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Dear Pastor, Must I Marry A Perfect Person?

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Oct 15, 2021 | Singles

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The Answer is No! You can marry an imperfect person because nobody is perfect. Nobody! We are all a work in progress.

But wait… let’s make some clarifications.

An imperfect person is not someone who is living in an unrepentant habitual sin, sinning willfully and enjoying the pleasures of sin.

In other words, I am saying, you cannot marry someone who is living consistently in habitual sin, with no remorse or repentance. Such a person is going get you into trouble and drag you into misery.

About being imperfect, the scriptures lets us know we will get better as we stay in the word, study the word, pray in the Spirit and pay attention to the things of the Spirit.

Is your lover doing all these?

Check the scriptures:

But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.

2Co 3:18 (KJV)

Again we see here:

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Rom 12:2 (KJV)

We are promised a change as we pay attention to the word. This is entirely different from a habitual sinner. He is not interested in changing or getting better in God.

He may profess interest in change with his mouth, but his heart is far from that. He or she is not interested in God’s word, he is only religious, he goes to church.

He is a serial fornicator. He plays sport with sin. The Bible warns against such people.

Here are some clear instructions:

But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

1Co 5:11 (KJV)

You are not to be friends with such people not to talk of getting married to such because they probably have some money.

Amplified Bible puts it this way:

But now I write to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of [Christian] brother if he is known to be guilty of immorality or greed, or is an idolater [whose soul is devoted to any object that usurps the place of God], or is a person with a foul tongue [railing, abusing, reviling, slandering], or is a drunkard or a swindler or a robber. [No] you must not so much as eat with such a person.

1Co 5:11 (AMPC)

Again take a look at the Message translation:

But I am saying that you shouldn’t act as if everything is just fine when one of your Christian companions is promiscuous or crooked, is flip with God or rude to friends, gets drunk or becomes greedy and predatory. You can’t just go along with this, treating it as acceptable behavior.

1Co 5:11 (MSG)

Let’s take a look at one more scriptures and I will rest my case:

I wrote you in my earlier letter that you shouldn’t make yourselves at home among the sexually promiscuous. [10] I didn’t mean that you should have nothing at all to do with outsiders of that sort. Or with crooks, whether blue- or white-collar. Or with spiritual phonies, for that matter. You’d have to leave the world entirely to do that! [11] But I am saying that you shouldn’t act as if everything is just fine when one of your Christian companions is promiscuous or crooked, is flip with God or rude to friends, gets drunk or becomes greedy and predatory. You can’t just go along with this, treating it as acceptable behavior.

1Co 5:9-11 (MSG)

I will have to stop here this morning.

May God grant you more understanding!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I will hearken to God’s voice. I will work on myself till I am perfect.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray that God will perfect you

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1Co 5:11 (GW) Now, what I meant was that you should not associate with people who call themselves brothers or sisters in the Christian faith but live in sexual sin, are greedy, worship false gods, use abusive language, get drunk, or are dishonest. Don’t eat with such people.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Pray in the spirit

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Zechariah 10-14