So she followed him home or to some guest house for a meal.
Let’s just eat out.
May we not dine with the wrong person.
May we not eat up our destinies.
The guy had more plans than just the meal.
Son 2:4 (MSG) He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on me!
Ladies, be careful who buys free meals for you, you might be paying for it soonest.
Rather than for the guy to feast on the meal, his eyes were riveted on the damsel.
Essentially, men are moved by sight. Men, watch what you see. Ladies, watch what is seen.
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Reciprocity of the Feasting
Son 2:5 (MSG) Oh! Give me something refreshing to eat—and quickly! Apricots, raisins—anything. I’m about to faint with love!
Ladies are enthralled by attention and non-verbal expressions of love.
She was going to faint with love. She felt more important as the guy refused to satisfy his hunger pangs and focused on his lust pangs.
She felt special, but there was a mix-up Their goals are different. The lady wants care, attention, and love. The guy wants a bedroom tango, period!
The contradiction of goals results in confusion of the soul. Two cannot walk together except they be agreed.
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Physicality of The Desires
Son 2:6 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
In no time, his manifesto begins in aggressive fulfillment of intentions.
The left hand should be busy with the meal but travels to the head and cradles it lovingly or “lustingly?”
The right hand encircles the waist. Desire travels into blood veins.
The heart races and gallops like a horse who just sighted waters! The rush of adrenaline colliding with dopamine!
Hey! Destinies are about to be ruptured. Glorious futures are about to be tainted. Promising ministry hopefuls are about to morph into miseries!
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Stirring and the Warning
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Oh, there comes a warning! Don’t do it. Don’t excite love!
In a moment, his voice and words are so gentle and caressing, the next moment, his biceps pins you to the wall in a wicked hold, because love has been excited. Be warned!
Eh singles, the time is not ripe. You are not ready! Don’t let the “glee” take over the “flee!” It is time to flee!
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer…
The gazelles and the wild deer know how to run from the enemy! Run! Flee!
Married couples, what would you be doing in a guest house with someone you are not married to?
Don’t go to that guest house or hotel again. Don’t go and meet him on campus again. Don’t frolic with him in the office again. Don’t take his money again, because his money controls you.
Take a cue from the gazelles and the wild deer. When they see the lion crouching, they take off. They are not ready to be preyed upon.
Don’t be a prey! Dear sisters, caution! Dear wives, caution!
God will guide you and the heavens will assist you!
When God created Adam, the first thing he saw was work. God told him to dress the garden. He bonded with work. Since all humanity was in Adam, we inherited the same disposition. That is why that man around you will always get his fulfillment from work.
When God created Eve, the first thing she saw was a man “toasting” her and staring at her beauty! That is why that woman around you loves to be “toasted,” and gets her fulfillment from home and family.
The man is work oriented and the woman is relationship oriented.
Why Are We So Different?
When a man is out of work or is not working, it affects his self-esteem. When a woman’s love life or family is in disarray, it affects her self-esteem.
When a man meets his friend after many years, the first question is “where do you work now?” When women meet each other after many years, they are showing pictures of the family from their phones!
A man is fulfilled after a good day of work. A woman is fulfilled if she has been loved up with tender loving care since morning!
Why Are We So Different?
Husbands who are workaholics need to be careful. It is a point of quarrel in your home and you may not really know! Ladies who neglect home and care for family need to be careful as well. It will always lead to issues when you fail to care for your home.
Men, leave work at work and don’t bring work home. When you are coming home, think family, think about your wife, be romantic, and your marriage will get better.
Ladies, show interest in your husbands while they work! It will work wonders! Men, go and talk to her while she is getting food ready in the kitchen. She is likely to find that romantic!
There must be balance! Don’t allow her to see your laptop as her rival. Study her love language and speak that language.
Ladies, guys are logical. Be involved in his thoughts. When you are disconnected from him, he gets jealous and he actually begins to think you are someone else!
Keep communication open. Talk about what has been bringing frustration and confront them, rather than sweep them under the carpet.
