There are four basic temperaments. Your wife falls into one primary temperament and a secondary one.
She would always act out based on her temperamental disposition. It is your duty as the man to find out what her temperament is.
Knowing her temperament will help you to also know her strength and weaknesses. This will further enhance the ability to help her in maximizing her strength and minimizing her weaknesses.
This is what productivity in life is all about. Making adjustments and not just being fixated on who you are as a result of your temperament.
You have to constantly change, drop bad attitudes and negative tendencies and embrace productive habits.
Your temperament will never be an excuse for your life’s outcome. So before you say you really know her, what is her temperament?
2. Understand her Choices
A lady thinks different from a man. Most of the time, her choices will be emotional and shockingly sentimental.
If you don’t understand this, you will want to shut her down most times, simply because she is not logical.
The reality is that not all life’s decisions can be established on the ground of logic. Sometimes, you have to embrace her emotional and sentimental point of view to strike a balance.
Ignoring her or refusing to understand her choices can cost you a lot of losses.
She would always prefer you to buy food and kitchen stuffs rather than change the paint of your car!
She loves shiny things!
Understand her and don’t just focus on your own needs to her detriment.
3. Understand her Femininity
You have to understand that she is a female.
She is tender! She is sensitive! She is emotional! She is motherly! She is caring! She is a love being! She wants to be cared for!
She wants you to sometimes know what is wrong with her without her saying it because she herself doesn’t know!
She wants you to complement her always, all day, all moments and she would never be tired of receiving complements.
She wants you to rub her shoulder after eating a good meal instead of rubbing your tummy!
She wants you to verbalise your love, act it out and really mean it.
Compliment her without being sarcastic. She wants you to speak in hushed tones, using romantic words.
She doesn’t want you shouting at her or raising your voice unnecessarily.
She wants you be a lover boy! Her knight in shining armour!
What else do you think she wants?
Let me hear you in the comment section.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to love her God’s way
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to love my partner at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 174. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 174
Thou gavest also thy good spirit to instruct them, and withheldest not thy manna from their mouth, and gavest them water for their thirst.
Nehemiah 9:20 KJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 174
1. Let’s begin to worship and give thanks to God
2. Let me experience the power of the Holy Spirit in my life in 2022
3. Let my spiritual ears be opened for your instructs all through 2022
4. Father, be my sustenance in 2022 in Jesus name
5. Let me know no lack in 2022 in Jesus mighty name
6. Let supernatural, divine provision be mine in Jesus name
7. Let my destiny helpers locate me in Jesus name
8. Let me know you as my shepherd throughout 2022 in Jesus name
9. Take not your holy spirit from me throughout 2022, oh Lord
10. Let’s begin to give God thanks for answers to our prayers
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 174
Thank you father for the gift of the holy spirit, as my helper, advocate, and friend. Holy Spirit, I welcome you afresh in my life. I will spend time fellowshipping in your presence. Every of my need is met and supplied in abundance in Jesus’ mighty name.
Her needs are specialized and peculiar. They are different from your own needs. From spiritual needs to physical needs and emotional needs, you have to find out!
You will immediately discover her preferences, that what excites you on Television doesn’t not tickle her fancy! Find out and seek to meet those needs!
3. Understand her Language
Her language is like her password. It could be gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch or acts of service.
You don’t communicate to her on your own terms but on her own terms.
Find out her definition of “romantic” and go after that. The definition of the word “romantic” is not what you find in a dictionary, but there is a dictionary in her mind with its own definition like no other, authored by her, and you have to find a way to retrieve that dictionary and check the definition which would often be different from what you think.
4. Understand her pressures
She usually has pressures. Most times, she is not even seeking for those pressures to be taken away, because they are often necessities of life.
She just wants to know that there is somebody who understands what she is going through.
Many years ago, my wife explained this to me. She was pouring her hearts to me, and expounding her pressures and at a point I bursted out;
“Hey! I am not the Holy Spirit. I cannot take these things away!”
“And then she looked at me and said,
“I know you are not the Holy Spirit. I am not asking you to solve these issues, I only want to have a feeling somebody understands what I am going through!
Wow! That is what that lady in your life wants! An understanding heart and that takes the pressures off.
She just wants an understanding, loving and caring man!
Unfortunately, most times, single ladies look for this in wrong places and often fall into the hands of men who are only looking for sexual gratification.
If you are a single lady, make your needs known to God and never offer your body in exchange for some care that will vaporise the next minute!
Wait for the process of meeting that right man who will love you appropriately and will take care of you!
May God grant you strength in your inner man to cooperate with God.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to understand my partner.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive wisdom to understand my partner.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 3:17-19 (KJV) That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 173. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 173
Yet thou in thy manifold mercies forsookest them not in the wilderness: the pillar of the cloud departed not from them by day, to lead them in the way; neither the pillar of fire by night, to shew them light, and the way wherein they should go.
Nehemiah 9:19 KJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 173
1. Let’s begin to worship and give thanks to God
2. Forsake me not in thy manifold mercies throughout 2022, oh Lord
3. Let your presence not depart from me oh Lord in Jesus name
4. Lead me every step of the way, in all areas of my life in 2022 in Jesus name
5. Let your pillar of fire lead us in our night seasons in 2022, in out marriage, family, career, business in Jesus name
6. Lead us in the way we should go by your manifold mercies, oh Lord in Jesus name
7. With a mighty hand bring us out of every situation contrary to your will in Jesus name
8. I receive Grace to do whatever it takes to sustain your promises in my life through our 2022 in Jesus name
9. Give me clarity of vision by your manifold mercies. Let me run with the vision in Jesus name
10. Let’s begin to give God thanks for answers to our prayers
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 173
Thank you Lord, for your manifold mercies throughout 2022. Lead me and instruct in the way I should go. Let your pillar of fire by night and your pillar of cloud by day never forsake in my journey in 2022. Give me light in Jesus mighty name.
Women are generally emotionally complex than men. Their emotions are endlessly and intricately intertwined!
Women are deep. That is why they can hold a baby for nine months without bulging. Have you ever left a baby alone with a man for thirty minutes?
That is why God listens to them because they understand what it means to travail. They know what it means to hold a growing life and then birth that life at the right time.
Understanding a lady is a journey!
A guy who had been in courtship for seven months sat in my office and said he knows everything about his fiancé. I chuckled. He probably doesn’t understand anything about her.
I have been married to my wife for twenty two years, and yet I am not quick to want to say I understand her.
I once heard a man who had been married for fifty years saying he just discovered one new thing about his wife! Lobatan!
So, how do you begin the journey of understanding a woman? I am just going to give you ideas ni o!
1. Understand her God
One of the most sure ways to understand that special lady in your life is to seek to understand her maker.
Nobody understands a product like the manufacturer of that product.
Nobody, no human being will ever understand her like God would.
So, the beginning of the journey is when the man develops a conscious relationship with God. When you are rooted in God’s love, God will now cause His love to be shed abroad in your hearts.
As you begin to understand the breadth, the length and the depth and height of this love, this will give you a wisdom that surpasses every effort in trying to understand her, and you will know how to do the right things that will unlock her creativity and make her feel loved.
That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God. – Eph 3:17-19 (KJV)
To be continued…
CONFESSIONFOR THE DAY I choose to understand my partner.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive wisdom to understand my partner.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 3:17 (KJV) That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love.
