Four Ways To Guard Against Adultery – Part 3. Continued from yesterday… We have been looking at ways to prevent you from falling into adulterous relationships.
I mentioned that if you can do these four things, you will be doing yourself a lot of good to guard against adultery.
1. Guard your mind
2. Guard your heart
3. Guard your mouth
4. Guard your body
Having identified ways to guard against adultery, what do you do next?
Keep your heart. Don’t be given to unproductive discussions with people who have no regard for God. Deliberately avoid such people that you know will influence you negatively! Be selective with your associations.
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. – Pro 4:23 KJV
Message Translations says:
Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts. – Pro 4:23 MSG
What else to do?
Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; -1Pe 1:13 KJV
Take up the loose ends of your mind and tuck them in. Do not allow your mind to ramble endlessly on just anything. Be deliberate in filling your heart with God’s word.
Amplified version puts it this way
So brace up your minds; be sober (circumspect, morally alert); set your hope wholly and unchangeably on the grace (divine favor) that is coming to you when Jesus Christ (the Messiah) is revealed. -1Pe 1:13 AMP
If you are already entangled in adultery, seek help immediately. Destroy that which seeks to destroy you. Open up to trusted mentors or any other authority figure. Just opening up to the right person weakens the power of iniquity. If you hide it, you are ensnared by it.
I pray that the help you need at this time be available for you in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
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From the first to the third of March, we will be waiting on God in fasting and prayers. If you are in Ibadan, Nigeria, join us by 6 pm at Shouts of Grace Center, Joke Plaza, beside Trans Amusement park, Bodija-Ui road, Ibadan.
Now, to today’s devotional which is continued from yesterday.
3. Guard your mouth
At this stage also, you begin to verbalize your desire and intention to spend more time with him or her. You no longer hide your compliments. That which has been entrenched in your heart through your thoughts begins to find expression through your mouth because out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
You tell him/her how much you desire him. You both begin to enjoy talks that have to do with sex and how it is not so harmful to have an affair with someone other than your spouse. You both talk about the negatives of your spouses and find comfort in each other. You talk about the good, bad, and the ugly, you simply talk and talk. You talk about anything and everything.
At this stage, light pecks and kisses also begin.
4. Guard your body
Just as the body moves in the direction of our words, you set yourself in the mood for an adulterous affair. Your body begins to respond to your emotional words to each other. Words are that powerful. Actually, the scripture says words are spirits, and you know spirits don’t die!
You may begin with a suggestive then seductive body language and movement. You begin to give expression to what has always been in your heart, a kiss there, a tight hug, holding hands, unguarded touches at sexually stimulating parts of the body, eye contact, etc.
At this stage, jeru trap is just a step away. The day you are alone together (out of reach of other people) then your bodies come together in a sexual affair.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
Four Ways To Guard Against Adultery. There are steps you take and your destination can be predicted. It is just a matter of time. Every step you take, whether good or bad, is meant to lead to a destination. You cannot be on the path that leads to the house of ‘Mr. Marital Wrong’ and expect to find yourself in ‘Mrs. Marital Bliss apartment.’ It does not work that way in natural things; so don’t expect it to work out in your marriage.
There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. (Pro 14:12 KJV)
Here are some steps you avoid taking if you don’t want to find yourself in adultery.
1. Guard your mind
Adultery starts in the mind. The seed first makes its contact with the mind where it is just a seed of simple admiration. You toy with a first glance and then a good look. It is still a ‘secret’ admiration. But like every seed, it has the potential of growing and becoming a forest. Wise men and women guard their minds and kill the seed of adultery. Don’t give it space, suffocate it, it is unnecessary.
You can admire anybody but desiring someone that is not your spouse is simply uncalled for. Simple innocent admiration can lead to an emotional affair and eventually adultery. At this stage also, you begin to wonder if he/she admires you too, finds you attractive, and enjoys your company. You desire to see him or check him out and consciously make yourself attractive to him/her, you even flaunt your admirable qualities for his/her observation.
