Love Languages In Marriage – Part 2

Love Languages In Marriage – Part 2

by | May 23, 2021 | Couples

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Good morning everybody, we are continuing our topic of love language in marriage. Couples should go all out to speak the language of their spouse unreservedly since our aim in marriage is to place our spouse.

It will be good to always look for creative ways to speak the love language our spouse understands. Marriage is a place where we serve each other. We don’t think of ourselves first. We allow and trust God through our spouse to take care of us

That is why it becomes imperative for us to learn and understand our spouse love language.

3.  Words of Affirmation

Here, words mean a big deal to your spouse. In speaking his/her love language, you want to be careful of what is said, how it is said, when it is said, your body language, your tone, pitch and everything surrounding the words you say.

Here, it means a lot to your spouse when you give words of encouragement. Words that will uplift him/her. You might not be able to provide all the money in this world but your reassuring words makes them feel loved.

Your thoughtful words keeps him/her going. In times of stress, needs, bills to pay, weakness etc, your words are like magic.

Speaking negative, derogative, harsh and hard words or sermonizing or nagging your spouse could be counterproductive.

Please watch for those other than your spouse that speak gently, softly and tenderly to you. Avoid them, it could be a danger spit for the devil to exploit. An emotional affair could develop if you are not

discerning and careful.

Never look forward to anyone’s company or enjoy any ones company other than your spouse.

4. Quality time

If the love language of your spouse is quality time, then love mean time. Not only quantity but quality of time.

Your spouse will appreciate being present with him/her. Your presence and not just present matters to them.

Create memories. Go out for outings together, dinners, vacations, go to seminars together and just spend time together. However, what you spend your time on also matters.

Quality time means time of getting to know your spouse better, listening them talk, being sensitive to them, trying to understand them and knowing how to react and respond.

The lord will help is all. If could be challenging since usually opposite temperament will always attract and some time our love languages are different or we want our love language expressed in a different way from that of our spouse.

Our male female differences, the background we grew up in and other factors are responsible for this.

As a matter of rule, watch out for people of the opposite sex you spend too much time with.

5. Gifts

Your spouse feels love is not complete until it is expressed in buying of gifts. Something must be given to show you care. It has to cost you. More often than not, the thoughtfulness behind the given will mean more to your spouse. So its nor about the gift, but you taking the pains of know the appropriate gift to buy at what time or occasion. Example you wife just deliver a baby, and you got her a a sexy gown. She probably can’t even wear it because of breast feeding.

Find out our favorite color, scent, her size, her preference, her need. What is the point buying your wife high heels when she is pregnant or buying your husband an expensive office suitcase when he needs a belt and doesn’t go to office but works from home.

In all these love language, we all need the help of the holy spirit to lead and guide us. Lest our good works become evil spoken of. We get offended and not appreciated because it didn’t meet our deepest desire.

The holy spirit is our helper, when we call on him he will help us even in performing our duties of speaking our spouse’s love language.

May God grant us understanding.

God bless our marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I learn to speak my partners love language.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray for wisdom to speak the love language of your spouse

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:25 ESVHusbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having
cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Speak your spouses’ love language

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Eph 5

The Five Love Languages For Married Couples

The Five Love Languages For Married Couples

by | May 22, 2021 | Couples

Reading Time: 3 minutes

The concept of the five love languages is very popular. I have written about this topic before but it bears repetition. Sometimes, we think we know something until we hear it again and again.

We don’t fully understand a subject matter until we have taken time to think about it.

The topic of love languages in marriage is so important that the understanding of it will literally solve major issues of your marriage.

Every couple should take time out to ask themselves what their love languages are.

Love language by definition is just how you perceive love. It is the language spoken to you that makes you know that you are loved by that person.

For example, if the language you understand is English and someone is trying to communicate with you something important in Spanish, you will not understand nor respond as you ought because they are not speaking your language and you have not learnt that language.

The same thing happens in marriage. Love needs to be expressed for it to be appreciated. So if your wife or husband is speaking or communicating love to you in a language that is not what you speak or understand, you don’t feel their love.

There are basically 5 love languages. Studies have shown that you can have a combination of more than one love language.  For further study, you can read Gary Chapman.

They are

1. Physical touch
2. Acts of service
3. Words of affirmation
4. Quality time
5. Gifts

Let’s begin with:

1. Physical touch

This love language is spoken not only in words, thoughts but more so by touching. For a person whose love language is physical touch, there must always be contact. Your spouse feels special when you touch them. You put your hands around their shoulders when talking to them and they feel loved. A kiss early in the morning, or a hug each time you see them, makes them feel fulfilled. My husband loves it when I stroke the back of his head whenever he is driving and I constantly touch him when we are together.

When your spouse’s love language is physical touch, even when he/she is angry and you speak this language, they calm down. Such spouse respond to touch and body contact a lot.

This is also a pointer to what is to be avoided by anybody that is not your spouse. It is easy to fall in love with anybody speaking your love language to you.

So with this knowledge also comes the responsibility of avoiding persons who want to speak your love language to you other than your spouse.

2. Acts of service

This is your love language when you love things to be done for you. You love it when your spouse helps you do your personal stuffs and also do for you what you are supposed to do.

For example, when your spouse helps you do your chores, helps with the kids, wash the car, do laundry or pay to help someone else do it for you.

It shows that your spouse is thoughtful and concerned. He/ she has not left you all alone to sweat it out, slave away or figure how to get your work done.

Some spouse enjoy work. In fact they have extra energy for work. That is the reason some people who are not disciplined and have this love language often fall on love with the house helps, messengers and the likes.

If your spouse is not speaking this language, you have to let them know it makes you feel loved. Let them make arrangements to someone to help out at a fee.

Let me stop here today.

God bless your marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I learn to speak my partners love language.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray for wisdom to speak the love language of your spouse

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:25 ESVHusbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Speak your spouses’ love language

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Eph 5