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7 Ways To Make Your Marriage Better

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | Apr 8, 2025 | Singles and Married

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7 Ways To Make Your Marriage Better

Marriage is a beautiful journey—but let’s be real, it’s not always easy. It’s not just about the big wedding day or picture-perfect moments. It’s about the everyday choices—the small acts of love, patience, and grace that keep you connected.

Here’s some heartfelt advice for married couples, from one journeying soul to another:

1. Talk… Really Talk

Don’t just talk about the kids or bills. Talk about how you’re really doing. Share your heart, your dreams, your worries. Open communication is like fresh air—it keeps your marriage alive.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt…” – Colossians 4:6

2. Be Kind, Even on Hard Days

We all have those days where we’re tired or stressed. But remember—your spouse is not the enemy. A kind word or small act of love can soften even the hardest moments.

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

3. Say ‘I’m Sorry’ and Mean It

We mess up. We say the wrong thing. We forget to listen. That’s life. But owning your mistakes and choosing to make things right is what keeps the foundation strong.

“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” – James 5:16

4. Make Time for Just the Two of You

Life gets busy—kids, work, ministry, responsibilities. But your marriage needs attention. Steal those little moments. A quick coffee, a walk after dinner, a chat before bed—it matters.

“There is a time for everything… a time to embrace.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1, 5

5. Pray Together

Prayer keeps you both grounded. It’s not about being super spiritual; it’s about inviting God into your marriage. Even if it’s just a short prayer before sleep, it creates unity.

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” – Matthew 18:20

6. Stop Comparing Your Marriage to Others

No two marriages are the same. What works for your friend may not work for you. And that’s okay. Focus on your own love story.

“Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.” – Galatians 6:4

7. Don’t Forget to Laugh

Laughter is medicine. It breaks tension and brings joy. Dance in the living room, make silly jokes, remember your inside stories—these things matter more than we realize.

“A cheerful heart is good medicine…” – Proverbs 17:22

Marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s about two people choosing to love, forgive, and grow—every single day. With God in the center and love as your anchor, you’ll keep weathering the storms and celebrating the sunshine.

Keep choosing love. Keep choosing each other. Take it one day at a time.