In the realm of relationships, Christian women yearn for qualities in a man that harmonize seamlessly with their faith and principles. These qualities serve as the bedrock of a loving and harmonious partnership. Let’s delve into the five crucial attributes that a Christian lady or wife often seeks in a man, redefining the path to a deeply fulfilling relationship.
1. Being Spiritually Anchored
A Christian lady cherishes a man who is deeply rooted in his spirituality and actively pursues a closer connection with God. She longs for a partner who shares her unwavering faith, regularly attends church, and places spiritual growth at the forefront. A man who leads by example in his spiritual journey not only serves as a source of inspiration but also forges an unbreakable bond through shared faith and values. A man who fears the Lord will love appropriately and will not cheat.
Discovering The Desires of Every Lady
2. Integrity and Character
Integrity and character rank high among the virtues that Christian women seek in a man. They yearn for a companion who embodies honesty, kindness, and respect in every aspect of life. A man of unwavering character makes choices guided by the teachings of the Bible, instilling a sense of security and trust in the relationship.
3. Emotional Support
Christian women value a man who offers unwavering emotional support and comprehends the significance of transparent communication. They seek a partner who listens intently, extends compassion, and provides encouragement during both moments of joy and adversity. Effective communication is a cornerstone for building a profound emotional connection.
A Christian lady yearns for a man who holds the sanctity of marriage in high regard and is committed to nurturing a strong family unit. She desires a partner willing to invest time and effort into cultivating a loving and enduring relationship. A man who prioritizes his role as a husband and a potential father showcases his profound understanding of the pivotal role of family within the Christian context.
Discovering The Desires of Every Lady
5. Humility and Selflessness
Humility and servitude are virtues that resonate deeply with Christian women when it comes to a man. They aspire to be with someone who wholeheartedly serves others, mirroring the selfless example set by Jesus. A humble man recognizes that true leadership is manifested through service to others and is eager to prioritize the needs of his family and community over his own.
It’s imperative to remember that entering into relationships with an open heart and profound respect for individual preferences is paramount. While these qualities align with the desires of many Christian women and wives, it’s important to acknowledge that every individual is unique, and personal preferences may naturally vary.
May this guide serve as a compass, helping you gain insight into what Christian women often seek in a man who shares their unwavering faith and values.
The Weapon of Delilah Today. We started on this yesterday. We will conclude today. The next question is how did Delilah get Samson eventually despite that Samson knew she wanted to deliver him to his enemies? You see it right there!
Jdg 16:16 KJVAnd it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death;
She pressed him with words! This is The Weapon of Delilah Today
The lesson here is simple. Once you can see that a person is not the type of person to relate with, disconnect fast. If you give some allowance, you will be pressed with ‘words!’
See The Message Translation
Jdg 16:16 (MSG) She kept at it day after day, nagging and tormenting him. Finally, he was fed up—he couldn’t take another minute of it.
Words are spirits! The moment you start going out on an innocent date with that inappropriate person, you will be pressed with words. Your soul will be so much vexed and before you know it, you’ve started eating what you know will kill you!
If he or she is not a child of God, run! If he or she is not your spouse, run! If you allow yourself to be pressed with words, you will compromise!
The second card that Delilah played is here: Jdg 16:15 MSG She said, “How can you say ‘I love you’ when you won’t even trust me? Three times now you’ve toyed with me, like a cat with a mouse, refusing to tell me the secret of your great strength.”
How many times have you heard that from folk demanding sex in a courtship?
“If you really love me, bla…bla…bla.”
I have shown you two strategies that were used to ‘finish’ The Weapon of Delilah Today. Samson’s destiny! Delilah here can be a guy or a lady.
Learn from that wisdom. A word is enough for the wise. May God grant you the wisdom and strength to run away from every ‘Delilah’ in your life!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am protected
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, shield me from enemies who say they are friends
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 15:12 (KJV) This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
SINGLES – Dear Pastor, Can I Kiss My Fiancé or Fiancée?
If you are in courtship, be careful. Don’t let the devil trap you. The raging fire in your body will not be doused with kissing; it will only rekindle it until you want to explore more!
In the scripture, When Joab wanted to kill Amasa, he deceived him with a kiss!
And Joab said to Amasa, Art thou in health, my brother? And Joab took Amasa by the beard with the right hand to kiss him. But Amasa took no heed to the sword that was in Joab’s hand: so he smote him therewith in the fifth rib, and shed out his bowels to the ground, and struck him not again; and he died. So Joab and Abishai his brother pursued after Sheba the son of Bichri. – 2Sa 20:9-10 KJV
Yes, it will look harmless. It will sound logical. But it can destroy destinies.
Jesus Christ was betrayed with a kiss!
But Jesus said unto him, Judas, betrayest thou the Son of man with a kiss? – Luk 22:48 KJV
Isn’t something inappropriate with a lady who is leading the church in worship, but who the previous night had been in an intense kissing session with the brother who led opening prayer that same morning?
