Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

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Is It Just A Feeling or Love? One of the most abused statements in this generation is “I am in love.” Two people met themselves, there was strong body chemistry, and they hit on the very moment they set eyes on each other, it was as if they have known each for a long time, in a matter of hours, they are intertwined in each other’s embrace, locked up in sex and everything looks great for them. Is that love? Unfortunately, the answer is a No-No!

Pastor, why do you say so? What about love at first sight?

Well, there is nothing like love at first sight, what really happens most times is lust at first sight. If you think well, what we call love, at first sight, is usually predicated on the intense feelings for each other when you set eyes on each other.

There may be a “knowing” at first sight, where you get to know who the right person is for you either by revelation or by intuition, but there is nothing like love at first sight.

Is It Just A Feeling or Love? To love a person, you have to know that person. You don’t really know a person at first sight, you may have feelings, but you don’t really love him or her because you don’t know him or her.

A Feeling is not love, even though, there may be a feeling in love. Feelings can be fickle, they can change, it is on the surface and if you marry because of feeling alone, you will be heavily disappointed, because there would be times in marriage, there would be no iota of feelings. Will you go and divorce?

In the scripture, Amnon had a strong feeling for Tamar. (2 Sam 13.) The feelings were so strong that he became sick and lean. He was so vexed with love, some other translation says he was fond of Tamar while some others say he was obsessed.

Pastor, you mean somebody can be very fond of me, thinking of me every time, and yet not be in love? The answer is Yes. Pastor, you mean somebody can be all over me, showering me with gifts, ready to “die” for me, cannot sleep without me, cannot do without calling me ten times in a day, and yet not be in love? The answer is Yes!

In the scripture, it says concerning Amnon:

“And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her.”  (2 Samuel 13:2, KJV)

Message Translation:

“Amnon was obsessed with his sister Tamar to the point of making himself sick over her. She was a virgin, so he couldn’t see how he could get his hands on her.”  (2 Samuel 13:2, MSG)

The feelings were so strong that his body began to collapse. That ought to be strong love, but sadly, it is not.

He calls me twenty times a day, it may not be love. She may be calling somebody else, thirty times a day as well. She spends weekends with me, it may not be love. She may be spending weekends with other guys as well. He gives me a lot of money. It may not be love, he may just see his money as a tool to get what he wants and when he doesn’t want it, he withdraws his money.

I can go on and on. Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

You would have concluded Amnon was so so much in love. 

But then he lied to his father and to Tamar. True love is sincere.

He ended up raping Tamar. True love protects, it does not violate!

He forces and uses scripture to manipulate you into sleeping with him and he says he is in love? He is not only lying, he is lying in state!

But Pastor, he is truthful. He told me that I am not the only one he is sleeping with and that I am the only one he would marry! Then what are you doing in that kind of relationship where you are being told with audacity and effrontery such sexual atrocities? How did you get yourself into that place?

Amon, after raping Tamar and getting what he wanted, sent her out of his door and the scripture says something very powerful:

“Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.”  (2 Samuel 13:15, KJV)

In verse 2, he loved her to the point of obsession. In verse 15, he hated her exceedingly, after getting what he wanted. That is not love. It is spelled L-U-S-T!

There is a huge difference between love and feelings!

For married couples, one of the prayers you should keep praying is that God’s love is shed abroad in your hearts. You may wake up some of those days and feelings seem to have travelled, at such times, your love must still remain firm because you are in a covenant with your spouse. You should not feel before you love in marriage, you should love, feelings or no feelings! In marriage, love moves away from feeling completely to commitments!

Is It Just A Feeling or Love?

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Levels of Communication in Marriage – Part 4

Levels of Communication in Marriage – Part 4

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COUPLES –

Continued from yesterday

This type of conversation is not just limited to a ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ answer. The wife’s or husband’s opinion is needed and necessary.

For example,
‘Are the children eating rice this afternoon?’ ‘I don’t think it will be the best option for them. They need more vegetables in their diet’.

It is important to note that, the question, what do you think about….is so important in husband-wife conversations.

Your husband or wife’s opinion matters and don’t want them feeling like they are not smart. If the wife is just accepting every decision made and is not really a part of the decision-making process and involved in the intellectual aspect of thinking through, there will eventually be problems later on in the marriage.

4. Emotional Talk.

‘Let me tell you how I feel’.

