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Wives, Appreciate Your Husband’s Efforts

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | Aug 3, 2022 | Couples

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Wives, Appreciate your husband’s efforts. This morning I will like to write specially to the wives.

Good women could be frustrating their husbands’ efforts not because they are wicked but because they don’t know.

Men and women are so differently wired and that’s why it becomes important to learn about the different ways they are wired.

Women’s brains are like spaghetti, so they have things mixed up and jumbled up. Men’s brains on the other hand are like rice. Men separate issues and have the ability to treat events separately. Women, because of the way their brains are wired are tempted to give wrong, discouraging, and demoralizing vibes, when their husbands are trying to make efforts in pleasing them if something else is going wrong in other aspects.

A wife will not appreciate her husband’s good deeds if he fails in certain other areas. For example, she will not appreciate her husband’s hard work in providing for the family, if he criticizes her.

Women are giving to details. So they tend to focus on the little details not working. This could mean women are petty. Wives, Appreciate your husband’s efforts

If their husbands are putting 95% effort into pleasing them and 5% is not working. They tend to put their attention on the 5% not working.

The key here is to put your attention on the aspect where your husband is doing well and praise him. Praise him for the 95% or 5% as the case may be. He will get so excited and intoxicated with the praise that he will want to do more and better in those areas you want him to change.

Men will run from situations that make them feel pressured. They will rather stay where they are celebrated, that’s why men stay where they perform better eg their works.

So wives, my advice this morning is to celebrate your husband’s little effort in pleasing you, make a big deal of it and just hint at those areas you want him to improve on.

If you follow your natural wiring of focusing on details, you will keep demoralizing your husband. Praise him when you feel like complaining.

Your marriage will thrive. Wives, Appreciate your husband’s efforts

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am appreciative of who God has given to me as my husband. I celebrate all his effort in pleasing me.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Father give me wisdom and understanding concerning my marriage

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. Philippians 4:6 KJV

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Begin to appreciate your husband’s effort to please you.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Phil 4