Live right, for God is not mocked!
There is nothing wrong with a light hug. There is nothing wrong with a light peck by the cheek if that was how you were raised up, but it is better to just stay away! But the problem is will you stop at that stage? Your body will crave more and if you lack self-control, you will yield to it. There are some brothers that can’t talk to a lady unless they touch her or place their hands on her shoulder. Must they tap current before they can talk?
That kissing, touching, and petting you do behind doors will get you into trouble sooner than you think if you don’t put your feet down now. Don’t dabble into those terrains because the song afterward is always, ‘we didn’t want to go all the way,’ but the mistake would have been made.
Resolve to do it right and you will enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings.
I pray God gives you more understanding and help you to stop every form of compromise!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY Lord, I receive wisdom to discern between positive and negative influences in my life and grace to avoid the negative.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY In Jesus’ name, I resist the power of negative influence over my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 7:25 MSG The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Cut off your association with any person, place, or thing that is influencing you negatively.
SINGLES – Practical Tips To Make Your Fiancée Happy
George who is in courtship with Lucy is frustrated. Lucy is always vacillating between two extreme emotions and poor George is at a loss on how to make her happy. If I can be experiencing this before marriage, what will happen after? George reasoned.
As a single in courtship, how do you make her happy?
1. Communicate;
It is important you keep in touch daily especially if you are not in the same place. If this all-important communication is not there, trust me, there will be issues coming up from time to time.
2. Apologize;
As singles, stop being egocentric and learn the art of apologizing quickly both ways. Don’t let your courtship be filled with memories of weeping, feeling down and out. It is not a good seed into your marriage.
3. Decisions;
As singles, take decisions together and don’t let her feel you are the superman that can do all things. If she relaxes and you run the relationship all by yourself, she would get used to that style and the help you ought to get from her when you are down will not be there. Don’t muffle her.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive wisdom to understand my partner and to love him/her more.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I break free from all wrong mindsets about marriage in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. (Mal 2:15 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Surprise your partner today. That does not include kissing, petting, sex etc. Reserve those till after marriage.
The word ‘blossom’ creates a picture of a fruit tree having flowers. It depicts a season when the plant has grown, increased, and now bears flowers, showing it will soon bear fruit.
A lady is always associated with ‘blossom’, ‘flower’, ‘fruitful’, which depicts their ability to procreate and of course, the beauty they possess.
‘Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house and your children like olive plants round about your table’. –Psalms 128:3
The scripture today is about a wife becoming a fruitful vine. The vine is an interesting plant. It is a twining; coiling tender plant that produces grapes used for wine.
It is interesting to know that a tender plant that needs support eventually produces the all-important grapes used for wine. You do not want to joke with wine. It is served at parties, offered to dignitaries, it is medicinal, it shows prosperity, it makes merry and it is always found during joyous occasions.
As a man, the lady you are married to has great potentials but you as the vinedresser or gardener have the responsibility of bringing out the best in her.
Now read this carefully. You will never find a perfect woman or wife. God will always give you a raw material, and you as her head and crown can develop her into what God wants for her by the instrumentality of God’s word, your love for her, a lot of patience, and a lot of prayers.
Am I shifting the ladies’ responsibility of productivity to the guys?
No. I am only saying that there is an environment you can create for your wife that will cause her to blossom, be more fruitful and maximize her potential.
Remember whatever she becomes, she will still be ‘by the sides of thine house’. That side does not mean ‘hidden’ or in a corner, it means right at the door. She occupies a conspicuous part of your life.
Married men, know that your wives are your precious asset. Accept her, love her and be determined to help her blossom.
Yes, she might be like a wild, unfruitful olive vine, but ask God to help you. God anointed you as a husband to make your wife blossom. You can do it by God’s grace if you trust and seek his help.
Dear wives, please submit to the leadership role of your husband. God anointed him for you so you can blossom. Until you are submitted to him, you will not be all you can be, your full capacity. Your submission to him is a lot of wisdom because that is when you can truly blossom.
I know some of you might be hurt and bitter over issues in the past, and you are rightly justified to feel so, but remaining in that state will worsen things and slow you down.
Don’t close up your spirits on your husband, forgive again and again and ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Don’t give up; rather, keep on trusting God for the best.
Don’t try to retaliate by opening yourself up to affairs. That will usher in more demons to afflict your home.
Always remember this, the wisdom you need to resolve the present issue lies with God.
I pray for your home this day that God will surround you with His love, you will blossom in Jesus name. You will burst forth with the full manifestation of your gifting in Jesus name.
Men, receive grace and wisdom to be the best that God has called you to be over your wife and your home!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am like a fruitful vine beside my husband’s house.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father, I receive help to be all you desire me to be.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Thy wife shall be like a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house’ Psalms 128:3
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be deliberate about your marriage.
