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How To Test Compatibility In Relationship

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Nov 1, 2021 | Singles

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Betty has always loved family life and she looked forward to marriage with tremendous ecstasy. Eventually she got married but did not enjoy one single day of her marriage. The reasons are not far-fetched. She is the type that wants her husband around her all the time. She is a in-the-home woman. But then she got married to a Military man because she loved Military weddings. It was just two weeks after her wedding that reality dawned on her. She had married a on-the-road man!

Her husband had to answer call of duty and he was gone for months.

The Bible clearly advises that when you want to go on a journey you should first of all take account and make plans.

A major question that needs to be answered as you prepare for marriage is the question of compatibility. Unfortunately, for most singles rather than look critically at these area, they’re busy concentrating on sexual compatibility, a flimsy excuse to indulge in pre-marital sex and satisfy the raging fire of lust in their soul.

Areas where compatibility issues needs to be critically examined include the following.

a. Intellectual compatibility
Not a few marriages have been dissolved because of this issue. Marriage is about communication. The moment you are married to someone who is at a great intellectual distance as to the extent of inhibiting natural communication flow, it alters the whole configuration. The other spouse begins to look elsewhere to satisfy that need for intellectual discussions and before long, unholy alliance are formed which eventually becomes a distraction to the marriage. It is like meeting a legitimate need in an illegitimate way.

b. Cultural compatibility
A lot of people would not want to hear about their children marrying from another tribe or ethnic group because of the experiences they have had. You see, the major problem is that people often advice others based on their experiences rather than on the principles of God’s word. I don’t see anything wrong in getting married from any tribe as long as you are led of God. You must however pay a lot of attention to parental consent. This is very crucial. What if your parents say an outright NO and you feel you are on the right path? Go to God in prayers. If it is really of God, He will sort it out Himself.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will apply discretion in every area of my relationship as God helps me

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, I ask that you give me wisdom and understanding in my relationship in Jesus name.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Proverbs 11:29 [MSG]Exploit or abuse your family, and end up with a fistful of air; common sense tells you it’s a stupid way to live.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Have a hearty discussion with your partner today

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Ps 133