In this fourth level of Communication, we share our feelings. When our feelings are shared, we share ourselves because we are what and how we feel.

We are simply making ourselves vulnerable. When we share with our mate how we feel, the intention is not whether we are right or wrong. We mostly don’t want to be judged because of how we feel. We just need our spouse to listen, understand and accept that that’s the way we feel.

We kill intimacy when we are quick to judge the feeling. I am not saying we should not correct but first acknowledge your spouse’s feelings.

It is more difficult for most people to share their feelings than their thoughts. These are two very different things

‘I feel that guy is a thief’.

‘I feel the car will break down’

‘I am thinking the issue with the woman is not natural’.

When you share your feelings, you are expressive. When you don’t share your deepest feelings, a path of you is left hidden or covered.

When you share your feelings, you are vulnerable, open, unashamed, no inhibitions.

Couples should aim at growing together into this fourth level of communication, to enjoy a higher level of intimacy.

In our concluding part, I will be talking about how your marriage can move up on the level of Communication and you both can become intimate couples. The goal in every marriage should be to know each other and be as intimate with your spouse as much as possible.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My marriage will be a blessing to many

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Oh Lord, teach me how to communicate effectively

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not. –Jeremiah 33:3 (KJV)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Pray in the Spirit

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When You Don’t Have Feelings For Your Lover Again

When You Don’t Have Feelings For Your Lover Again

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This happens a lot and I get to hear this from time to time.

Pastor, I don’t have feelings for him again.

Pastor, I don’t have feelings for her again.

I will tell you five things quickly that will put things in perspective and help you judge your loss of “feelings” whether they are genuine or just some ruse.

1. Feelings are different from conviction

A feeling is the voice of your flesh. It is an emotional state.
A conviction is the work of the Holy Spirit in your life.

So, when it comes to relationship and falling in love, as a child of God, you need to ask, is it just feelings I have for this person or do I have a “leading” from God?

They are two different things entirely.

2. Feelings are fickle

Feelings are not bad in themselves, it is just that you should not trust them.

They are fickle, and they don’t have a forever a status.

You can wake up with seven different feelings for a supposed loved one in seven different days.

They are also temporal and they often don’t last. Feelings come and go!

Feelings are not deep. They are surface surfers. Feelings cannot endure. Feelings are like fair weather friends.

3. You will not always have feelings for him or her

The next thing you need to realize is that you will not always have feelings for him or her.

So, in effect, feelings cannot be a standard for measuring your love!

Even in marriage, there are times you wake up to see your spouse and all the feelings have gone on holiday to Bahamas or some Island of no communication!

What do you do? Are you going to file for divorce?

You see, beyond your feelings, there must be a genuine commitment arising from a conviction towards the person you want to get married to!

So, you cannot afford to be led by what you “feel” alone.

Feelings are too weak to sustain you in the midst of love adventure. Feelings will abandon you at the slightest pressure.

It is only conviction that can travel the whole length with you, in cold or summer!

To be continued…

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am led by the spirit of God. My feelings do not control me.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, lead me to the rightful person for me

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Decide to follow God

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Rom 8

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Finding Who To Marry; A Conversation – Part 1

Finding Who To Marry; A Conversation – Part 1

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Angie is a single lady of twenty-nine while Betty is a married woman of about thirty-seven years of age. Angie visits Betty who is her mentor.

Angie: Hullo Auntie

Betty: How are you, Angie?

Angie: I am fine

Betty: No, you are not fine. Why is your face like this? (Looking at her intently)

Angie: That is how my face is Auntie; I like frowning.

Betty: No, that is not your face, something is definitely wrong.

Angie: Ok, Auntie, if I tell you, hope you will not laugh at me?

Betty: No, trust me now?

Angie: Ok, Auntie, na husband wahala o! (It is the issue of marriage)

Betty: (laughing)

Angie: You promised you won’t laugh o

Betty: Ok…but seriously, is that the only issue?

Angie: Yes now, Auntie, or won’t I marry?

Betty: But this frown on your face doesn’t solve it

Angie: It is not easy, I am just depressed about it all

Betty: This your face, if I am the man and I see this face, honestly I will take off

Angie: What happened to my face?

Betty: Take a look at the mirror

Angie: Auntie, it is not that bad, it is just the way I feel

Betty: You don’t get it. You want a husband, and now you put up an attitude that will discourage the exact thing you are looking for. Can’t you see that the purpose is defeated?

