Take a cue from Adam, it was when Adam slept that God was able to perfect the presentation of his wife. You have been too noisy and too mobile, go and sit down somewhere and let God do His work! Think about it, upon all your sweet mouth and relationship skills, where is the loved one?
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; (Genesis 2:21 KJV)
Learn from Adam, and go to sleep.
The responsibility of God is to cause a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; the responsibility of Adam is to sleep. Adam could say, “No way, I am not sleeping!” But the scripture says he slept!
When he slept, God went to work.
No wonder the scriptures say:
Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. (Psalms 46:10 KJV)
Yes, be still. Stop sampling around! How can one brother propose to seven sisters in the same church? Who is leading you? Each time, you keep saying, “God said..” Are you sure God said?
Be still, then you will see God in your relationship or marriage. Ladies, stop being suggestive and stop spending your money to buy things for him. Let God help you by calming down! How I love the Message Translation:
“Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.” (Psalms 46:10 Message)
Yes, step out of the traffic. Focus on God and you will surely see His salvation in your relationship and marriage!
To married men, you are not only to sleep, you are to die! The Scripture admonishes that you are to love your wife as Christ loves the church. How did Christ love the church? He died for her. In the same way, loving your wife appropriately involves dying to your preferences sometimes, dying to your desires sometimes, and prioritizing her needs! May God give husbands understanding!
I started yesterday on this topic. Will continue this morning.
2. For man, work came before marriage And the Lord God took the man and put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. (Genesis 2:15 KJV)
God gave Adam work before ever giving him a wife. God’s order is not coincidental. It is a deliberate order that is meant to communicate wisdom that work is the first thing to get before getting a wife. Speaking in tongues alone will not feed your wife; you’ve got to work. If you are jobless, you can create work for yourself.
To be without work is to resign yourself to fate. While you are busy waiting for that dream job, find work to do. Volunteer somewhere, and that might even get you a job!
Without work, your wife will not likely show-up! Don’t let your life stop because you haven’t gotten that job. There is a creativity packaged inside you that needs to be discovered. Joblessness is an opportunity to discover work; the gifts of God embedded in you that will bring you to your wealthy place. Discover your gifts, develop them, and simply deploy them.
3. There is a difference between aloneness and loneliness And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18 KJV)
Man was alone, but not lonely. When you are lonely, you are not ready for marriage yet. When you are alone, you are ready!
Marriage or courtship will not cure loneliness. If you don’t agree, ask some married people ‘is it possible to be married and be lonely?” They will give you a resounding Yes!
Many wives see their husbands daily and yet very lonely! So, as a single, you need to understand that loneliness cannot be eliminated by marriage or by sex. You increase the emptiness by trying to fill it with sex. Only Jesus can fill that emptiness.
Signs of loneliness in your life are an indication that there is still a void to be filled by your maker. It is an indication that you need to pay attention to your spiritual life and you need to go on a journey of identity discovery in the scriptures! Don’t ignore it, rather go on a spiritual adventure through reading, studying, and meditating on God’s word. You will come up stronger and better and ready to face life!
God’s word has solutions to all problems on earth and in heaven. Nothing else will be done or given to men that will improve upon God’s word. It is the complete counsel of God.
You can find a husband in God’s Word.
You can locate your wife in God’s Word. The scriptures teach us how to have a good home and family life.
The scriptures contain the wisdom required to rule in this world’s affairs. People seek love, husbands, wives, and relationships in all the wrong places.
Online dating sites are not the best place to go! Nightclubs and gatherings are not the locations to look for meaningful connections. Where shall I go, pastor? Go to God’s Word! Your response is waiting for you there.
When you are perplexed, God’s word is available to help you deal with it and fill your heart with light, which will dispel all confusion. When you are depressed, God’s word is available to destroy your depression and replace it with the joy of the Holy Spirit.
When you are hurt, wounded, and offended, God’s word is there to heal every wound and give you recompense of all deeds.
When you are filled with unforgiving tendencies, God’s word is there to give you the inner strength to do the godly and the needful.
This morning, what can Singles and Married Couples learn from Adam and Eve?
1. Man was made from the breath of God. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7 KJV)
You will never be able to achieve much in your marital endeavors without God. God is the source of your life; He will also be the sustenance of your relationships and marriage.
