Every woman has unique needs that shape her emotional, spiritual, relational, and practical well-being. While individual preferences may vary, there are universal desires rooted in God’s design for women as His beloved creations. Whether you’re a husband, father, brother, son, or friend, understanding these needs can help you love and support the ladies in your life more effectively. Here are some key areas to consider:
1. To Be Loved Unconditionally
At the core of every woman’s heart is the longing to be loved deeply and unconditionally. Ephesians 5:25 reminds husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—selflessly and sacrificially. This principle applies broadly: women want to feel cherished for who they are, not just what they do.
Show affection through words, actions, and thoughtful gestures.
Celebrate her uniqueness and remind her of her value.
Avoid conditional love (“If you do this, I’ll love you more”) and instead offer grace-filled acceptance.
2. To Feel Safe and Secure
Women desire environments where they feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually safe. A secure relationship provides stability, trust, and protection. Psalm 91:4 paints a picture of divine security: “He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings, you will find refuge.”
Create spaces free from judgment, criticism, or manipulation.
Protect her reputation and defend her honor.
Offer reassurance during times of uncertainty or fear.
3. To Be Heard and Understood
Listening is one of the greatest gifts you can give a woman. James 1:19 encourages us to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Women often express themselves verbally as a way to process emotions, share burdens, and connect relationally.
Give her your full attention when she speaks.
Validate her feelings, even if you don’t fully understand them.
Ask thoughtful questions to show genuine interest in her perspective.
Regarding relationships, men and women often have different expectations and desires. While individual preferences may vary, there are certain qualities that many men find attractive and desirable in a partner. Here are the top ten things that often top a man’s wish list for a woman:
1. Confidence
Men are undeniably drawn to confident women who exude self-assurance and aren’t afraid to showcase their worth. This confidence is not only sexy but also incredibly empowering, as it radiates a sense of self-acceptance and inner strength. When a woman is confident, she carries herself with poise and grace, making her even more beautiful and appealing to the opposite sex.
Confidence gives a woman an aura of independence, making her more attractive and desirable. It’s not about being arrogant or entitled but rather about deeply understanding one’s strengths, weaknesses, and values. A confident woman is unapologetically herself, unafraid to take risks, and willing to speak her mind. This infectious self-assurance makes her more charismatic and captivating to be around.
Moreover, confidence can enhance a woman’s physical appearance, making her features more striking and her presence more commanding. When she feels good about herself, she’s more likely to take care of her physical health, dress in a way that makes her feel confident, and carry herself with a sense of pride. This, in turn, can make her more attractive to men, as they’re drawn to her positive energy and self-assured demeanour.
What else are the Things a Man Wants in a Woman?
2. Emotional Intelligence
High emotional intelligence is desirable in a partner, and men are particularly drawn to women who possess this quality. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognise, understand, and manage one’s own emotions, as well as being empathetic and supportive towards the feelings of others. A woman with high emotional intelligence is better equipped to navigate the complexities of relationships, communicate effectively, and provide emotional support to her partner.
Men are attracted to women who can understand and validate their emotions rather than dismissing or minimising them. They want a partner who can create a safe and non-judgmental space for them to express themselves without fear of being criticised or belittled. A woman with high emotional intelligence can do just that, offering a listening ear, a comforting presence, and a supportive attitude that makes her partner feel seen, heard, and understood.
Moreover, a woman with high emotional intelligence is better equipped to manage conflicts and disagreements healthily and constructively. She can remain calm and composed, even in the face of adversity, and work towards finding a resolution that benefits both parties. This ability to navigate conflicts effectively is a major turn-on for men, indicating maturity, empathy, and commitment to the relationship.
Furthermore, a woman with high emotional intelligence is more likely to empathise and understand her partner’s needs, desires, and fears. She can put herself in his shoes and see things from his perspective, which fosters a deeper sense of connection and intimacy. This empathy also enables her to be more supportive and encouraging, helping her partner feel more confident and motivated.
A woman with high emotional intelligence is a valuable partner, offering a unique combination of emotional support, empathy, and conflict-resolution skills. Men are naturally drawn to these qualities, creating a sense of safety, trust, and connection essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
What else are the Things a Man Wants in a Woman?
