Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner Part 2

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Jun 14, 2024 | Singles and Married

Top 8 Ways To Find Certainty in Choosing Your Life Partner Part 2.

5. The Role of Physical Attraction

The third realm, the body, plays a crucial role, particularly in the realm of physical attraction, in choosing your life partner. It’s imperative to acknowledge the significance of physical attraction, which is meant to complement the spiritual guidance received through the inner being.

Was I physically attracted to my wife? Absolutely, unequivocally yes! Her presence had a magnetic pull on my heart, causing it to skip a beat whenever she was near.

Yet, it’s essential to exercise caution in this realm. In choosing your life partner, physical attraction is important.

6. Exercising Caution in Physical Desires

While physical attraction is natural and important, it’s vital not to allow the desires of the body to dictate one’s actions. The body may yearn for intimate gestures like kissing, petting, or engaging in premarital sex, but succumbing to these desires is a mistake.

7. Upholding the Sanctity of Love

Premarital sex, in particular, is not a testament to love; rather, it undermines the sanctity of the union. True love is demonstrated through patience and restraint. A man or woman unwilling to wait during courtship is unlikely to exhibit self-control after marriage.

Therefore, it’s imperative to resist the urges of the body and uphold the sanctity of the relationship, for true love is patient, respectful, and enduring.

8. Discipline of the Body

Absolutely, it’s crucial not to yield to the desires of the body. Doing so disrupts the beautiful narrative that God is weaving in your life. Engaging in sexual sins introduces confusion into the equation, as you shift your focus from listening to your inner being, attuned to God’s guidance, to heeding the impulses of the flesh.

The problem lies in allowing the flesh, driven by physical desires, to dictate your decisions. Unlike the spirit or inner man, which aligns with God’s will, the flesh cannot provide godly direction.

9. Pleasing God Through Decision-making

As Paul admonishes in 1 Corinthians 9:27 (KJV), “But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.” This underscores the importance of disciplining the body, ensuring that it remains subservient to the inner being.

Indeed, as Romans 8:8 (KJV) emphasizes, “So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.” In matters of decision-making, it’s imperative for the inner being to take precedence over the desires of the body.

10. Conclusion: Harmonizing Spirit, Mind, and Body

In summary, it’s crucial to listen to God through your inner being, continually renew your mind with God’s Word to align with His will, and disregard the cravings of the body. These bodily feelings are ordained by God to be enjoyed within the sanctity of marriage.

As married couples, it’s essential never to deny each other intimacy. Using sex as a reward or punishment undermines the sacredness of the marital bond and can lead to adultery, with dire consequences. Even during times of disagreement, denying each other intimacy goes against God’s plan. Conjugal rights are meant to be honored and enjoyed as a gift from God.

May God grant you a deeper understanding and deliver you from confusion and disorientation. I pray for peace, calmness, and divine direction to permeate your life in Jesus’ name as you embark on choosing your life partner.