my business in the name of Jesus.
O angels of protection, mount guard over my family for the remaining part of the year, in the name of Jesus.
I halt every negative wind blowing in my direction in the name of Jesus.
I bind every foul spirit that seeks to open me up to any physical attack in the name of Jesus.
I rebuke every spirit that wants to steal my joy in the name of Jesus.
In the name of Jesus, the angels of God bear me in their hands and lift me over every pit that has been dug for me.
Let’s begin to thank the LORD for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 131
My eyes are opened. Oh yes, the eyes of my understanding are opened. The Lord is surrounding me with chariots of fire. I am protected divinely. Everywhere I go, the eyes of the Lord is following me. My business is protected. My relationship/marriage is protected. The blood of Jesus speaks for me. Everywhere I have been earmarked for destruction, the blood of Jesus rises on my behalf. Angels are activated for my sake today and always, in Jesus’ mighty name, AMEN.
First of all, there is a difference between one’s love language being “gifts” and when one is just being covetous or greedy.
If your fiancé/fiancée/spouse’s love language is gifts, what it means is that until you start appreciating him or her with gifts in a consistent manner, he or she will not feel loved.
How do you know if someone is not just being greedy?
1. Do or Die?
He will not always demand gifts in a do-or-die manner.
2. Love Gives
When you are in a relationship, and no gifts are forthcoming, there may be an issue there because love gives.
What if he or she has no money or has no job? As I said, a gift is a gift and it doesn’t have to be expensive. Writing her a poem is a gift!
Buying him one tiny little chocolate is a gift! What is important is not the gift itself, it is the gesture that brings assurance of being loved and cared for.
When you are able to give gifts in the midst of not too much provision, you will also be able to do so when you eventually have more income.
Your giving spirit is more of an attitude than spending power.
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3. Love is patient
He will not back out just because gifts are not forthcoming. She will not break the relationship because you are not financially buoyant.
4. He will not just be a receiver
He will not just be demanding while he folds his arms and never gives back. Love gives.
5. Giving Back
He will give away gifts too because that is the language he understands and that is what he craves. She would want to give back gifts as well.
6. Gift is not Payment
When a lady gives out her body for money, that is not about love language because what she gets is no longer ‘gifts’ it has become an illegal payment for services rendered and that is not God’s order.
7. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone. Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Gifts are one of the love languages as postulated by Gary Chapman.
Below are a few of my thoughts concerning this topic.
1. Don’t Manipulate Your Spouse Into Gifts Buying
As married couples, the idea is not to disconnect or quarrel with your spouse if he or she is not speaking your language.
You can lovingly discuss with your spouse what makes you happy. You can also reach out and buy him or her gifts and then your spouse does the same in return.
2. Intertwined
As married couples, acts of service and gifts are intertwined. This is because you can give your time, encouragement, empathy, show your love to her in the kitchen and give her some of your time, watch a football match with him when you will rather be having a nap.
But there are people who associate gifts as a love language to have a lot of money.
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3. Eat your cake and have it?
Some single ladies have different guys for different purposes. Some to buy them phones and tabs, some to pay their rent, some to load their phones, some to buy them air tickets, some to load them with cash… well, this is not about love language, it is more of trying to eat your cake and have it.
If this idea and way of living is brought into the marriage, there will be a lot of issues.
It is more of greed and covetousness. It is more of being caught in the web of the deceitfulness of riches. It is not consistent with God’s principles and this will rather slow you down in your journey to a good marriage.
4. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone.
Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 130. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 130
The LORD make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:”
“Num. 6:25:
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 130
Begin to thank the Lord
Lord, help me to always remain ahead and not behind in my business / ministry
Almighty Father, initiate a hunger and demand for my goods and services, in the name of Jesus.
Lord, open new doors and provide new markets for my goods and services.
I break every curse of failure upon the sales of my products or services, in the name of Jesus.
Lord, let me have the spirit of favour in all my business transactions.
Let all demonic hindrances to the sales of my products be totally paralysed, in the name of Jesus.
I remove my products from the dominion of the powers of darkness, in the name of Jesus.
Let my products or services become a channel of blessings and a foundation of life for other businesses, in the name of Jesus.
Let’s begin to thank the Lord for answer prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 130
I see the favour of God. This day, God looks in my direction. His favour sets me apart. The Lord will smile on me and upon the works of my hands. The grace of the Lord will make me profit. My business will not go down. My relationship/marriage will not be an adage. This day, I receive patronage like never before. Doors of opportunities are opened unto me in Jesus name, Amen.
