Simple Recipe To End All Struggles 

Simple Recipe To End All Struggles 

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Simple Recipe To End All Struggles 

A man or woman has so many areas of life, so many ‘ways’ if I may use that word. Are we going to talk about career, finance, marital life, academics, work, business, spirituality, emotions, and so on? There are so many ways!

How does one bring all these ways together? How does one ask God to take charge of all these ways especially relationship and marital aspects?

It is evident in the Holy Writ! Let’s take a look!

Pro 3:6 (KJV) In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

In all your WAYS, ACKNOWLEDGE Him! The consequence of that is that He will direct all your paths!

Do you acknowledge God in all your ways? If you do, sit back and relax, He will unleash a system of divine direction for you and you will never be lost in the maze of life! You will never have to grope in the dark, murky path of marital endeavor as a result of experimenting with several lovers!

Let’s consider some other translations to bring more clarity.

Pro 3:6 (MSG) Listen for GOD’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.

Wow! I love this one. Watch out for His voice in EVERYTHING you do and EVERYWHERE you go, and He is committed to keeping you on track!

You will not miss your track!

You know what I see here? God doesn’t want to be ignored! 

How do you acknowledge God? Talk to Him about everything you do. 

The height of foolishness is ignoring God! The Bible says expressly that;

Psa 14:1a (KJV) The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God…

One definition of a foolish man; he does His things as though there is no God!

Conversely, you will have the wisdom to rule in the affairs of this world when you learn to ACKNOWLEDGE God in ALL YOUR WAYS!

Good Morning! 




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Debunking Common Marriage Myths and Misconceptions

Debunking Common Marriage Myths and Misconceptions

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Debunking Common Marriage Myths and Misconceptions


Marriage is a beautiful journey that brings two individuals together in love, commitment, and companionship. However, it’s not strange for various myths and misconceptions to obscure people’s perceptions of what a successful marriage entails. In this devotional, we will debunk some of the most prevalent marriage myths and shed light on the realities of married life.

  1. Myth: We will be happy forever
    Many individuals grow up with the false notion that marriage guarantees a lifetime of bliss, happiness, and endless enjoyment. While marriage can indeed bring joy, it’s important to note that challenges and ups and downs are also a part of the journey. Realistic expectations and effective communication are vital in navigating the complexities of married life. Marriage only works for those who work it! 
  1. Myth: Once we love ourselves, we are good!
    Love is undoubtedly important in a marriage, but it’s not the only ingredient for a thriving partnership. Marriage requires commitment, compromise, mutual respect, and ongoing effort from both partners. It requires a lot of prayers and patience! Synergizing your values, trust, and understanding is essential for lasting marital success.
  1. Myth: Incessant Quarrels translate to a failed marriage 
    The reality is that conflict is not necessarily a negative aspect of a marriage. Healthy disagreements can lead to growth, understanding, and deeper emotional connections. It’s how couples handle and resolve conflicts that truly matters. When a couple understands themselves, and is sacrificial, they will stay together for long and have a successful marriage.
  2. Myth: Marriage will make me to be fulfilled
    A common misconception is that marriage will fill the emptiness in our lives and make us whole. While marriage can bring happiness and fulfillment, it’s important to have a sense of self-worth, good self-esteem, personal goals, and interests outside the relationship. Each partner should maintain their individuality while nurturing marital unity.
  3. Myth: Marriage is easy once you are in love
    Marriage requires continuous effort, adjustment, and adaptability. It’s unrealistic to expect a smooth sailing journey without any challenges. Couples should be prepared to navigate through life puzzles and be willing to grow together, learning from each other’s strengths and weaknesses. The commitment to work through difficulties can lead to a deeper and more resilient relationship.

Gen 2:18 (AMPC+) Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

Conclusion:
By debunking these marriage myths and misconceptions, we can approach married life with a more realistic and pragmatic position. Understanding that marriage requires effort, compromise, and acceptance of imperfections can lead to a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership. 

Remember, a successful marriage is built on love, respect, communication, and synergy from the couple.

I hope this devotional helps you in addressing marriage myths and enlightening your readers. If you need any further assistance or have any specific requests, feel free to let me know in the comment section!




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Financial Compatibility and Your Love Life 

Financial Compatibility and Your Love Life 

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Financial Compatibility and Your Love Life 

For singles and couples, the issue of financial compatibility will always come to the fore because finances are an essential part of love life. The reality is that when financial issues are out of the way, more than fifty percent of the problems are solved. 

Financial compatibility is important because it is dangerous to marry someone whose financial principles and practices are polarized to you. This doesn’t mean you are financial experts but what it means is that you should be on the same page so that you can synergize together. 

Here Are Conversations You Should Have

1. Financial History: What has been the financial history? How has your potential spouse been handling finances?  As newly married, you will immediately notice that your partner’s financial habit before the wedding prevails within your home. It is good to have these conversations!                                                                              

2. Budgeting Together: Have you discussed budgeting, planning, and spending? What amount goes for which? What are the priorities? As engaged or newly married couples, are you on the same page? Do you consult one another before major spending?

