Betty: You are not reading your Bible well. It says, a merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance. In order words, when you trust God, your heart will be merry because you know God will do it. If your heart is merry, it will show on your face! Shikena! (Period!)
Angie: So my face is driving men away?
Betty: Yes, men are moved by sight firstly before they are moved by your heart. The moment you turn your beautiful face to that of a masquerade, like every problem in the world is on you, guys don’t wait to confirm what is in your heart before they take off.
Angie: But some are still interested in me like this
Betty: So why are you not married?
Angie: I wonder o…
Betty: You don’t need to go to wonderland; did you not say the other time that all the people that come your way are asking for sex?
Angie: Yes
Betty: Because they are not ready for commitment, all they want is fun, so they don’t mind the way you look as long their lust is satisfied.
Angie: Many of them like that
Betty: And that is how you also delay yourself
Angie: How, Auntie?
Betty: By consenting to give them what they ask for, you think you are securing them, but in essence, they will never marry you like that.
Angie: Why are men so wicked?
Betty: It is not about being wicked, it is because they don’t have fear of God.
Angie: Na the same thing joor! (It is the same thing)
Betty: Guys that don’t have the fear of God will try and persuade you to compromise with them, and when you do, they eventually won’t marry you.
Angie: Why would they do that?
To be continued tomorrow
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
There are some of us that hold our parents in derision. You are wrong to do that.
But my parents are not born-again!
You see, the scripture never says you should honour your born-again parents!
He said you should honour your parents! That is how to last on the planet earth! So that your days will be long!
In fact, a particular translation says, honour your parents so that God can say well done to you!
Some of you are having delays in marriage because you are walking in disobedience. If your parents have ever said wrong words to you because you were at loggerheads with them, go back to them and apologize.
Humble yourself, so that you won’t slow yourself down. Dishonouring your parents and refusing to forgive them can cost you your life! Read your Bible very well.
Go back to them, buy a gift, prostrate or kneel down and ask them to bless you! That act alone will be better off than ninety days of fasting and prayers, which might not yield results because of unforgiving spirit.
Why waste your time praying? Isn’t that a religious spirit at work?
Married couples, be quick to forgive each other! Don’t allow strife in your family. Forgive your spouse. You will do yourself a lot of good if you do that. If you don’t forgive him or her, your prayers will be hindered. Don’t block God’s blessings over you at this time.
If you have been in prolonged hurt and strife, it is dangerous. End it today and allow God’s blessing to flow in your family. Leave your ego behind and obey God. Take your wife out, buy her a gift and apologize!
Go to your husband and kneel down and ask for forgiveness. It is not old fashioned; it is scripture!
Let go and let God! Let it be a beginning of a new day for you and yours! Let go of everybody you are holding in your mind. Burn your little black book of offences and stop recording hurts.
Delete them not only from your memory but from recycle bin as well. Guard your heart with all diligence for out of them are the issues of life.
May God help you and give you the strength to forgive all you need to forgive in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to forgive all who have hurt me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to forgive all who have hurt you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 ESV)
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Here are some reasons why men often delay or develop a sore foot when it comes to getting married.
4. They don’t want to lose all the attention they get from girlfriends
He may just still be that handsome boyfriend that all other girlfriends are doting over.
So he wants to enjoy the attention and he feels the marriage will take that attention away.
5. They still want to have fun
He is a party freak and he knows that marriage will ‘imprison’ him.
So, he prefers to stay acquitted and discharged.
He has a warped view of what marriage really is.
He might still want to also stay in touch with his ex or exes for sexual gratification.
6. They are not really in love
He may not really be in love with you. He may just be holding unto you because of the fun he gets constantly.
As far as he is concerned, marriage is all about sex
Since he can get it now, then there is no need to take it to the next level with deeper commitments, especially when finances would be involved.
7. They don’t want any commitment yet
He is just not interested in having any commitments because he believes he wouldn’t have that ‘time’ to himself again.
8. They are just not sincere
He may just not be sincere with you.
So he keeps postponing and postponing when in reality, he is not going to get married to you.