Why Are We So Different?
Be sincere with each other, and do not hide things from each other. Talk about how you feel, and don’t expect your spouse to be the Holy Spirit that knows all things.
Work like a team and don’t be grouchy over everything. Don’t get hurt by every statement. Be calm, and be patient. Lock the devil out of your home by walking in love with each other and praying for one another.
The same principles work for singles who are in courtship. Make sure there is balance. You can’t say you are busy at work and have not called her in one week! There will be issues. Also, you can’t expect her to be very happy when you are not working and yet you are planning a wedding. What if a man can’t find a job in time? Then find work to do. You may be out of a job, but never be out of work. Simply find something to do and while you are at it, heaven will kiss the earth on your behalf and help will arise for you!
3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want. Life is about change and adjustments. This devotional is not to spite men, but to call us to the responsibility God has given us as head of the home. It’s a huge responsibility.
If you fall into any category of men below, it’s time to change.
3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want
1. The night crawler You are no longer single. You are now married, and that reality needs to settle.
Why would a husband keep late nights? It just doesn’t speak well. If your wife has not been cooperative, the best response is to seek counsel and a solution and not some form of late-night moves.
Keeping your wife awake when she should be sleeping due to needless late-night paroles is not a good idea.
There are some environments that would naturally encourage cheating on her, you should not be found in such places again.
For those single, understand that you really don’t change after the wedding. So all bad habits should be expunged as a single.
2. The manipulator Here, the man uses his money or any other thing to coerce the wife into obedience.
At the end of the day, what you get is not obedience but a bitter, hurt, offended, and wounded wife. And that can be dangerous under the same roof.
These are abnormal relationships between couples. What God ordained is a loving, healthy relationship that will provide an enabling environment for the children to be raised.
As singles in relationships, don’t introduce money and gifts as rewards or punishments. The relationship will become money-driven and true love will escape into the air.
3. The non-spiritual husband Here, the man simply refuses to provide spiritual leadership for his wife and family.
He is evasive, full of excuses, and never puts God first place in their affairs.
He will never read his Bible. He will never pray.
The reality is that without a conscious and deliberate relationship with God, man will be incapacitated in providing any spiritual leadership.
Eyes are located in the head, so the man as the head of the house is supposed to give sight and vision to the family. The navigation system for the family and the compass lie with the man.
But the man can’t even see beyond his nose without God. His capacity for vision will be minimized.
For singles, ask a lot of questions and get to know properly who you are walking down the aisle with.
I will stop here this morning. These are the 3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want.
May your marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a great husband
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:7 (GW) Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your wives as those who share God’s life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
“Hullo dear, have you slept?” “No, I have not, I am listening! I heard the last thing you said.” The truth is that you have dozed off.
It has happened to me many times, and I am sure it has happened to you as well. My wife is talking to me on the bed, and I have dozed off. I am trying to listen to her because it is a legitimate need of hers, but the son of man is tired!
Somebody said women speak more words than men. A man speaks an average of ten thousand words in a day, but a woman speaks about twenty-five thousand words! There are exceptions, though.
The man is back from work and he has probably exhausted his 10,000 quota since he derives his self-esteem and fulfillment from work.
By the time he is coming back home, he is done for the day, words have been spoken with friends, colleagues, clients, employers, employees, on the phone and so on. He wants to come back home, eat, listen to news, check a few mails, make love to his wife and sleep!
The wife too has probably exhausted 10,000 words at work, but by the time she is home, she still has 15,000 words bubbling in her! It is even worse if she is a housewife! She has nobody to talk to and so people around her say she nags, making repetitions and all that. The fact is that she needs to talk!
So the wife asks her husband “How was work today?” He answers “Fine!” If he is in a good mood, he adds a few more words like, “oh baby, my day was cool, Thank God!”
She is worried he is not talking, but the guy is in no mood to talk.
