Loneliness Shi-Marries

Loneliness Shi-Marries

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Loneliness Shi-Marries

Loneliness is a powerful feeling. Like desperation, it can make people settle for less—for relationships they know aren’t right. They do this just to fill the empty space in their hearts. However, if you make a decision based on loneliness, it will often lead to premium tears—your temporary fix causing you long-term pain.

Sometimes we mix it up, but get it straight now. God didn’t propose marriage to Adam because he was lonely. No! There’s a world of difference between being alone and being lonely.

“And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’” Genesis  2‬:18‬ [NKJV]‬‬

A man can be alone, but not lonely. Another man can be married to a woman, yet lonely. “Being alone” means being singular—be it physically, in an assignment or project, etc. while “being lonely” is a void in the heart—a feeling of emptiness in the soul that is often caused by a lack of active participation in purpose.

Adam was too busy with what God had committed into his hands to do that he didn’t even have time to be lonely. He was alone but not lonely. God had to come to initiate marriage when he saw that Adam needed a helper.

For singles, the temptation to say “Maybe this is the best I can get” often springs from loneliness. Seeing others in relationships makes matters worse, making you feel like time is running out. That’s desperation. But don’t let the feeling of loneliness and desperation push you into something unhealthy. It’s better to wait alone than to walk into a relationship that steals your peace, your values, or your destiny. The wrong relationship will drain you much more than loneliness ever could.

For married couples, well, you can be married and still be lonely. Loneliness can still creep in—especially when communication is broken down or when life gets overwhelming. However, the solution isn’t to withdraw, seek emotional validation elsewhere, or compare your spouse to others. The solution is to fight for your marriage to thrive again—work towards reconnecting. Talk. Pray together. Block out every channel (the opposite gender) that gives you emotional satisfaction. Remember why you chose each other. And fight to reconnect.

A good marriage is not built on constant excitement; it’s built on commitment through every season. Commit to working on your marriage. Commit to fighting for the spark to return again. Sometimes, or most times, it starts with just one of the spouses. If it’s you, then don’t get discouraged. Keep your eyes on the goal, regardless of what you see on the way. Don’t allow loneliness to last. Don’t allow it to lead you into an emotional affair and, ultimately, a full-blown affair.

Ultimately, may we all always recognize that God is always present with us, so we can draw strength from Him.

“Do not fear, for I am with you.” Isaiah 41:10.

God is always present, even in seasons when you feel lonely. So, instead of making hasty decisions out of desperation as singles, trust that His timing is perfect. While waiting, keep active with your purpose. The right love—one that honors God—will come. And if you’re married, the love you already have can be strengthened.  

Shalom.

Two Indications That A Marriage Might Crash

Two Indications That A Marriage Might Crash

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Two Indications That A Marriage Might Crash. Our Marriages will not crash in Jesus’ name. However, there are indications or tendencies we should guard against.

These indications are sure signals that marriage will crash.

Two Indications That A Marriage Might Crash. What are they?

1. When the couple lives in deception
No marriage can be built on deception. Deception is a sandy, fragile, frail, and flaky foundation that would seem to hold a marriage for a while, but will give in, and crash eventually. 

Deception brings with it, false promises and this even becomes intense when both husband and wife are deceiving and lying to each other.

It is a matter of time before the loud crash is heard around and beyond. 

Pro 27:6 (KJV)  Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

It is even worse if the couple knows they are in deception, and they keep encouraging each other rather than seeking help.

2. When the couple lives in isolation
A couple that lives in isolation will die in desolation.

It is not a curse, it is a predictable end.

A couple that has nobody speaking into their lives is at risk.

There must be a place you are drawing from.

Who can you report your spouse to?

If there is nobody, something is not quite right. 

Who mentors your marriage?

Whose marriage models yours?

Find that person prayerfully and stop fighting alone.

There are battles you can fight for days in a marriage that could have been ended by wisdom in a few statements in the heart of someone around you.

Pro 25:12 (KJV)  As an earring of gold, and an ornament of fine gold, so is a wise reprover upon an obedient ear.

A wise reprover is likened to precious jewelry with which you adorn yourself and come out beautifully.

Do you want a beautiful marriage?

Do you desire a beautiful home?

Then my question is, “who is your wise reprover?”

If you have none, then prayerfully find one together and agree on being mentored.

May God give you more understanding! These are the Two Indications That A Marriage Might Crash

Be blessed!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will go for wisdom 

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will lead you to the right mentor  

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Pro 25:12 (MSG)  And a wise friend’s timely reprimand is like a gold ring slipped on your finger.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Have a heart-to-heart talk with your spouse 

BIBLE READING
Romans 11



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