This is nothing short of designer wickedness!
9. They have not made up their minds on who they want
He is still unsure of who the best is among his numerous girlfriends.
And that is where the problem is, double dating and pre-maritals bring confusion into the soul.
The more girls he gets involved with in his bid to decide, the more confused he becomes.
The more he looks, the less he sees until he can see nothing in the midst of everything!
10. They don’t really understand the biblical concept of marriage
When a man doesn’t have a relationship with God, he would not really understand the true purpose of marriage and that would eventually inform his actions and decisions.
That is why as a marriage counselor, I often say that it is unwise to get involved with a man that doesn’t truly love God!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not experience a marital delay.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 32:8 (KJV) I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Forgive those that have hurt you
I have often been asked why guys often delay in marriage. From ladies’ expectations towards court marriage, church marriage, or traditional marriage, there have been so many disappointments and sudden cancellations.
Oftentimes, people enter relationships without marriage counseling of any form. These days, there are many good and godly marriage therapists especially in form of online marriage counseling.
The single, as well as the married, are supposed to take advantage of all these in order to ensure that mistakes are avoided.
Here are some reasons why men often delay or develop a sore foot when it comes to getting married.
1. They are actually not ready Most of the time, the guys are not ready. So when you start talking about marriage, they hear you with one side of the ear and allow it to escape through the other.
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They will usually ask you to wait or even get angry when you bring up the subject. Don’t waste your time trying to beg him, he is simply not ready. If you successfully push him into marriage, he would complain for a long time at any slight pressure.
2. They are scared of responsibilities Another reason is that an average man is just scared of the responsibilities involved especially if he has gone through the trauma of being raised in a broken home or by a divorcee.
It all has a way of influencing his perspectives on marriage. Only God’s word can bring renewal of mind and a balanced outlook to what marriage really is.
3. They are not ready to raise a family They may just not be ready to raise a family. In his mind, someone is still raising him as far as he is concerned. He is still Mummy’s boy.
If you marry a mummy’s boy, the mummy will rule your home, in reality, or by proxy.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry rightly. I will not meet with men who will delay me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, deliver me from men who want to delay me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 [KJV] And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
In God, there will never, read that again, there will never be disappointments when you stay with Him. Everything in God is perfect. He is the master planner who never misses a bit. The problems we have are mostly self-inflicted.
Even at that, when we come back to God in repentance and ask for His mercy, He hears and ensures that our situation works together for our good and still ends up in victory.
Are you experiencing any form of delay? Are you getting tired of the whole thing and feeling like backing out on God?
Don’t!
The pressures are mounted when you are closest to your miracle!
When the heat is increased, victory is often near. When the fire was increased seven times more to fry the three Hebrew guys, Jesus Christ was near!
Then Nebuchadnezzar was filled with wrath, and the form of his face was changed against Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego. He spoke and commanded that they should heat the furnace seven times more than it was usually heated.
Daniel 3:19 (MKJV)
And these three men, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, fell down bound into the midst of the burning fiery furnace. [24] Then Nebuchadnezzar the king was amazed. And he rose up in haste and spoke and said to his advisers, Did we not throw three men bound into the middle of the fire? They answered and said to the king, True, O king.
Daniel 3:23-24 (MKJV)
The fire was heated seven times more, but the situation only became an opportunity for a miracle.
Let the fire burn, let the waters rush, let the storms roar, God is still God.
Hold on. Refuse to give up. Endure. Refuse every compromise.
A miracle waits for those who wait!
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Galatians 6:9 (KJV)
It is when we faint not that we surely reap.
The delay eventually turns out to be a relay race, you are not out yet, you can still rejoice!
Keep serving Him. Keep keeping joy. Keep holding unto the word.
Your wedding will be a reality. God will ensure it.
Dream your miracle. Visualize the blessing. Imagine the reality, because you will soon see the travail of your heart.
I hear the sound of rejoicing on your behalf. I see God honouring His word in your life! Be blessed.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My miracle is here. No more delay.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, do a new thing in my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Galatians 6:9 (MSG) So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Rejoice and be glad. Your miracle is here