3. Good Communication Skills
Effective communication is the backbone of any successful relationship, and men are particularly drawn to women who can express themselves clearly, openly, and honestly. When a woman can communicate her thoughts, feelings, and desires concisely and respectfully, it creates a sense of trust, understanding, and connection essential for a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
Men want a woman who can articulate her needs, desires, and boundaries without being aggressive, passive-aggressive, or vague. They want to know where they stand, what she’s thinking and feeling, and how they can support her. When a woman can communicate effectively, it eliminates misunderstandings, reduces conflicts, and fosters a sense of mutual respect and understanding.
Effective communication also helps to build intimacy and emotional connection. When a woman can express her emotions, desires, and fears openly, it creates a sense of vulnerability and trust, allowing her partner to feel closer to her. Men are drawn to women who can be open and honest about their feelings, as it will enable them to connect on a deeper level and provide emotional support.
Moreover, effective communication is a two-way street. Men want a woman who can express herself clearly, listen actively, and respond thoughtfully. When a woman can listen without judgment, ask clarifying questions, and respond empathetically, it creates a sense of safety and understanding, allowing her partner to feel heard and validated.
In addition, effective communication helps to prevent conflicts and misunderstandings. When a woman can clearly communicate her needs and desires, it reduces the likelihood of miscommunication and conflict. Men want a woman who can address issues as they arise rather than letting them simmer beneath the surface, causing resentment and tension.
We will continue on Top Ten Things a Man Wants in a Woman tomorrow.
So she followed him home or to some guest house for a meal.
Let’s just eat out.
May we not dine with the wrong person.
May we not eat up our destinies.
The guy had more plans than just the meal.
Son 2:4 (MSG) He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on me!
Ladies, be careful who buys free meals for you, you might be paying for it soonest.
Rather than for the guy to feast on the meal, his eyes were riveted on the damsel.
Essentially, men are moved by sight. Men, watch what you see. Ladies, watch what is seen.
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Reciprocity of the Feasting
Son 2:5 (MSG) Oh! Give me something refreshing to eat—and quickly! Apricots, raisins—anything. I’m about to faint with love!
Ladies are enthralled by attention and non-verbal expressions of love.
She was going to faint with love. She felt more important as the guy refused to satisfy his hunger pangs and focused on his lust pangs.
She felt special, but there was a mix-up Their goals are different. The lady wants care, attention, and love. The guy wants a bedroom tango, period!
The contradiction of goals results in confusion of the soul. Two cannot walk together except they be agreed.
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Physicality of The Desires
Son 2:6 (MSG) His left hand cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
In no time, his manifesto begins in aggressive fulfillment of intentions.
The left hand should be busy with the meal but travels to the head and cradles it lovingly or “lustingly?”
The right hand encircles the waist. Desire travels into blood veins.
The heart races and gallops like a horse who just sighted waters! The rush of adrenaline colliding with dopamine!
Hey! Destinies are about to be ruptured. Glorious futures are about to be tainted. Promising ministry hopefuls are about to morph into miseries!
For The Sisters, Ladies and Wives
The Stirring and the Warning
Son 2:7 (MSG) Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Oh, there comes a warning! Don’t do it. Don’t excite love!
In a moment, his voice and words are so gentle and caressing, the next moment, his biceps pins you to the wall in a wicked hold, because love has been excited. Be warned!
Eh singles, the time is not ripe. You are not ready! Don’t let the “glee” take over the “flee!” It is time to flee!
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer…
The gazelles and the wild deer know how to run from the enemy! Run! Flee!
Married couples, what would you be doing in a guest house with someone you are not married to?
Don’t go to that guest house or hotel again. Don’t go and meet him on campus again. Don’t frolic with him in the office again. Don’t take his money again, because his money controls you.
Take a cue from the gazelles and the wild deer. When they see the lion crouching, they take off. They are not ready to be preyed upon.
Don’t be a prey! Dear sisters, caution! Dear wives, caution!
God will guide you and the heavens will assist you!