You will never be able to achieve much without Him. There is no point wasting your time by ignoring Him or by kicking against His instructions. The earlier you flow with God and not with man, the better!
The earlier you learn to converse with Him on a personal basis and quit looking for some prophet, the better. Most of the so-called prophets are prophets for profit; they will collect your money and tell you lies.
You are the prophet of your own life, so develop a deliberate relationship with God and take charge of your destiny!
God was the one who created Adam in His likeness and image.
Looking at the Godhead, we will know that God created man to be like Him. That is why we have God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. They are in perfect harmony, yet different in personality and functionality.
Genesis 2:18 CEV [18] The Lord God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.”
Genesis 2:21-22 CEV [21] So the Lord God made him fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, [22] the Lord made a woman out of the rib. The Lord God brought her to the man,
God knew perfectly what He had created and knew how best it would function. He knew the man would not be optimally efficient, so He made the woman solely for this purpose. To complement and complete the man.
The woman was custom-made for the man. She is the help needed, fit, suitable, adaptable, meet, right for him, sufficient, complementary, perfect, complement to him, companion he needs, one just right for him, one who balances him, a counterpart who is suitable and complementary to him, companion suitable for helping him, a suitable companion he needs…
All these qualities are what describe the help God provided for Adam.
Can you trust God in all His Almightiness that the helper He has given you, is the best for you?
Can the helper trust God enough to believe she possesses all these qualities? And that God packaged her, with all her gifts to help the man?
Husbands and wives, can you trust God enough that you are fulfilled and complete with each other? That all you will ever need is packaged in your wife.
She may not look like it. He may not look worthy of your companionship.
Your wife was never meant to be exactly like you. Rice and stew are complementary but very different.
Enjoy your wife, she is God’s best for you.
Wives, be satisfied with your husband, that is the one you were sent to.
Let’s begin to trust God afresh.
Dear single guys, every lady around you is to be protected and not violated! An understanding of this will start preparing you to become that man that God wants and can trust!
Overcoming Wicked Spirits That Manipulate and Deceive
Valentine’s is tomorrow! This wicked spirit will be in operation! Beware
What do I mean?
Yesterday, I established that the spirit realm is filled with good and bad spirits.
We are not supposed to yield to these bad spirits that are wicked. We are supposed to yield to the Spirit of God!
There are wicked spirits that operate through manipulation and deception.
How can one identify these spirits? How can one protect themselves from such influences?
Do you remember the story of Samson and Delilah?
Jdg 16:4 (KJV) And it came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah.
Loving this particular woman was the beginning of Samson’s nemesis.
The lords of the Philistines have tried several means to snuff out the life of Samson but to no avail. They were frustrated each time. They resorted to using Delilah.
Delilah obliged having been promised some large chunk of money!
Three times, Samson deceived Delilah and in those three times, he saw clearly that Delilah was after his life!
But he still became a victim?
How?
There was the operation of wicked spirits employing manipulation and deception.
Jdg 16:15 (AMPC+) And she said to him, How can you say, I love you, when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times and have not told me in what your great strength lies.
How many times have you heard this statement?
And you say you love me? That was what Delilah used and Samson fell for it. This same statement will fly around a lot on Valentine’s Day! Please don’t fall for it! Don’t lose your virginity if you still have one! And even if you are not one, don’t sleep around on that day!
The goal of this manipulative and deceiving spirit is constant harassment till you yield.
Jdg 16:16 (AMPC+) And when she pressed him day after day with her words and urged him, he was vexed to death.
Samson fell asleep on her lap!
A lot of destinies have fallen asleep, and hibernated under the influence of these wicked spirits!
You will not be caught sleeping when you should be awake in Jesus’ name!
Jdg 16:21 (MSG) The Philistines grabbed him, gouged out his eyes, and took him down to Gaza. They shackled him in irons and put him to the work of grinding in the prison.
They eventually caught him and the first thing was to take out his eyes! That is the goal of this wicked spirit, to make you stop reading and studying God’s word!
Your eyes will not be taken out!
We judge every wicked spirit operating through manipulation and deception in Jesus’ name!
