Financial Compatibility and Your Love Life 

Financial Compatibility and Your Love Life 

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Financial Compatibility and Your Love Life 

For singles and couples, the issue of financial compatibility will always come to the fore because finances are an essential part of love life. The reality is that when financial issues are out of the way, more than fifty percent of the problems are solved. 

Financial compatibility is important because it is dangerous to marry someone whose financial principles and practices are polarized to you. This doesn’t mean you are financial experts but what it means is that you should be on the same page so that you can synergize together. 

Here Are Conversations You Should Have

1. Financial History: What has been the financial history? How has your potential spouse been handling finances?  As newly married, you will immediately notice that your partner’s financial habit before the wedding prevails within your home. It is good to have these conversations!                                                                              

2. Budgeting Together: Have you discussed budgeting, planning, and spending? What amount goes for which? What are the priorities? As engaged or newly married couples, are you on the same page? Do you consult one another before major spending?

3. Financial Goals: What are the plans? This should be discussed! When are you going to start developing your property? What kind of school are the children going to? What kind of income streams are in the pipeline?

4. Debts and Savings: Are there debts before the wedding? Light or huge debt? Are there serious and chronic debt habit that needs attention and counseling? You cannot close your eyes to all these indications. As a newlywed, are you servicing debt with all your income like in Nigeria? Lol…

5. Crisis Management: What are the financial plans in place in emergencies? What are the options? Have you decided that you will never use a loan to take care of another debt? What are the immediate plans to stop addictions from constantly patronizing loan apps?

These and more conversations will help you when it comes to finances and your love life.

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Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

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Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

Once upon a time, in a bustling city filled with bright lights and fast-paced lives, there lived a young couple named Buddy and Stella.

They were deeply in love and committed to building a relationship grounded in understanding and connection.

One evening, as they sat on the rooftop of their house, Stella shared her dreams and aspirations with Buddy. 

Instead of merely hearing her words, Buddy decided to listen truly. He put away his phone, looked into Stella’s eyes, and let her pour out her heart. He nodded, smiled, and used his body language to show he was fully present and engaged.

When Stella finished speaking, Buddy took a moment to gather his thoughts. He summarized and rephrased what she had shared, ensuring he understood her correctly. 

Stella’s face lit up with excitement. She felt truly seen and understood by Buddy’s active listening. It made her feel valued and cherished, knowing that he was genuinely interested in her passions and dreams.

They delved into conversations about life, faith, and their shared purpose. Questions like, “What impact do you hope to make in the world?” and “What are your wildest dreams and how can I support you in achieving them?” became the fuel for their connection.

In moments of vulnerability, they acknowledged each other’s emotions, just as Jesus did with compassion and understanding. 

When Buddy faced setbacks in his career, Stella listened without judgment, providing a safe space for him to express his frustrations. And when Stella experienced self-doubt in her emotions, Buddy offered unwavering support and reminded her of her inner strength! 

Most importantly, Buddy and Stella learned to avoid interruptions and assumptions. They realized that true understanding required patience and the willingness to hear each other out completely. They were quick to listen and slow to speak, just as the Scriptures advised.

Their love story continued to flourish as they embraced the art of radical listening. Their relationship became a haven of trust, where they could freely express themselves and find solace in the other’s understanding. 

They discovered that active listening was the key to unlocking a love that transcends generations—a love that speaks the language of the heart and nurtures the souls of both singles and couples.

And so, their love story continues to inspire others, reminding them of the power of radical listening. This power can ignite flames of love and understanding in the hearts of a generation yearning for authentic connection.

For Singles:

  1. Are you actively practicing radical listening in your friendships and potential romantic relationships? How can you incorporate the principles of active listening into your interactions?
  2. What are your deepest passions, dreams, and aspirations? How can you find someone who will truly listen and support you in pursuing those dreams?
  3. Reflecting on your past relationships, were there instances where active listening could have made a positive difference? How can you improve your listening skills in future relationships?

For Couples:

  1. How well do you currently practice active listening in your relationship? Are there areas where you can improve to foster deeper understanding and connection?
  2. What open-ended questions can you ask your partner to foster meaningful conversations and explore each other’s dreams and aspirations?
  3. How do you acknowledge and validate each other’s emotions in moments of vulnerability? Are there any specific ways you can enhance your empathy and support for each other?

For Singles and Couples:

  1. Reflecting on the story, what is one action you can take today to become a more active and empathetic listener in your relationships?
  2. How can you create intentional moments of undistracted listening with your partner or potential partner?
  3. Are there any assumptions or interruptions that you need to be more mindful of in your communication? How can you practice being quick to listen and slow to speak?

Good morning!




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Anxiety – The Bliss Choker

Anxiety – The Bliss Choker

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Anxiety – The Bliss Choker

In today’s world, it is so easy to fall into the temptation of getting all worked up or worried or anxious about so many things.

