11 Marriages That Must Not Take Place By Dr. D.K Olukoya

11 Marriages That Must Not Take Place By Dr. D.K Olukoya

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11 Marriages That Must Not Take Place By Dr. D.K Olukoya

Introduction

I agree that wrong marriages can seriously damage our lives and futures. In this post, I will discuss Dr. Olukoya’s guidelines on 40 types of marriages that must be avoided. By learning to identify and steer clear of such unions, we can protect ourselves from unnecessary hardship. I will explore each kind of problematic marriage and explain why it should not take place.

Number 1. Fast food marriages.

Fast food marriages are based solely on physical attraction and lustful desires, rather than true love and compatibility. When the initial infatuation fades, as it always does, the relationship collapses. Marrying for looks or sexual chemistry alone is a recipe for divorce once those surface-level attractions disappear.

Number 2. Serpent in the pocket marriages.

A “serpent in the pocket” marriage is one where one spouse hides their real character flaws and intentions until after the wedding. Once committed, the deceptive person’s true colors emerge, often in a toxic manner that poisons the relationship. Founding a marriage on deception lays the groundwork for major betrayal and breach of trust down the road.

Number 3. Marrying the enemy.

Marrying someone you perceive as an enemy or competitor is asking for trouble. Unresolved negative feelings like dislike, mistrust, or a history of conflict do not make for a solid foundation for marriage. Even minor disagreements can easily escalate when underlying enmity exists. It is usually best to maintain distance from adversaries rather than legally binding yourself to them through marriage. Trying to change an enemy into a spouse often backfires.

Number 4. Marrying late in life hastily.

Those marrying later in life after previous relationships have ended may feel lonely or pressured to settle down quickly. However, rushing into marriage without properly evaluating the partner’s character can be imprudent. When loneliness or deadlines override good judgment, marriages entered into hastily tend to end in regret. It is wise not to compromise the standards of a compatible life partner just to avoid singleness. Taking the time to know someone fully is critical for long-term success.

Number 5. Half and half marriages.

Half-and-half marriages combine two incompatible halves that are doomed to clash. This occurs when partners of different faiths, cultures, or backgrounds enter marriage with unresolved differences. Over time, disagreements over issues like religion, in-laws, or child-rearing tend to intensify rather than diminish tension. For lasting peace, spouses must be fully united.

Number 6. Red Cross Society marriages.

Red Cross Society marriages refer to unions formed due to accidental pregnancy before marriage. While having a child does require responsibility, rushing to marry the other parent does not guarantee the couple is ready or suited to building a healthy family together long-term. Careful discernment is still needed.

Number 7. Demonic consultation marriages.

Demonic consultation marriages were explained as occurring when a partner seeks guidance from occult forces like astrology, witch doctors, or other ungodly sources rather than relying on God’s will. Putting faith in spiritual powers runs contrary to biblical teaching and exposes the marriage to harmful manipulation and control from demonic entities. God alone should direct our paths.

Number 8. Witchcraft marriages.

Witchcraft marriages are those involving spouses with a background or family history steeped in witchcraft, idolatry, or other demonic practices. Such spiritual baggage has toxic consequences, as the marriage itself may become a battleground for conflicting spiritual influences and ideologies that undermine harmony.

Number 9. Syringe marriages.

Syringe marriages occur when a partner has a history of drug abuse or addiction. Substance issues often stem from deeper problems, and getting clean is a long process even after rehab. Marrying an unreformed addict risks exposing yourself and any future children to harm from relapses or associated unhealthy behaviors. Stability must be established first before committing to such a union.

Number 10. Diabetes marriages.

Diabetes marriages involve partners with uncontrolled medical conditions like diabetes that require intensive management. The strain of caring for an ill spouse’s needs can drain both physical and emotional resources from the relationship. Health must be reasonably stable to ensure both spouses’ well-being and ability to fulfill their roles before marriage

Number 11. Marrying out of pity.

Marrying out of pity rather than genuine love or compatibility is unfair to both partners. Pity seeks to fulfill an ego need to help someone, but true care requires considering the other person’s long-term well-being and ensuring the relationship is healthy for both sides. Otherwise, it risks becoming a crutch rather than a partnership.

In conclusion, while the heart wants what it wants, marriage is not merely an emotional affair but a serious life commitment. Entering without fully considering factors like spirituality, values, health, background, and long-term goals nearly guarantees problems down the road. Rather than acting on fleeting feelings or circumstances, take time to carefully discern true compatibility in all areas before making a vow. Building on a firm foundation of mutual understanding and agreement increases the chances of a stable, fruitful union.

Knowing Who To Marry

Knowing Who To Marry

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Knowing Who To Marry

What is that one thing that is also important in considering who to marry? His faith is important.

Mostly because his faith will influence yours.

It is his faith in God, that will cause him to have the fear of God.

If he has the fear of God, he will never cheat on you.

He would rather protect you and care for you.

He would have the wisdom to live with you and raise a godly family because the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.

Never ever get married to a man who has no regard for God.

It would be the greatest mistake ever!

Well, no matter how much you love him, no matter how much preparation you have made, no matter how much has been spent, if he does not have a relationship with God, pick your bags and bolt!

Run for your life.

Preserve your destiny with your choice.

2Co 6:14-15 (MSG)  
Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?  [15]  Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands?



Knowing Who To Marry

There is no greater partnership than marriage.

Destinies are wedged together.

Souls become tied together.

Afflictions are intertwined and shared.
 
Blessings are shared as well.

In marriage, there is a “knowing” at the highest level as love is consummated.

The husband becomes the cover and the head of the family.

God forbids that the head is sick, for he would only transfer the sickness.

He can only give what he has.

God forbid that the head is foolish, he would only disseminate the foolishness and no more.

He would make foolish decisions and affect the wife and the children, and sometimes, the children’s children!

The mouth of the foolish poureth out foolishness.

Pro 15:2 (KJV)  
The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.


Take a look at the Message Translation:

Pro 15:2 (MSG)  
Knowledge flows like spring water from the wise; fools are leaky faucets, dripping nonsense.


May you not have a leaky faucet of a head, dripping nonsense over your destiny!

Knowing Who To Marry

I tell you, as a counselor, that can be frustrating!

How beautiful is it, to have a praying man over your life, to have a man who is faithful to you, who will never cheat on you, not because he doesn’t feel like it but because he fears God!

Go for a man who fears God. This is why pre-marital counseling is important

Go for a God lover!

Go for a God-chaser!

It would put your mind at rest.

You wouldn’t need to add the unrest, suspicion, insecurity, disagreements, and bickering that goes with knowing your spouse is cheating on you to your daily pressures.

Go for peace of mind.

If you are already married and have issues, please don’t give up too quickly. Pray and intercede! Go for therapy as well! Don’t keep quiet and watch things degenerate until it becomes too late!

Divorce is not always God’s direction unless life is threatened.

Take time to intercede and trust God for intervention and you will surely see the salvation of the Lord in Jesus name!
 
May God grant more understanding!



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