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When You Are Being Frustrated By Your Spouse

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | Aug 2, 2021 | Couples

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A point of frustration could be deliberate or not. But if one is faced with the reality of your spouse frustrating you, what do you do?

Well, in this kind of situation, you just have to exercise patience. Have a lot of understanding and don’t react. Reacting will mean retaliating or giving it back to your spouse in the same coin or measure it is given to you.

If the frustration is as a result of some form of sickness or disease, you just have to pray to God for healing and the strength to bear your spouse’s burden.

You may be frustrated because you are not a patient person or because of temperamental differences, background differences or simply male – female differences.

If you are newly wedded, your frustration could be out of misunderstanding of the things you don’t like. Especially if you had a long distance courtship or relationship. The tendency is to want to either retaliate or withdraw from the source of your frustration or pain. Please don’t do this.

In marriage, you and your spouse are a team. United you stand and divided you fall. Know that whatever comes, you are still married and you intend to still remain married.

Let your point of frustration drive you positively to seeking help, change of character and into seeking God. You can start to pray for your spouse every day consciously. Lift your spouse up in prayer and it will be to your account.

When you are also at the point of frustration, don’t keep silent on each other and don’t seek friendship outside of the marriage. Some have done this and regretted their actions. This will only draw a big gap between the two of you. The more you grow apart, the more the gap grows and the more things get difficult.

Just know that marriage requires constant working at it. It requires daily commitment, communication and patience. There are times when all is well and rosy like heaven. There are other times when you just have to keep the flame ablaze and fan the flames.

The bottom line is, don’t give up on your marriage. Don’t make a permanent decision based on a temporary situation. The frustration you are facing is only temporary. That phase will definitely fade away.

God bless your marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not frustrate my spouse. I am patient with him/her.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Ask for grace to be patient with your spouse

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Genesis 2:24, KJV “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Don’t give up on your marriage

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Ps 1

Rev. Sophia Okunowo