Our relationships as singles are not spared from this strategy of hell to snuff joy, understanding, and bliss from them.

You will always see ladies more beautiful, more caring, more understanding, richer, and more respectful than your fiance or fiancee. Make up your mind with the help of God to stay focused on your partner.

You will always have desires, especially of material things. Don’t focus on what you don’t have and get anxious or agitated about those things

Celebrate your partner. Be intentional about seeing the best in each other.

Appreciate what you have and leave what you don’t have.

The same goes for us Couples. Other ladies and men will not suddenly become ugly. There will still be countless good men out there. Don’t compare the qualities of other women and men to your spouse.

Accept and love your spouse the way they are. 

We are all a work in progress. The human tendency is to complain about what God has given you. The more you complain the more you will have reasons to complain. The more you appreciate your spouse the more grateful you are for them.

Don’t become anxious, especially about the good things of life, you don’t have YET. A pregnant woman does not envy the woman carrying her baby. They both carry something, it’s just a matter of time and the pregnant one will also carry her baby.

These things are not bad in themself but when you have your mind focused on them, they tend to choke the bliss out of your marriage.

Philippians 4:6 NIV   
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 

Enjoy your spouse. Thank God for the spouse God has given you. What you lack now, will become plenty only if you have the right attitude of thanksgiving. 

Material prosperity will come. Let us learn to enjoy ourselves on the way to our destination.

God does not want us to be worried and get preoccupied with things we don’t have.

He expects us to make our request known to our maker through prayers.

Enjoy your spouse. Enjoy your children. Enjoy where you are and what you have in the present.

God bless you!




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My Dear, Cooperate With Your Maker!

My Dear, Cooperate With Your Maker!

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My Dear, Cooperate With Your Maker!

My dear and most especially, God’s dearest, I bring you a word from the Lord this morning! 

Single or married, this word is for you! Please pay attention to the words and take heed of them.

Let’s dive into it!

Psa 95:8-11 (MSG) “Don’t turn a deaf ear as in the Bitter Uprising, As on the day of the Wilderness Test, [9] when your ancestors turned and put me to the test. [10] For forty years they watched me at work among them, as over and over they tried my patience. And I was provoked—oh, was I provoked! ‘Can’t they keep their minds on God for five minutes? Do they simply refuse to walk down my road?’ [11] Exasperated, I exploded, ‘They’ll never get where they’re headed, never be able to sit down and rest.’

Many people, rather than cooperate with God, are putting God to the test, trying His patience and provoking Him with their carelessness and insensitivity!

Thank God He is a merciful God, full of loving kindness and tender mercies!

That is our saving grace! 

However, we cannot continue to test His patience and behave like stubborn little kids!

God wants you to keep your mind on Him!

Regarding every decision you make, who to marry, loving the one you have married, staying faithful, avoiding bickering and strife, and so on, God wants you to keep your mind on Him! When your mind is on Him, you will behave!

The punishment for the Israelites in the above text is non-arrival! Their dreams were never fulfilled! They worked tirelessly and struggled with nothing to show at the end of the day! They wandered and meandered and yet never reached their destination!

These will not be our portion! 

The scripture made it clear these things were written to serve as our examples! We must not repeat the same mistakes!

Dear singles and couples, decide to cooperate with your maker! Decide to listen to His word and His Instructions. Decide to live for Him and you will find all things working together for your good!

Good morning! 




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March Into His Presence!

March Into His Presence!

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March Into His Presence! Welcome to March! March has always been a special month for us. The month of March was when our ministry was inaugurated. I was still single at the time. 12th March 1998 to be precise, the same day Archbishop Benson Idahosa went home. 

The month of March was when my fiancee, then, said yes!  One of our sons was born on the 1st of March as well. 

God has given us a word for this month. Let’s take a look. 

Psa 95:2 (MSG) Let’s MARCH into his presence singing praises, lifting the rafters with our hymns!

It’s time to March into God’s presence this month! The attitude with which to do that is specifically indicated; We are to do that singing and lifting rafters with our hymns!

What are those issues that have been sources of concern to you? Are there bills you need to pay? Are there debts you need to clear? Are there enormous dreams that seem unrealizable?

Well, I have news for you! March into His presence! Discard complaints and murmuring, rather lift your voice in singing and worship unto the name of the Lord!

The next verse is powerful.

Psa 95:3 (MSG) And why? Because GOD is the best, High King over all the gods.

Why should you Sing? Why should you rejoice in the midst of contradictions and seemingly unanswered prayers?

The answer is right there. God is the best! 

Not just that, He is king over all other gods! 

No other gods or person should scare you. God is King over them. 

He is the best father you can ever have.

This month, you will sing! This month you will rejoice! Something beautiful will surely happen in your life this month in Jesus’ name! 

Make that decision. March into His presence. Practice His presence this month and you will see God doing the best for you!

Good morning! 




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