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Anger Management Hacks: 10 Surprising Ways To Keep Your Cool 

Good morning! Today, I want to speak directly to both singles and married couples. There are things in life that work, and there are things that do not. You don’t need to spend another five years experimenting to figure out what works and what doesn’t. All you need is a willingness to learn. Every mistake you make has the potential to harden your heart against God, which is a tactic of the devil. Life is not meant to be permanently lived on Mistake Street by Error Avenue. Instead, you can choose to pursue wisdom and allow past mistakes to teach and instruct you. 

You gain wisdom from God’s word and also from His anointed ones. Here are a few things you should take note of.

1. Be Slow to Get Angry

This is what the scripture expressly advises. Many have lost precious relationships because of anger tantrums. It’s okay to get angry sometimes as a human; I get angry myself sometimes. But when your anger becomes compulsive, uncontrollable, and borders on violence, you need to be careful.  When it comes to anger, apply the super slow-motion button! 

2. Managing Anger

Pray to God for Help: If you find yourself getting angry to the point of beating people, picking fights, or destroying things, you need to consciously pray to God for help.

3. Seek Resources

Go online and search for ‘anger management’ to find materials that can help you.

4. Study Scriptures

Dive into the scriptures and study every instance where the words “anger,” “angry,” “wrath,” etc., occur. The word of God is life and that life can help you manage your emotions. 

Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.” (Ecclesiastes 7:9 KJV)

5. Walk Away

The next time you get very angry, walk away and check the mirror. If you can see the lumps there, relax first before making a decision. 

Ecc 7:9 (MSG) Don’t be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.

6. Soft Answers

When your partner is angry, don’t raise your voice back. Talk in a whisper, and the demon of wrath will fly away.

7. Two Angry People

Consider Simeon and Levi, who had serious anger problems:

“Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their self-will they digged down a wall.” (Genesis 49:5-6 KJV)

Their father placed a curse on them for their actions:

“Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.” (Genesis 49:7 KJV)

Their problem was that they were both angry at the same time. Never get angry at the same time your partner is angry. 

8.  Dealing with Anger as a Single

If you recognize that you have anger issues, don’t ignore it and don’t play the denial card. Here are the steps you can take:

  1. Talk to a Pastor or Mentor: Seek guidance from spiritual leaders.
  2. Read Books: Find books on anger management and read them.
  3. Study the Scriptures: Allow your mind to be renewed by God’s word.
  4. Pray for Help: Pray to God for assistance in overcoming your anger.

When you pray to God for help, you might find more situations that provoke you. This can be a way to understand the depth of your need for help and start working on it consciously.

9. Dealing with Anger as Married Couples

Anger in marriage can be particularly dangerous. Here are some guidelines for managing anger in a marital relationship:

a. Avoid Simultaneous Anger.

If one partner is angry, the other should remain calm.

    b. Don’t Raise Your Voice.

    Talk in a whisper to defuse the situation.

    Pro 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

    c. Avoid Provocative Language: 

    Respond with gentle words like, “Dear, it is well.”

    10. Prayer and Confession 

    Confession. I am not a fool, therefore, I don’t get angry easily.

    Prayer. I curse every root of anger and wrath in my life in Jesus’ name.

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