When God created Adam, the first thing he saw was work. God told him to dress the garden. He bonded with work. Since all humanity was in Adam, we inherited the same disposition. That is why that man around you will always get his fulfillment from work.
When God created Eve, the first thing she saw was a man “toasting” her and staring at her beauty! That is why that woman around you loves to be “toasted,” and gets her fulfillment from home and family.
The man is work oriented and the woman is relationship oriented.
Why Are We So Different?
When a man is out of work or is not working, it affects his self-esteem. When a woman’s love life or family is in disarray, it affects her self-esteem.
When a man meets his friend after many years, the first question is “where do you work now?” When women meet each other after many years, they are showing pictures of the family from their phones!
A man is fulfilled after a good day of work. A woman is fulfilled if she has been loved up with tender loving care since morning!
Why Are We So Different?
Husbands who are workaholics need to be careful. It is a point of quarrel in your home and you may not really know! Ladies who neglect home and care for family need to be careful as well. It will always lead to issues when you fail to care for your home.
Men, leave work at work and don’t bring work home. When you are coming home, think family, think about your wife, be romantic, and your marriage will get better.
Ladies, show interest in your husbands while they work! It will work wonders! Men, go and talk to her while she is getting food ready in the kitchen. She is likely to find that romantic!
There must be balance! Don’t allow her to see your laptop as her rival. Study her love language and speak that language.
Ladies, guys are logical. Be involved in his thoughts. When you are disconnected from him, he gets jealous and he actually begins to think you are someone else!
Keep communication open. Talk about what has been bringing frustration and confront them, rather than sweep them under the carpet.
Why Are We So Different?
Be sincere with each other, and do not hide things from each other. Talk about how you feel, and don’t expect your spouse to be the Holy Spirit that knows all things.
Work like a team and don’t be grouchy over everything. Don’t get hurt by every statement. Be calm, and be patient. Lock the devil out of your home by walking in love with each other and praying for one another.
The same principles work for singles who are in courtship. Make sure there is balance. You can’t say you are busy at work and have not called her in one week! There will be issues. Also, you can’t expect her to be very happy when you are not working and yet you are planning a wedding. What if a man can’t find a job in time? Then find work to do. You may be out of a job, but never be out of work. Simply find something to do and while you are at it, heaven will kiss the earth on your behalf and help will arise for you!
3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want. Life is about change and adjustments. This devotional is not to spite men, but to call us to the responsibility God has given us as head of the home. It’s a huge responsibility.
If you fall into any category of men below, it’s time to change.
3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want
1. The night crawler You are no longer single. You are now married, and that reality needs to settle.
Why would a husband keep late nights? It just doesn’t speak well. If your wife has not been cooperative, the best response is to seek counsel and a solution and not some form of late-night moves.
Keeping your wife awake when she should be sleeping due to needless late-night paroles is not a good idea.
There are some environments that would naturally encourage cheating on her, you should not be found in such places again.
For those single, understand that you really don’t change after the wedding. So all bad habits should be expunged as a single.
2. The manipulator Here, the man uses his money or any other thing to coerce the wife into obedience.
At the end of the day, what you get is not obedience but a bitter, hurt, offended, and wounded wife. And that can be dangerous under the same roof.
These are abnormal relationships between couples. What God ordained is a loving, healthy relationship that will provide an enabling environment for the children to be raised.
As singles in relationships, don’t introduce money and gifts as rewards or punishments. The relationship will become money-driven and true love will escape into the air.
3. The non-spiritual husband Here, the man simply refuses to provide spiritual leadership for his wife and family.
He is evasive, full of excuses, and never puts God first place in their affairs.
He will never read his Bible. He will never pray.
The reality is that without a conscious and deliberate relationship with God, man will be incapacitated in providing any spiritual leadership.
Eyes are located in the head, so the man as the head of the house is supposed to give sight and vision to the family. The navigation system for the family and the compass lie with the man.
But the man can’t even see beyond his nose without God. His capacity for vision will be minimized.
For singles, ask a lot of questions and get to know properly who you are walking down the aisle with.
I will stop here this morning. These are the 3 Types of Men Women Don’t Want.
May your marriage be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am wise
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be a great husband
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:7 (GW) Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your wives as those who share God’s life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
