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A Gentle Response Turns Anger Away. We can either respond or react. Most times husbands and wives are seen reacting rather than responding. It takes great maturity and understanding to respond and not react. Understanding the marriage covenant that you and your spouse are a team and understanding the personality of your spouse.

This scripture in Proverbs is not just for the wives but also for the husbands. Let’s take a look at what it says:

Pro 15:1 KJV
A soft answer turneth away wrath: But grievous words stir up anger.

It’s talking about both our words and our response to words. In any scenario, in marriage or a relationship, we are either talking and responding or reacting to what is being said.


A Gentle Response Turns Anger Away. Ask questions to seek knowledge of why your spouse did certain things. Don’t jump to conclusions about things. In order words, don’t be judgemental or accusatory, Seek to find out the reasons behind your spouse’s action. 

Correction is better done when the reason behind an action is known. 

Let’s look at another translation in the Amplified

Pro 15:1 AMP
A soft and gentle and thoughtful answer turns away wrath, But harsh and painful and careless words stir up anger.

Don’t be careless with your words. We see that both in our relationships and marriage, what is said and how it is said matters a lot. So also how we respond. A Gentle Response Turns Anger Away

We often leave how we spoke and focus on how our spouse responded. And this could be a cycle of speaking in an offensive manner, your spouse reacting to what is said, and the spouse who initially said something now reacting back to the reaction of the spouse. And before you know it a whole lot of time and energy is dissipated

God is not about pointing accusing fingers. In marriage or a relationship, it is not about who is right or wrong. Or trying to prove a point, it’s about fixing the marriage and letting the marriage run smoothly.

Anytime there is a negative vibe, a negative reaction follows. But God is asking us not to react but to respond in a calm and loving way. That is where the work is. To speak softly even when your natural reaction should be that of anger.

Let’s look at another scripture 

Eph 4:29 KJV
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Eph 4:29MSG
Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.

So in conclusion, in your relationship don’t speak harshly to your fiance or fiancee. Speak in a way that is thoughtful. Carefully think of what you want to say and how you say it. Ask the Holy Spirit for His help in your choice of words tone and body language when speaking. It is not just saying what you feel like saying, it is considering others. Yes, the truth hurts but even Jesus spoke the truth in parables.

In our marriage let us be mindful of our words. Be mindful of your responses too. Don’t react in anger or withdrawal or give the silent treatment. Respond by explaining and admitting when you are wrong.

God bless our marriage. A Gentle Response Turns Anger Away


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