2. Guard your heart
The second step into adultery after an unguarded mind is an unguarded heart. The heart is deeper than the mind and at this stage, you develop deeper emotional bonding. You deceive yourself that nothing is going on but in actual fact, this person begins to occupy your thoughts, you even imagine and fantasize your being together, you desire and work out a time to spend together without hesitation.
At this stage, the thoughts of him or her becomes an obsession despite knowing that it is wrong. You start acting it out in your heart. The seed begins to sprout, in no time the fruits will spring forth.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to-do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
Valentine’s day is here and it will go. But there is a decision you must make, do not let your destiny go with it.
How shall we do Valentine and then life is crystallized into agony afterward. Don’t lose it. You are a child of God, remember that.
Demons of lust, adultery, compromise, and all other sexual perversion are on overdrive today, do not cooperate with them.
Today, the atmosphere would all be set. Your body would literally crave for it. But you would be making the greatest mistake of your life if you listen to your body.
A strong desire does not authenticate that which is desired. The voice of your body is not superior to the voice of your spirit. The spirit ought to take ascendancy and not the body.
This is what Apostle Paul was saying here
But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway. – 1Co 9:27 (KJV)
Your body would scream for compromise, but don’t listen to it, for decisions taken in the flesh will always lead to some form of death.
For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. – Rom 8:6 (KJV)
The amplified version expatiate further
Now the mind of the flesh [ which is sense and reason without the Holy Spirit ] is death [ death that comprises all the miseries arising from sin, both here and hereafter ]. But the mind of the [ Holy ] Spirit is life and [ soul ] peace [ both now and forever ]. – Rom 8:6 (AMPC)
Don’t go to areas that are already set to trap you. Evening parties, clubs, guest houses, love gardens, and hotels. Any meeting in such places today would end in regrets.
On the other hand, while at home, do not stay behind closed doors with a lover or intending lover. It takes a closed-door to close up your destiny.
Don’t drink. Things happen when you drink.
Don’t be deceived by that deceptive statement, let’s just touch ourselves, we won’t do much! Dry humping each other will end in some wet humping and could drown you.
Be vigilant. Stay close to God’s word.
Whether you have a Val or not, find an evening church program and attend.
Thankfully, today at Shouts of Grace Center in Ibadan, if you are around, you can join us as we take a dive into teachings on sex and relationships. Also, we have a valentine’s dinner for singles. You can check HERE for more information.
Stay with God, you will have the victory and the last laugh.
Let me end my admonition with this scripture in The Message Translation:
Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ—eternal and glorious plans they are!—will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does. – 1Pe 5:8-11 (MSG)
Be blessed. Be safe. Stay spiritual!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
2. When you are in love with a married man or woman
If you have found yourself to have fallen in love with a married person, it will be good for you to also try and rise out of that love as soon as possible. It just would not work!
Oh, Pastor, it is just that married people are more mature in their thinking and know how to take care of someone. Is that all? What about the heartache and the agony a side chick will cause the rightful owner of the man? What about the unnecessary warfare emanating from the rightful owner that would be entered into?
When you are involved with a married person, chances are that you will soon be sexually involved, and that simply translates to adultery. It is graduation into unimaginable afflictions both for the man and the woman involved.
God will never answer those prayers when the prayer is indirectly saying that a person’s marriage should crash so that you can have your way! Adultery is a stupid sin because one loses at the end!
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
(Proverbs 6:32 KJV)
Here is the Message translation, which I like most
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;
3. When you are in love with an unbeliever
When you have fallen in love with an unbeliever, it is better you run away from such a person.
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It directly violates the principles of God and it is not just going to work out. Ok, you can say you will convert him later, but you are not the Holy Spirit. It is the Holy Spirit that convicts.
You can say, he is so caring, he is this and that…but when the chips are down, an unbeliever is capable of doing anything because he is under an influence.
Everybody you see on earth is under an influence, and it can either be positive or negative! The reason you find it difficult to leave such people is that you have been sexually involved.
A soul tie has been established and it should be broken in the name of Jesus.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage. I receive the strength to run away from every wrong relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to know who to run away from
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 2:12 [KJV]To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Review your thought pattern in light of the above and run away where necessary.
