by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Oct 11, 2021 | Couples
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The Leaving And The Cleaving In Marriage
Therefore shall a man LEAVE his father and his mother, and shall CLEAVE unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Gen 2:24 (KJV)
The word “Leave” means to loosen, relinquish, permit, and forsake It is a total departure. But it is never a disconnection.
The man has to do the leaving. Without leaving, there will never be a successful marriage. All undue interference and control from the parents must be minimized.
The word “Cleave” means cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit: – abide, follow close (hard, after), be joined (together), and pursue hard
Allegiance must shift from parents to your wife. This is what marriage is.
Your wife comes first from the wedding day. Your spouse becomes your priority. Your mum is another man’s wife, not your wife. Your own wife must be your priority.
Cleaving means to catch by pursuit, so you never stop pursuing your wife. You keep at it, even after the wedding. In the pursuit lies the cleaving. The man is to cleave unto HIS OWN wife! An attempt to cleave to another man’s wife will usher in a marital crisis.
It also means to follow close. Be joined and connected to her emotionally and otherwise.
When things seem not to be going right, you don’t quit. This is what it means to cleave. You don’t pack your stuff and start singing songs of divorce when there is a little provocation.
This is what cleaving is. It is just like your relationship with God. You are to cleave unto Him and not try to leave when things seem not to be going your own way. Leaving God and refusing to cleave will complicate issues, and that is the same thing in marriage.
You are to cleave for life! Any attempt to leave is a tearing part that would be painful.
Stay with each other no matter what. Cleaving means that you are dedicated to each other. It means sharing with each other on the deepest level. It means enjoying each other and supplying warmth for yourselves.
Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
Ecc 4:11 (KJV)
I pray that God will grant understanding. Your marriage will not suffer a crisis. Your marriage will not lose that godly steam. I pray that God will pour new wine into your marriage and cause the love between you to come alive!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I choose to cleave to my spouse only
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Help me to cleave oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Gen 2:24 [MSG] Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Leave completely.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Gen 2
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Oct 10, 2021 | Oil For Today
Reading Time: 2 minutes
Today is Oil For Today – Day 93. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God!. Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Prayers Today
Oil For Today – Day 93
Thou shalt arise, and have mercy upon Zion: for the time to favour her, yea, the set time, is come.
Psa 102:13 (KJV)
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 93
1. Begin to thank the LORD for the availability of His mercy.
2. Cry for mercy over your life today.
3. Pray that mercy will always show up for you at the crossroad of life.
4. Pray for God to arise over those circumstances that want to bring shame to you.
5. Pray for your local assembly; that the mercy and favour of God will speak for her.
6. Bind the operation of the spirit of disfavour in your life.
7. Pray that the favour of God will rest upon the work of your hands.
8. Pray for the gift of men of stature in your life.
9. Go ahead and make your personal requests for the day known to the Lord.
10. Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 93
Today, God is rising on my behalf. The Lord is showing me mercy. Mercy in all areas of my life. I experience the extended, manifold, great, sure, and multitude of the tender mercies of God. At the crossroad of life, mercy kept for me will show up for me. God envelopes me with mercy. This is the time to favour me. My time is come. I have favour with God and favour with man. God surrounds me with favour. The favour of God distinguishes me. By the reason of His favour, I am the most preferred. In my relationship/marriage, I see the mercy of God. So shall it be in Jesus name, Amen.
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Oct 10, 2021 | Singles
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This article is continued from yesterday…
2. The test of diligence.
You cannot afford to marry a lazy man or an indolent woman. It will slow your journey down the aisle. Diligence is measured with so many indices like tenacity, business acumen, career pursuit, doggedness, and so on. You may not have so much today, but with diligence in a potential spouse, you can be sure you will be great in life.
Do you see a man diligent and skillful in his business? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men.
(Pro 22:29 AMP)
You cannot afford to commit your life into the hands of a lazy person. That is subjecting your life to unnecessary afflictions that could have been avoided.
What skills have been learnt? What self-development efforts have been made?
