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When You Don’t Have Feelings For Your Lover Again

by Rev Dunamis Okunowo | Feb 24, 2022 | Singles

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This happens a lot and I get to hear this from time to time.

Pastor, I don’t have feelings for him again.

Pastor, I don’t have feelings for her again.

I will tell you five things quickly that will put things in perspective and help you judge your loss of “feelings” whether they are genuine or just some ruse.

1. Feelings are different from conviction

A feeling is the voice of your flesh. It is an emotional state.
A conviction is the work of the Holy Spirit in your life.

So, when it comes to relationship and falling in love, as a child of God, you need to ask, is it just feelings I have for this person or do I have a “leading” from God?

They are two different things entirely.

2. Feelings are fickle

Feelings are not bad in themselves, it is just that you should not trust them.

They are fickle, and they don’t have a forever a status.

You can wake up with seven different feelings for a supposed loved one in seven different days.

They are also temporal and they often don’t last. Feelings come and go!

Feelings are not deep. They are surface surfers. Feelings cannot endure. Feelings are like fair weather friends.

3. You will not always have feelings for him or her

The next thing you need to realize is that you will not always have feelings for him or her.

So, in effect, feelings cannot be a standard for measuring your love!

Even in marriage, there are times you wake up to see your spouse and all the feelings have gone on holiday to Bahamas or some Island of no communication!

What do you do? Are you going to file for divorce?

You see, beyond your feelings, there must be a genuine commitment arising from a conviction towards the person you want to get married to!

So, you cannot afford to be led by what you “feel” alone.

Feelings are too weak to sustain you in the midst of love adventure. Feelings will abandon you at the slightest pressure.

It is only conviction that can travel the whole length with you, in cold or summer!

To be continued…

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am led by the spirit of God. My feelings do not control me.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, lead me to the rightful person for me

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Decide to follow God

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Rom 8