It’s beautiful seeing newly wedded couples. The love spark is amazing.
There is love wave, love current and all the love vibes around them. They set out professing their eternal love for each other.
They are deeply in love and could never imagine hurting each other not to talk of harming themselves whether emotionally or verbally.
The question is what happened? At what point did they start to deviate from the zone?
Really, no husband or wife starts out over night from being loving to being rash, unkind, abusive and insensitive.
There must have been little actions or in-actions here and there, that crept into their affair.
The Bible talks about little foxes that destroy the vine, the tender vine.
Our marriages are like these vines that are very tender. Little foxes are like poisons slowly released that will eventually destroy the marriage. We therefore, need to place close attention so that we don’t allow these foxes.
Here are three things not to do if you want to keep love alive in marriage.
1. Don’t blame
‘It’s his fault’ ‘She very disrespectful’ ‘He’s not kind and loving’ She’s lazy and overly sensitive’ ‘He’s always hurting’
Stop the blame game. You have a choice, either you keep blaming and remain hurt, bitter and full of regret and revengeful.
When you keep on blaming the other person you focus on their negatives.
You become blind to their positive sides and you put him/ her on edge.
Remember, when you were in love, it was because you were blind to their negatives and only focused on how good, handsome & lovely they were.
Do the same now. Blaming your spouse continuously is poisonous.
I am not asking you to keep completely silent on your spouse’s weakness but rather confront each other respectfully and lovingly.
Remember you have your own faults too. Forgiveness and mercy is reciprocal in marriage.
CONFESSION FOR TODAY Love is kept alive in my marriage.
PRAYER FOR TODAY Help me to love my spouse unconditionally.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY Song of Solomon 2:15 (KJV) Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.
Get Restless was taught by Rev. Dunamis Okunowo on the 10th of October 2021 at Shouts of Grace Center, Joke Plaza, Beside Trans Amusement Park, Bodija-UI Road, Ibadan.
In his teaching, Rev. Dunamis made mention of the following important points:
God’s word cannot go back to Him, and say, “I cannot do this.”
So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.
Isaiah 55:11 (NKJV)
You do not speak against the source of your blessing.
The things of the spirit cannot be logically explained. Sometimes you don’t understand but you just obey.
The word of God is life.
The blessing is tangible; it can be transferred.
But he said, “Your brother came with deceit and has taken away your blessing.”
Genesis 27:35 (NKJV)
The blessing is different from miracle.
The force that played out in the life of Jacob was mercy.
As it is written, “Jacob I have loved, but Esau I have hated.” What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? Certainly not! For He says to Moses, “I will have mercy on whomever I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whomever I will have compassion.” So then it is not of him who wills, nor of him who runs, but of God who shows mercy.
Romans 9:13-16 (NKJV)
It is the LORD that shows mercy.
Thank God for the things you can do (your skills, your oratory power, etc.) but ask for mercy!
There’s something about the mercy of God which you must factor into your life.
So then it is not of him who wills, nor of him who runs, but of God who shows mercy.
Romans 9:16 (NKJV)
We are not saying you should not will or that you should not run, but in your ‘willing’ and ‘running,’ remember mercy.
You will be under the yoke until you grow restless.
By your sword you shall live, And you shall serve your brother; And it shall come to pass, when you become restless, That you shall break his yoke from your neck.”
Genesis 27:40 (NKJV)
No matter what you have done in the past, there’s the mercy of God. The Holy Spirit brings you to the place of realization, not a place of condemnation.
What distinguished Joseph is found in Gen 39:21.
But the LORD was with Joseph and showed him mercy, and He gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison.
Genesis 39:21 (NKJV)
Mercy has to be shown before favour can be given. You have to see a revelation about mercy for favour to rest on you.
To listen to messages of Rev Dunamis, go HERE or HERE
Today is Oil For Today – Day 94. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God!. Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Prayers Today
Oil For Today – Day 94
They shall come and sing aloud on the height of Zion and shall flow together and be radiant with joy over the goodness of the Lord–for the corn, for the juice [of the grape], for the oil, and for the young of the flock and the herd. And their life shall be like a watered garden, and they shall not sorrow or languish anymore at all.
