Sarah, the wife of Abraham, had passed away. She had been his companion for many years through every journey, every promise, every joy, and heartache. And Abraham did what anyone would do after losing someone they love deeply: he wept. He didn’t avoid his grief. He sat in it, felt it, and honored her with his tears.
Genesis 23:2-3 – “And Sarah died in Kirjatharba; the same is Hebron in the land of Canaan: and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah, and to weep for her. And Abraham stood up from before his dead, and spake unto the sons of Heth…”
But then, he stood up.
Not because the sorrow disappeared, or because he stopped loving her, but because life was still moving forward. There were things to be done, and a future that still held God’s promises.
And Abraham stood up from before his dead These words are a reminder that grief is real and necessary, but so is rising again. Many of us have sat too long beside the memories of what we’ve lost, whether it’s a person, a dream, or a part of ourselves.
Just like the bible says, there’s a time to mourn, and there’s also a time to rise.
Getting up doesn’t mean forgetting. It means choosing not to stay stuck. It means believing that God’s plan for your life isn’t over, even when it feels like something important is gone.
Maybe your “Sarah” was a relationship, a job, a chapter of life, a contract, or a version of yourself you miss. Whatever it is, know this: you can grieve, and you can also move forward.
Have you ever tried driving a car while staring in the rearview mirror the entire time?
That’s not just unwise, it’s dangerous. The mirror is there to glance at, not to live in. Yet, many of us approach life like that: always replaying past mistakes, heartbreaks, missed opportunities, and wrong choices.
God didn’t design us to live backward. He designed us to move forward, step by step, into the future. He has carefully planned for us.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV)
In order to perceive the new, you must stop dwelling on the old—e.g., a broken relationship, an unwise decision, or a season of regret. The past only has power when we permit it to define us.
Letting go isn’t amnesia or forgetting completely, but releasing. It’s choosing not to be bound by the emotions, the guilt, or the shame of yesterday. You’re in that state where you say, “That happened, but it’s no longer controls me.”
Paul said it beautifully in Philippians 3:13-14 (NLT)
“I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on….”
Paul had a past where he persecuted Christians. But he chose to move beyond his failures into the purpose God had for him. You can too.
Why the Future Needs Your Focus
Your future is fertile ground for God’s promises. There are people you’re meant to bless, ideas you’re meant to build, love you’re meant to receive, and healing you’re meant to carry. But none of that will grow if your mind is stuck in yesterday’s soil.
When you focus on what’s ahead:
You give hope permission to rise again.
You open your heart to love again.
You clear space for God to do something fresh.
Every day is a new page. Stop rereading old chapters. Stop quoting what hurt you and start declaring what God said about you. You are not your past. You are not the mistakes you made. You are becoming who God already sees.
So today, take a bold step:
Look ahead! Trust & again!! Dream again!!!
The best of your story is still unwritten.
Prayer
Father, help me to let go of the past and fully embrace what You have for me. Give me the courage to move forward and the faith to trust in Your plan. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Letting go of past hurts is easier said than done. You may have prayed about it, tried to move on, or even told yourself that you’re over it. But then, something happens, a familiar situation, a certain name, a random memory, and suddenly, the pain feels just as fresh as it did back then.
Maybe you were betrayed by someone you trusted. Maybe you were abandoned, abused, rejected, or taken for granted. Maybe you gave your all to a relationship that ended in heartbreak. Whatever the case, those wounds don’t just disappear. They shape how you see yourself, how you interact with others, and even how you approach love.
And if you don’t deal with them properly, they will follow you into your future, especially into your marriage. Your spouse will feel the weight of baggage they didn’t pack, and your marriage will suffer from wounds someone else inflicted. The walls you put up to protect yourself will also shut out the person who is meant to love you. Your fears will cause unnecessary arguments. Your past will compete with your future. And that’s not the kind of marriage God wants for you.
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” — Isaiah 43:18-19
The scripture above reminds us that God is doing a new thing. But notice that He first tells us to FORGET the former things, that is, to stop dwelling on the past. That’s because we can’t fully embrace what He has ahead if we are still clinging to what’s behind.
So, how do we truly let go?
1. Be honest about the hurt. Acknowledge it Pretending you’re fine won’t bring healing. Ignoring the pain won’t make it go away. Healing starts with honesty, acknowledging the hurt, and allowing God to meet you in that place. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” What pain have you been avoiding? God is ready to walk through it with you.
2. Stop making others pay for what someone else did It’s natural to be cautious after being hurt. But when past wounds cause you to push away good people, assume the worst, or expect failure, that’s a sign of unhealed pain. Your future spouse is not your ex. Your friends are not the people who abandoned you. Don’t punish the right people for what the wrong people did. Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
3. Stop defining yourself by what happened to you Pain has a way of reshaping our identity. You may start to believe you’re unworthy of love, destined to be alone, or incapable of a healthy relationship. But those are lies that the devil wants you to believe. 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares, “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” God doesn’t just heal, He makes new. Who does God say you are? It’s time to start believing it.
4. Allow yourself to heal Healing is not instant. Some days will be better than others. Some moments will still sting. But every step toward healing matters. Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Allow yourself to feel, but don’t dwell in the hurt. Forgive, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve freedom. You don’t have to have it all together overnight, but you do have to commit to the process. So allow yourself to truly heal and stop suppressing the pain
5. Walk into your future without fear Your past does not have the power to ruin your future unless you let it. Philippians 3:13-14 encourages us, “Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” God has something greater ahead of you. But will you trust Him enough to step into it?
Carrying emotional baggage into marriage will not only make your life harder but also make your spouse’s life harder. Don’t let your past sabotage the love God has planned for you. Let Him heal you now so you can walk into the future whole, free, and ready to love the way He intended.
Can violence come before a love adventure? Does it make sense to unleash pain on the one you truly love?
Why do victims of rape cleave to their abusers and vice versa?
Why do people go after a person who is not treating them well?
Several reasons, but let’s take a look at one this morning from this story
Attraction After Distraction?
One day Dinah, the daughter Leah had given Jacob, went to visit some of the women in that country. Shechem, the son of Hamor the Hivite who was chieftain there, saw her and raped her. Then he felt a strong attraction to Dinah, Jacob’s daughter, fell in love with her and wooed her. Gen 34:1-3 (MSG)
Dinah just went on a stroll to see some of her girlfriends in town and then Shechem, (the way the name sounds sef!) saw her, and then the next thing is rape!
After Oga has brutalized the young girl, he starts forming love, bringing flowers, writing poems, and getting into her DM!
Absolute nonsense!
The great question is how does a person “rape” a person he loves?
Well, there is an interplay of lust, deception, and wickedness that is at work here.
At the point of rape, he was not in love but in lust!
After the rape, there was an illegal cleaving of their souls which led to wooing her!
Attraction After Distraction?
Would this medicine after death be worth it? Never. She had been defiled first, and the cleaving of souls was only a result of soul tie or soul bonding which comes as a result of sexual interaction!
This is exactly why we warn young ones to stay away from pre-marital sex.
Just as Shechem got confused in his soul and went after the one she defiled, confusion comes when pre-marital sex is involved.
To the married, adultery brings the same consequences. It is the reason a man refuses to pay his children’s school fees but gives money to a side chick for her excesses.
The lesson? Singles, stay away from pre-marital sex, it brings confusion to your soul and lust begins to rule. Where lust rules, agony of heart follows! Couples, stay away from adultery because it brings troubles and havoc as stipulated in the scripture!
Good morning!
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