Love isn’t built in a day, like we desire it to. It’s planted, watered, nurtured, and pruned. Four hard tasks. In other words, love actually screams work!
Too many people want the flowers of love—the romance, the connection, the companionship, the communication, the oneness—without committing to the gardening. But gardens don’t bloom because we wish them to. They bloom because someone gets their hands dirty.
In relationships, planting looks like intentionality—choosing someone, showing up consistently, building trust. You have to be intentional about your relationship—right from choosing someone.
Watering looks like kind words, small acts of service, listening, and forgiveness.
Pruning? That’s probably the tough one. It means removing habits, attitudes, and even friendships that threaten the health of your love. Why are you still chatting with your ex and hiding it from your spouse? Why are you still hanging out with him/her without your spouse? That relationship has to go! That’s pruning.
So, gardens need work. Neglect a garden long enough and weeds grow—resentment, silence, pride, selfishness. And soon, something that once had promise becomes overgrown with pain.
If you’re single, ask yourself: Am I becoming someone who knows how to garden love, or just someone who wants to enjoy its beauty?
If you’re married, ask: Have we been nurturing our garden, or have we let weeds grow unchecked?
The best gardens aren’t the ones with the rarest seeds. They’re the ones who were cared for every single day. They had the best gardeners who did the work.
So today, tend your garden.
Pull out a weed. Plant a word. Water with prayer. And trust God for the increase.
Solomon had everything: wisdom, wealth, power, and influence. He had experienced life to the fullest, yet he came to a conclusion that none of it could truly satisfy. Despite having everything most people dream of, he realized they were all ultimately “meaningless,” like chasing the wind.
Ecclesiastes 1:14 (NIV): “I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind.”
It’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of what we think will bring us fulfillment. It could be a relationship, a promotion, a certain way of life—believing that once we get it, we will feel complete. But even when we do reach those goals, we’re often left asking, “Is this it?” That’s what Solomon is pointing out.
Ecclesiastes 2:11 says, “When I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind; nothing was gained under the sun.”
These things can never fully satisfy us because they aren’t meant to. They’re fleeting, temporary, and ultimately hollow when placed at the center of our hearts.
This doesn’t mean that relationships, careers, or achievements are bad. They can be wonderful gifts when we view them through the lens of God’s will. But when we place our identity and sense of worth in them, they become idols.
This is why having a relationship with God is so important. It’s not about going through the motions or only turning to Him in times of need—it’s about having a daily encounter with Him that will shape every aspect of our lives.
Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” When we make God the center of our lives, everything else falls into place. We stop looking to temporary things to fulfill us and begin to find our peace, worth, and joy in Him alone.
Jesus made it clear in John 15:5: “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me, you can do nothing.” Just as a branch cannot survive without being connected to the vine, we can’t truly live without being rooted in God. Our sense of purpose and fulfillment flows directly from our relationship with Him. Without that connection, we are like a branch that just withers and dies.
Conclusion: The truth is, no matter how hard we chase after things—relationships, success, or approval—if they’re not rooted in God, they will leave us feeling empty. True satisfaction comes not from what we achieve or accumulate but from knowing God deeply and making Him the center of our lives. So let’s stop chasing what will never satisfy and start pursuing the One who gives our lives true meaning, purpose, and peace.
Single or married, we are all believing that God will bless the work of our hands. God is interested in doing this, especially when that work of our hands is in alignment with His purpose for our lives both here and eternally.
The best place we can enjoy God’s blessings is when we are right at the center of His will and purpose for our lives!
The scriptures say here:
Deu 28:12 (KJV) The LORD shall open unto thee his good treasure, the heaven to give the rain unto thy land in his season, and to bless all the work of thine hand: and thou shalt lend unto many nations, and thou shalt not borrow.
There is a good treasure of God that can be closed or opened. There needs to be cooperation between heaven and earth wherein the land in its season gets rain given from heaven.
The blessing of the work of our hands can be exemplified in the reality of being a victor and not a victim, where you can be the owner of a loan-giving company and not owe several loan sharks who keep calling friends and families with threats.
All of these dynamics can be found in just one verse! This verse needs to be studied, as a panacea to lack and poverty, as a way out of famine!
We all know the chief cause of famine can be a lack of rain, right?
Let’s take a look at another transition.
Deu 28:12 (MSG) GOD will throw open the doors of his sky vaults and pour rain on your land on schedule and bless the work you take in hand. You will lend to many nations but you yourself won’t have to take out a loan.
Hey! He will pour out rain on your land on schedule!
Isn’t that powerful?
You will lend to nations and won’t have to take a loan!
A good prayer here is this:
Lord, throw open the sky vaults and pour rain on my land in Jesus’ name!
This is a powerful revelation I got from a man of God and I would love to share it with you.