Angie: It is not easy, and that is how I feel

Betty: You cannot live by your feelings because feelings are fickle, and they don’t represent well. You have to learn to trust God that He will not disappoint you.

Angie: I trust God, I am even praying and fasting

Betty: I disagree with you on that

Angie: But God knows I trust him o…God looks in the heart, not my face.

To be continued…

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will not miss it in marriage.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Pray for insight

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Jeru Trip And The Feelings Of Guilt – Here Is The Truth

Jeru Trip And The Feelings Of Guilt – Here Is The Truth

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Having to start your day with asking God for forgiveness daily can be very frustrating, especially when you know you are going to commit the sin again. Self condemnation comes once we violate God’s principles.

This self-condemnation will surface at much unexpected times. Most times, young folks get involved in jeru trip before marriage in order to express their freedom or liberty. In the end, the purpose is defeated, because the very freedom they seek to express will be lost to emotional captivity and slavery. Freedom from a guilty conscience will be gone.

Years ago, a lady sat before me. She was genuinely troubled. She felt God would never forgive her, because she was involved in jeru trip. She wept bitterly. She said she has asked God to forgive her severally and she was not sure God heard her.

Another lady actually lost her mind after indulging in jeru trip because she believed she had committed an unpardonable sin. She couldn’t recognize anybody again. She embraced the devil’s lie that she has committed the unpardonable sin because of the jeru trip. She was talking gibberish and making faces. When we were called (alongside another pastor) upon to pray for her, all our attempts failed until we started to address the issue of guilt by the Spirit of God. As we began to speak to her about God’s love and kindness, that demon left her, she calmed down, sobered up and tears began to flow. It was only then she was restored. It was then she told us what really happened. The negative emotion of guilt is a terrible experience. Guilt can be so real to the point of being suicidal.

When troubles ganged up on me, a mob of sins past counting, I was so swamped by guilt I couldn’t see my way clear. More guilt in my heart than hair on my head, so heavy the guilt that my heart gave out. (Psa 40:12 MSG)

I’m swamped by my bad behavior, collapsed under gunnysacks of guilt. (Psa 38:4 MSG)

You wouldn’t want to live with guilt all your life for violating God’s law. However, no matter how guilty you feel right now; God can always send help if you call upon Him and trust in His Word. That’s the way out. It could be a sin of fornication or adultery or any form of sexual perversion, the blood of Jesus took care of all!

Then I let it all out; I said, “I’ll make a clean breast of my failures to GOD.” Suddenly the pressure was gone– my guilt dissolved, my sin disappeared. (Psa 32:5 MSG)

I want you to know that there is a lover of your soul that is different from any lover who might have disappointed you. You might have been disappointed by men, abandoned by men, used and dumped by men, treated shabbily by men…but when you meet the man, He will restore your soul! The Samaritan woman had met so many men…but then when she met the man, the lover of her soul, she couldn’t but express the difference that turned her life around!

Joh 4:28-29 KJV The woman then left her waterpot, and went her way into the city, and saith to the men, Come, see a man…

Respond to God’s love today. Refuse the emotion of guilt! You see the moment you have asked your father to forgive you, He forgives and forgets. The devil tries to bring guilt so that you can feel unworthy and thereby prevent you from coming into God’s presence boldly.

But you see, this issue is a family affair! If your earthly father has forgiven you of an offence, what else can the servant in the house say? You simply tell him to shut up!

That is the way you handle the devil. It’s none of his business. God forgave you, period. Tell the devil to shut up, it’s between you and your father, it’s a family affair and it is settled! He should stop poke nosing. The blood of Jesus handled it already!

If he tries to remind you of your past, remind him of his future, it’s the bottomless pit! Make sure you stop sinning. That is what God does not want, especially continuous and habitual sins. Grace cannot abound when sin continues!

Only hearken to what Jesus said to that adulterous woman caught in the act.

Joh 8:11 KJV… And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

The fact is that you did something wrong. The lie is that you will never be forgiven. The Truth is that you are already forgiven and it is forgotten! Embrace the truth today and let it set you free! Truth is superior to fact!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I refuse the lie from the devil. I embrace the truth of God’s word.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Ask that God helps you to see the truth in his word.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Psalm 32:5 (KJV)I acknowledge my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the Lord; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Go and sin no more

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Joh 8

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