How To Defuse Anger In Your Marriage

How To Defuse Anger In Your Marriage

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How To Defuse Anger In Your Marriage

Words flew in the air like missiles, accompanied with fire in their tails, landing like piercing swords in their souls, tearing apart and causing untold agony in the inner crevices of their souls. Like angry puppies, they bellowed at each other while their little daughter cried because she could not understand why “strong” daddy and “cute” mummy were screaming at each other vociferously! The veins stood up on his temple and her veins breathed hard from her neck. Then there was a knock on the door, and only then did they come back to their senses.

Words spoken in anger are debilitating as they are dangerous! Sadly, the words cannot be retrieved, they have gone into the belly of the sea within the soul, waiting to be retrieved for fresh scenes of provocation in the nearest future.

I want to show you a scriptural panacea for managing anger as couples.

The first rule is to ensure that both of you don’t get angry at the same time.

The second rule is that you must respond to anger or angry words with soft answer. If you can do this, you will minimize animosity in your home! Take a look

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Pro 15:1 KJV

Take a look at what it says in the Message translation

A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.

Pro 15:1 (MSG)

Anger is a bomb! But you can defuse it.  It is better to turn away wrath in your marriage with soft answers than to prove a point that ‘you are the son of your father’ or that you are the ‘man in the house.’
Does that mean that I should play the “fool” when I am being provoked? Yes! You will soon discover that you are wise and not a fool.
When you learn this, you will give the Holy Spirit a chance to help you at such times.

Good morning!

I control my tongue. I do not speak irrationally.

Lord, help me to speak lovingly to my spouse

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Pro 15:1 KJV

Watch the tone of your voice during communication.

Prov 15

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