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It is often said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. The value of friendship is known in hard and tough times. Nothing is as soothing as when a friend speaks to you in your down moments. When his or her words are like cold water to a thirsty soul.

If the effect of a friend could be that felt, how much more is the effect of a spouse? Of course, our spouse is supposed to be our best friend; who we are vulnerable with, with who we can share the joy and the privilege of being naked and not ashamed.

I think every spouse should ask themselves this question: “Am I a friend to my spouse?” Can your spouse confidently say, he/she can find a friend in you?  Does your spouse find you easy to talk to?

Every spouse should ask these soul-searching questions and try to find answers to these questions.

It’s easy to point accusing fingers at your spouse, but are you also fulfilling your end? Quit playing the blame game and face reality, walk and work together to make a formidable team.

Can two walk together, except they be agreed? -Amos 3:3 (KJV)

Come in agreement with each other. Forgive every hurt and pain. Marriage is where we hurt deeply.

Some spouses are so hurt they vow never to forgive. If you have any knotty situations, talk things over with your mentors. Sometimes, the issues in marriage require the authority of someone higher than you, just a word, a prayer or a prophetic utterance can solve the issue.

Some people have destroyed their marriage because of staying on their viewpoint of being right. In marriage, it is not always about who is right or wrong, but our willingness to allow God’s purpose to be done.

Jesus our model didn’t insist on being right. He willingly suffered for us, the righteous for the unrighteous. He loved us while we were yet sinners and died for us so we can be made sons of God.

The mandate on our marriage must be fulfilled. Let’s get over with all forms of bitterness, malice, and unforgiveness, these are toxic to our being best of friends with our spouses.

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. –Proverbs 18:24 (KJV)

This scripture is very profound. You must show yourself friendly to have your spouse as your friend.

The issue is some of us don’t even know to be friends; we must aim at being friends with our spouses. I believe the Holy Spirit, the spirit of truth and revelation will help us if we ask Him to.

Here are some ways to be friends with your spouse:

1. Maintaining the right attitude and positive disposition is important.

2. Kind words and loving words; every human being responds to love.

3. Believing the best of each other.

4. Being fun to be with.

5. Not pointing attention to the weak areas of your spouse.

6. Encouraging our spouse.

7. Avoiding criticism, accusation, and blaming.

8. Being very understanding.

These are a few tips for being there for your spouse.

God help us indeed.

May God bless our marriages.

I am my spouse’s best friend, I am loving and kind towards him/her

Lord, help me to keep my marriage covenant

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. –Proverbs 18:24 (KJV)

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