The husband asks the wife, “how has your day been? And he regrets afterwards! That was all she needs to unleash the words that have been brewing in her like a molten magma. The volcanic eruption of words is so massive; the guy wants to walk away. So she starts from when she woke up, and goes on and on, and the man is wondering: “What did I ask, what is she narrating!”
You see, that is a woman for you and you must not mute her or shut her up! Let her talk! Don’t make a mistake of shouting her down all the time or quieting her! It is a legitimate need of hers.
When a woman has no fear of God and this legitimate need of hers has not been met, she might succumb to the traps of the devil and get that legitimate need met through illegitimate means, which of course will be detrimental to the marriage and the home!
There are people out there who are waiting to capitalize on your insensitivity to your wife and take advantage of that emotional gully created by lack of communication.
You see, a lady becomes emotionally connected to the person she talks to!
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My mouth is full of right words. The opening of my mouth is unto wisdom and grace.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Spirit of God, fill my mouth with right words over my spouse, children and family
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY (Pro 18:4) The words of a man’s mouth are as deep waters, and the wellspring of wisdom as a flowing brook.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Fix a time for a hearty discussion
Somebody said the most complex being that God created is a woman. I am not sure whether to agree to that. I leave you to conclude and be the judge. Perhaps, people will have different opinions based on their experiences.
I believe every lady has a key. And you don’t need to search for the keys of every woman. You only need one key, the one for your spouse! That’s all.
Once you have that key, you are good. Now, this key is not meant to be used to manipulate her emotions, where you become the master puppeteer with all the strings.
What we are talking about is having your fiancee’s password, learning it, using it to please her, and seeking to understand the great help that God is bringing into your life.
Our culture or environment might be saying you are doing a woman a favour when you marry her, but it is the other way round.
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When you find a woman, you find good and you bring favour into your life. Good things will begin to aggregate in your life!
That is why I normally pray for people, “You will not Shi-Marry! Bad English, good prayer! Because when you get married to the right woman, good things will happen to you. Conversely, if you get married to the wrong woman, it is like inviting a nemesis into one’s life!
May your path not cross with a strange woman who flatters with her mouth and whose path leads to hell. That is exactly what the scripture says!
It will do you well to understand the lady in your life, whether you are single or married.
Here are two things every lady wants her man to do daily.
1. Pray for or with her daily
That is very important. Thank God for your six-packs, but without some spiritual perks, you are finished.
Thank God for your phonetics, but if you don’t know how to speak in tongues, you are not ready to face the battles that come with raising a family and overcoming them.
Thank God for your bank account, but if you are spiritually bankrupt and you don’t know how to lead your family as a priest, trouble looms ahead.
2. Tell her “I love you” regularly, and mean it!
How can this be on the list? Well, that is very important to every lady. Women go through a variety of complex emotions that are often accompanied by self esteem issues, they just needed to be affirmed over and over again especially by the one they love!
Don’t allow people outside to help you complement your loved one outside lest she becomes distracted. How long do I have to do that daily? Well, maybe as often as you can. Do it as often as you have the opportunity.
Your fiancee lives on words. That is why average, women talk more than men. An average man speaks ten thousand words daily while an average woman is doing twenty-five thousand! Isn’t that huge?
She loves to be tickled with words. She might be acting like she is not enjoying it, but in reality she is. She is putting up that attitude because she wants more.
So when you tell your lady “I love you,” She goes like, hmmm…as if she is doubting you. In reality, within her, she doesn’t want you to stop and she wants you to repeat it again.
Let me pray for you this morning: I come against that wrong spirit in your relationship, I curse the spirit behind misunderstanding, quarrels, bitterness and acrimony. I destroy their powers in the name of Jesus. I release over you the balm of Gilead and I ask for healing over every hurt and wounds in the name of Jesus.
By the strength of my call, I ask that the love of God be shed abroad in your heart right now, I command every veil to be removed and I speak healing over your relationship/marriage in Jesus name! I declare you are free from that attack in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will love my spouse in God’s terms
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to end all issues leading to constant strife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground.” (1Pe 3:7, MSG)
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