3. The test of focus.
Is he or she focused? Where is his passion? A visionless man is so easy to identify. His speech will betray him because the mouth speaks out of the abundance of the heart. Once you know a particular friendship is getting deepened, ask a lot of questions when you can still reason well before emotions take over.
The world is full of people who will readily compromise and who lack focus. You haven’t been together for long and he or she is already asking for jeru trap. That is gross irresponsibility. Run from such people, they are not your friends!
Jesus said, “What a generation! No sense of God! No focus to your lives!
(Luk 9:41a MSG)
You ask him what his job is, and he says ‘he is planning to travel out of the country.’ ‘Since when?’ ‘Well, for like three years now.’ Is that a job? Why must a young person stop his or her life because of plans to travel?
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I do not fall in love blindly and helplessly.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Ask for consistency in your walk with God.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Isa 50:7 [NLT] Because the Sovereign Lord helps me, I will not be disgraced. Therefore, I have set my face like a stone, determined to do his will. And I know that I will not be put to shame.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Carry out the above tests on your potential partner before walking down the aisle
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Isaiah 50
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Oct 10, 2021 | Couples
Reading Time: 2 minutes
1. Don’t ignore her needs
When you ignore the most important needs of your wife over and over again, she is going to get hurt and eventually feel that you never loved her.
This feeling can degenerate to a point where she comes up with an emotional defense, and the peak of that is closing her spirit.
You see, in loving your wife, you have to do so in God’s term and her own terms and not in your own terms. This is basically because the needs of a man are miles apart from that of a woman.
So, in meeting her needs, it is often easy to interpret her needs based on your own, but it is not often so. Priorities are at variance, especially at emotional levels.
Let her communicate her needs to you, you will be amazed that what is important to her is non-issue to you!
And so, the challenge is to focus on what is insignificant to you but is a big issue for her. That is selflessness!
Her greatest needs are always towards attention and quality time!
2. Don’t make her feel stupid and dumb
When you are always insinuating that your wife is dumb and stupid, she will get hurt.
Sometimes you don’t say it, but it shows in your body language and the way you dismiss whatever she tries to suggest.
Sometimes, a husband doesn’t even want to hear her opinion. She is to be seen and not heard. That is never the plan of God for marriage. The reality is that she is your helper. Her “dumb” or “stupid” suggestions would have saved you a lot only if you had listen.
You see, she may not be logical, but she is intuitive.
You know the man you want to go into business partnership with because he has all it takes, but she will tell you by reason of intuition that the man will mess things up. She has no evidence, not precedence, but she has intuition!
Don’t ignore that intuition!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I love my spouse on God’s terms and theirs.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will teach you how to love your spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1 Cor 13:7 [CEV] Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Carry out the above tests on your potential partner
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
1 Cor 13
by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Oct 9, 2021 | Oil For Today
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Today is Oil For Today – Day 92. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God!. Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Prayers Today
Oil For Today – Day 92
[3] The LORD hath done great things for us; whereof we are glad. [4] Turn again our captivity, O LORD, as the streams in the south.
Psa 126:3-4 (KJV)
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 92
1. Begin to thank the LORD for the great things He has done for you.
2. Pray that the LORD will perform great wonders in your life today.
3. Declare that your relationship/marriage will begin to bring gladness to your heart.
4. Cry out for a turnaround in your situation today.
5. Begin to loose every lawful captive of the devil in your family.
6. Pray for your local assembly; that her streams will flow uninterrupted, reaching far and wide.
7. Declare that every captivity in the work of your hands is shattered right now.
8. Bind every deceptive spirit operating or seeking entrance into your life or family.
9. Go ahead and make your personal requests for the day known to the Lord.
10. Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 92
This day, I bask in the euphoria of the good the Lord has done for me. I rejoice today and always. Nothing shall steal my joy. I am happy and glad. My life will show forth God’s goodness to the unsaved. My relationship/marriage will bring gladness to many. The Lord is doing something great in my life. I will not be held captive. I walk in the freedom of the finished works of Christ.
Glory to God!