The Bible refers to the devil as a roaring lion. Actually, the devil is a toothless, powerless lion who just scares its ignorant victims by roaring at them.
1 Peter 5:8 [KJV] Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
However, the Bible tells us that this roaring lion walks about seeking whom he may devour. That means he can’t devour everybody. He has to seek the type of people he may devour.
Now lions don’t eat fruits, they only eat flesh. Flesh will attract the lion anytime.
The Bible talks about the works of the flesh.
In Gal 5:19-21 we read the works of the flesh
Galatians 5:19-21 [KJV] Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
That means if we still have the works of the flesh in us, we will attract the devil, and then he may seek to devour us.
In 2025, we must eliminate the works of the flesh from our dealings in our marriages, and every aspect of our lives.
The fruits that the Holy Spirit within us grows are recorded in Galatians 5
Galatians 5:22-24 [KJV] But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
Let our goal this year be to develop the fruits of the spirit more. Just like Jesus, when he was on earth, the devil could not find any works of the flesh in Him. He lived in total victory.
Do you want to experience total Victory in your life? Then, focus more on developing the fruits of the Spirit because lions (the devil) don’t eat fruits.
In the heart of the African savanna, where golden grass sways under the warm breeze and the great Mukwa Tree stands tall, lived Naledi and Temba. Their village was one of tradition and community, where life followed the cycles of nature and the wisdom of the elders guided daily living. Naledi, known for her grace and strength, and Temba, a respected hunter, were a celebrated couple. However, as time passed, the harmony in their home began to unravel.
Naledi and Temba: The Early Days
Naledi moved with the agility of a gazelle and possessed a beauty that rivaled the first light of dawn. Temba, strong and brave, provided sustenance and security for their people. Their union had been blessed by the elders, but differences in their upbringings led to growing discord. Temba’s dissatisfaction and Naledi’s confusion and hurt became evident in their interactions.
Contrasting Upbringings
Naledi’s upbringing was marked by strength and self-reliance, traits she learned from her resilient mother. In contrast, Temba was raised in a household filled with love and affection, where his mother ensured that her husband felt cherished every day. These differences created a chasm between Naledi and Temba, leading to frequent arguments and misunderstandings.
The Wisdom of Uncle
Noticing the growing rift, the village elder, Uncle, called Naledi and Temba to his hut. Uncle, a man of great wisdom, shared the story of the warrior and the maiden, who faced similar challenges. He advised Naledi and Temba to learn from each other and respect each other’s ways to bridge their differences and find happiness.
Uncle’s Advice for Naledi
Uncle provided specific advice to Naledi on how to make Temba happy:
1. Respect and Honour: Honor Temba both publicly and privately in words, thoughts, and deeds.
2. Shared Decisions: Share her thoughts and listen to Temba’s, allowing him to make the final decision.
3. Cheerfulness: Maintain a cheerful demeanor and share her joys and sorrows with Temba.
4. Playfulness: Engage in playful activities to ease the pressures of life.
5. Avoid Nagging: Speak with kindness and patience, avoiding constant complaining.
6. Intimacy: Embrace moments of love and maintain a warm connection.
7. Priority: Assure Temba that he is not competing for her love or attention.
8. Prayer: Pray for Temba’s wisdom, strength, and understanding daily.
Trials and Tribulations
Despite Uncle’s guidance, a severe drought struck the village, causing the rivers to dry up and crops to wither. Temba’s hunts were unsuccessful, leading to his frustration and resentment. Naledi, feeling overwhelmed by survival demands, found it hard to maintain cheerfulness. Their arguments intensified, but Uncle reminded them to respect each other’s ways and support each other through the difficult times.
A Lesson in Unity
Inspired by Uncle’s words, Naledi and Temba made a renewed effort to support each other. Naledi involved Temba in decision-making, and Temba began to appreciate Naledi’s hard work and resilience. They found joy in simple pleasures and strengthened their bond through playfulness and emotional connection.
The Return of Prosperity
After many moons, the rains returned, reviving the savanna. The village celebrated with a grand feast. Naledi and Temba’s relationship, now stronger, radiated harmony and joy. Uncle praised their transformation, emphasizing the importance of understanding, respect, and emotional connection in love.
The Legacy of Love
Years later, Naledi and Temba became elders, sharing their wisdom with younger generations. Their story became a cherished part of the village’s folklore, reminding everyone of the power of love and unity. The tale of the warrior and the maiden, and Uncle’s wisdom, continued to guide the villagers.
Conclusion
The story of Naledi and Temba teaches that with understanding, respect, and a willingness to grow together, love can endure and thrive. Their journey through conflict and hardship shows the importance of appreciating each other’s strengths and differences. May their story inspire us to nurture our relationships and find strength in unity, no matter the trials we face.