Jer 31:12 (AMPC)
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 94
1. Begin to rejoice and thank God for all He has done.
2. Begin to pray that the Spirit of joy rests upon you today.
3. Bind the activity of the spirit of sorrow and depression in your family.
4. Pray that the goodness of the LORD will run after you today.
5. Pray for your local assembly; that there will be rejoicing and abundance always in her midst.
6. Pray and activate the provision system of God in your life today.
7. Pray that men will bring of their increase to you today – dollar/money, furniture, car, etc.
8. Pray for the rain of God’s mercy to fall on you today.
9. Go ahead and make your personal requests for the day known to the Lord.
10. Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 94
I reject the spirit of depression and sorrow. I will rejoice and be ever full of joy. No bad news today. I will not sorrow or weep over anyone. God is putting a new song in my mouth. The goodness of the Lord will be evident in my life. My relationship/marriage will be radiant and full of life. I declare; fruitfulness is my portion this day. All-round fruitfulness. My finances will not go down. My sources of income will not dry up. My life is fresh and robust, as a well-watered garden in Jesus’ name, Amen.
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4. The test of sincerity. That is openness. Is he sincere about his faults, weaknesses, feelings? Is she willing to talk about them or does she pretend? It is dangerous to walk with someone who lives in the delusion of grandeur.
Some of the most dangerous sets of people are those who are self-deceptive. They can abort twenty times and simply use some scriptures to cover up. If it was done in ignorance, that is another thing, because God cleanses you and you can start your life all over again when you genuinely repent. But I am talking of those who have successfully combined this sinful lifestyle with serving God alongside.
I don’t care if he is a pastor or she is a minstrel, if he or she uses scriptures to justify a habitual sin that even an unbeliever will often refrain from, you should run from such people and not be joined in their unrepentant sinful adventures.
An insincere guy will lure you into sexual sin and then turn around to say you seduced him. What are you doing with such people? An insincere lady will offer her body to get some money and then turn back to say you forced her. That is nothing short of wickedness. Those are not friends!
He says he is a pastor and he slides his hands into your blouse each time you visit his office. I don’t care how much ‘anointing’ you think he has, he is a charlatan! What counseling are you looking for with such people, run for your life because there are counsels that can cancel destinies.
May God grant you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not walk down the aisle with an insincere person.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to a sincere man/woman.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 2:18 [MSG]God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Test for insincerity in the life of your intended spouse before you walk down the aisle.
Therefore shall a man LEAVE his father and his mother, and shall CLEAVE unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Gen 2:24 (KJV)
The word “Leave” means to loosen, relinquish, permit, and forsake It is a total departure. But it is never a disconnection.
The man has to do the leaving. Without leaving, there will never be a successful marriage. All undue interference and control from the parents must be minimized.
The word “Cleave” means cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit: – abide, follow close (hard, after), be joined (together), and pursue hard
Allegiance must shift from parents to your wife. This is what marriage is.
Your wife comes first from the wedding day. Your spouse becomes your priority. Your mum is another man’s wife, not your wife. Your own wife must be your priority.
Cleaving means to catch by pursuit, so you never stop pursuing your wife. You keep at it, even after the wedding. In the pursuit lies the cleaving. The man is to cleave unto HIS OWN wife! An attempt to cleave to another man’s wife will usher in a marital crisis.
It also means to follow close. Be joined and connected to her emotionally and otherwise.
When things seem not to be going right, you don’t quit. This is what it means to cleave. You don’t pack your stuff and start singing songs of divorce when there is a little provocation.
This is what cleaving is. It is just like your relationship with God. You are to cleave unto Him and not try to leave when things seem not to be going your own way. Leaving God and refusing to cleave will complicate issues, and that is the same thing in marriage.
You are to cleave for life! Any attempt to leave is a tearing part that would be painful.
Stay with each other no matter what. Cleaving means that you are dedicated to each other. It means sharing with each other on the deepest level. It means enjoying each other and supplying warmth for yourselves.
Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
Ecc 4:11 (KJV)
I pray that God will grant understanding. Your marriage will not suffer a crisis. Your marriage will not lose that godly steam. I pray that God will pour new wine into your marriage and cause the love between you to come alive!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to cleave to my spouse only
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me to cleave oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 2:24 [MSG]Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh.
