Mr and Mrs Ade have been marriedfor some years. They had a close family friend, the Andys. They were so close that they built their houses beside one another. They were each other’s best man.
Down the line, Mr. Ade developed some erectile dysfunction which he refused to disclose to his wife. That was the first mistake. He dealt with the embarrassment by coming home late to avoid, love making with his wife.
Mrs Ade had a shop in front of the house with those long recoiling metallic doors that had to be pulled up and down.
When she would close in the evening, she would call on her husband’s friend, Mr. Andy to help her.
And that was okay. Till Mrs. Andy traveled during her study leave for about three months.
Mrs. Ade and Mr Andy became close. He would come to help pull up the shop door but they would talk for some time. Their “talk” graduated to their very private life being shared and before they knew it, they had slept together.
It came slowly, but it happened.
Why would that happen?
Firstly, there was neglect from both sides.
Secondly, they started talking intimately.
Thirdly, it looked like friends helping out each other.
The event, nearly tore apart the two homes because it was eventually discovered.
Such things would be discovered eventually! Take note of that.
The Lessons?
Try as much as possible as a married person to avoid sharing intimate experiences with friends who are of the opposite sex. Such actions will stir up unnecessary emotions and because you are already friends, descending the road to compromise becomes really easy.
The problem usually begins when there is a communication lapse between any couple. Avoid this as much as possible. Every void you leave open in your attempt to “deal” or “fix” your spouse increases sexual vulnerability!
Be wise! Hold your spouse closely and forgive quickly.
My name is Dunamis Okunowo. Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not neglect my spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will shield your spouse from the evils out there.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 55:21 The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.
As they walked down the aisle, Kunle holding his bride, and their faces punctuated with laughter and sheer joy. Betty and Kunle are finally getting married and both of them were so happy.
They had looked forward to this day. Preparations were in top gear as they pumped millions into ensuring the day was glorious. They left no stone unturned, and both of them even borrowed some money for the D-Day. The day was colourful, and people went home belly-full. Everybody eat to their satisfaction as they hired the best caterer in town.
By the time they arrived at the honeymoon venue, they were both exhausted. And now, a new chapter of their life begins.
That day was super and that was it. The wedding was over and marriage began. Reality sets in. Few weeks after the wedding, the pressures showed up in their numbers and with the pressures are different scenarios.
My point this morning? We all put in a lot of preparation and resources into one day often at the detriment of the real thing. We spend millions on feeding guests while we cannot spend a couple of thousands required to take a good marriage counseling.
Here are a few things to note
1. Do not overstretch yourself because of a one-day event. It is foolishness to borrow and feed people while you spend the next six months in debt and are unable to feed yourselves properly.
2. Work more at the comfort of your spouse after the wedding. Some couples will sit on some golden beautiful settee on their wedding days and then arrange plastic chairs in the living room afterward. Who are we really trying to impress?
3. You and your intended spouse should draw a budget and work within the budget. Agree on how you want the day to look and prioritize your home after the wedding
4. Lastly, do not allow folk in the family to draw you into unnecessary spending. Be wise. Be circumspect.
I pray God to grant you more understanding
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise and circumspect.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to plan your wedding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Praise God, We are on September To Remember – Day 19. September To Remember Fasting has been a blessing since the day we started. Get ready to pray and blessed today.
Scriptures for Today
September To Remember – Day 19
…Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
Hebrews 4:16 KJV
Make haste to help me, O Lord my salvation.
Psalm 38:22 KJV
Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.
Isaiah 41:10 KJV
Send thee help from the sanctuary, and strengthen thee out of Zion;
Psalm 20:2 KJV
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 19
1. Begin to thank God for the nineteenth day of the fast
2. Go ahead and boldly obtain mercy from God concerning all of you and yours
3. Pray and ask God to help you find grace for today and this week
4. Pray and ask God to help you concenring any need in your life right now
5. Ask God to speedily help you in your relationship or marriage
6. Pray and ask God to strengthen you for profiting in your business/ministry/career
7. Begin to come against every spirit trying to frustrate you from receiving help from God and man
8. Pray against the spirit that confounds and that bring shame
9. Begin to talk to God about your personal requests
10. Go ahead and thank God.
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 19
I come boldly before God. I approach the throne of Grace without fear or trepidation. I refuse to be tormented by fear. I will not be overwhelmed. In my relationship/marriage, I obtain Mercy. The Mercy of God avails for me. I receive the help of God concerning my finances. God makes haste to help me. I am not stranded. I am strengthened. As I wait on the Lord, I am energized. God will uphold me. God will encourage me. God will smile on me today in Jesus name, Amen
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I love the way our Easternbrothers usually refer to their wives. They will say “My Woman!”
Well, your wife is your woman. She is yours and no other. So you simply take care of her.
“Oh yeah, Pastor, I am taking care of her.’
“Have you really asked her and engaged her to know her definition of being cared for?
It may be way different from what you think.
What a woman interprets as care is often influenced by a lot of factors which may include background, parental upbringing, schools attended, church attended, personality type, temperament, past experiences, and so many other factors.
This is where communication becomes really important. Talk about how she wants to be taken care of.
For some wives, it’s to take them out to eat in some fancy restaurants.
For some, it’s to take them out to see a movie.
For some, it’s to buy a surprise gift.
For others, it’s to discuss the gift to be bought. For example, my wife doesn’t like surprises. She wants to know and be involved in whatever you want to do. Your own wife may be different.
For others, it’s to sit down and talk with them.
For some, it’s to write them a cheque.
For some, it’s to go on a dream vacation.
Whatever it is, ensure you pay the price in the place of pleasing and taking care of your wife.
May God enable us to be good spouses to our loved ones.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to take care of my wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to take care of your wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask your wife what taking care of her means to her
There are a few things every lady wants from her man. I will attempt to write about a few of them this morning.
Every lady wants a romantic playmate
A lady loves a guy who makes her laugh and who has endless romantic ideas. It’s cool to be a serious person, but you can’t be serious all the time! It’s not even good for your health! In an already tense environment, you must devise ways to keep her calm and laughing. She looks forward to a man that can help her unwind without compromising.
Every lady wants a spiritual guy It goes without saying that every lady wants a prayerful man, who can be a spiritual covering! They need someone who is romantic and who can also explain the book of Romans!
They want some who can spend, but who is also spent for God!
Every lady wants a guide She wants someone who can advice, not one that will adversely crush her spirit. She wants someone who can point the way, who will provide navigation for the family eventually. You see, the eyes are located in the head, and since the man is the head, he is supposed to provide the compass for the family.
4. Every lady wants a truthful man Every lady is looking for a man of integrity. Men who will say something and stand by it. Our generation is filled with too many insincere people! O Lord, give me a spouse that will be truthful.
Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Pro 20:6 (KJV)
Truthfulness is a legacy to leave for the children, and the children will eventually gravitate towards what they can see in their father.
Never cope with an impulsive and unrepentant lair. If you marry such, you might have to endure it for a lifetime. Whoever refuses to change now is not planning to change anytime soon.
5. Every lady wants a man who will allow them to be who they are. Nobody wants to be caged! She wants a man that will not be insecure as to limit her greatness. She wants a man that will give her wings to fly and help her fulfill all God has called her to do.
6. Every lady wants a man who is loaded in the pocket Ladies want to be comfortable and they want a man who can take care of them. Nobody wants to get involved with a liability! Every man should work! You may be out of job, but never be out of work. No lady wants to afflict her life with a perpetually lazy man! Get working!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to show love to my partner.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak lovingly to my partner
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Most men will proclaim everyone his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find? Pro 20:6 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Show love to your spouse today