3. Financial Goals: What are the plans? This should be discussed! When are you going to start developing your property? What kind of school are the children going to? What kind of income streams are in the pipeline?

4. Debts and Savings: Are there debts before the wedding? Light or huge debt? Are there serious and chronic debt habit that needs attention and counseling? You cannot close your eyes to all these indications. As a newlywed, are you servicing debt with all your income like in Nigeria? Lol…

5. Crisis Management: What are the financial plans in place in emergencies? What are the options? Have you decided that you will never use a loan to take care of another debt? What are the immediate plans to stop addictions from constantly patronizing loan apps?

These and more conversations will help you when it comes to finances and your love life.

Good morning! 




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Finding Purpose Before and After Marriage

Finding Purpose Before and After Marriage

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Finding Purpose Before and After Marriage

Dear singles and couples, let’s have a heart-to-heart talk about something that really matters – finding your purpose, not just in life, but in the realms of before and after you say “I do.” Whether you’re single, engaged, or already hooked, understanding your purpose is like having a compass that guides you through the stormy and sunny days of life.

Before Marriage: Discovering Yourself

1. Discover Yourself: Before you can share your life with someone, it’s crucial to know who you are. What lights your fire? What are your passions, values, and dreams? This isn’t just about career or hobbies; it’s about understanding your core. Why are you here? What is your purpose?

2. Build Your Relationship with God: Your faith isn’t just a part of your life; it’s the lens through which you see the world. Strengthening your relationship with God helps clarify your purpose and aligns your path with His plans. He created young so the template of your life is with Him.

3. Serve Others: Service isn’t just a nice thing to do; it’s a way to discover aspects of yourself and your purpose. Whether it’s volunteering at church or helping out in the community, service expands your heart and your understanding of where you fit in this world. When you serve, He said he will bless your bread and water! 

After Marriage: Growing Together

1. Unite Your Dreams: Now that you’re a team, it’s time to align your purposes. This doesn’t mean giving up your individual dreams but finding ways they can complement and support each other. Be on the same page in your respective areas of specialization. Allow two chasing ten thousand rather than as individuals chasing a thousands each.

2. What’s Your Vision?: What do you want your marriage to stand for? Together, create a vision that includes not just your goals as a couple but also how you want to contribute to the world around you. Create a vision board for your family and that will help you keep focus.

3. Keep God at the Center: As you navigate married life, keeping your faith central can help you face challenges and make decisions that honor your shared purpose. Need stop reading and studying your Bible! Pray in the Spirit a lot and allow God to build your family for you! 

Remember, finding and fulfilling your purpose is a journey, not a destination. It’s about growing, learning, and adapting, whether you’re single, engaged, or married. 

So, take a deep breath, trust in God’s plan, and embark on this beautiful adventure of discovering and living out your purpose.

Be blessed in Jesus name!




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Winning Romantically!

Winning Romantically!

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Winning Romantically!

This is the final part of the series I started two days back. If you missed them, find them below.

Now, the final part!

4. I am sorry. I win.

Nothing grows romantic love like being quick to forgive. When we see that we are drifting away from our sweet spot, forgiveness does the magic. Notwithstanding who is at fault. Just taking the initiative to say ‘I’m sorry’ first does the trick. It is maturity. Say sorry first, and you win.

Whenever you swallow your pride for the sake of growing your romantic love, you win.

As singles, forgiveness is a constant in a relationship. Practice and learn forgiving the one you love. Don’t count scores. Your flesh will want to pay back evil for evil, tit for tat. Learn to be more like Christ. Let your romantic love grow to be more patient and kind, gentle, not boastful, not envious.

In marriage, the Lord warns us never to allow strife.

I think it is in marriage that most offense happens. Your spouse will step on your toes and still justify their actions.

Opposites truly attract, but with time, they begin to repel. Don’t let animosity fester. Apologize when your spouse is angry at you. Little things may anger your spouse; don’t rationalize, don’t be logical about how or why he/she should be angry, just apologize.

An apology is not about who is wrong but about having feelings for the one who is pained.

5. Appreciation

These two words, ‘thank you,’ grow your romantic love towards each other. It shows your sensitivity to the needs of your partner to be appreciated.

As singles, never take your partner for granted. This understanding is very necessary if you want your romantic love to grow in a healthy way and not be stunted.

Remember that it is a privilege for your partner to be nice, kind, good, forgiving, hardworking, thoughtful, neat, punctual, and the list of good virtues and qualities goes on and on.

Appreciate whatever good you see and recognize in your partner. When it comes to looking at their good qualities, look at it with a magnifying lens. Don’t let their good deeds be little in your eyes.

Remember, whatever you appreciate, appreciates. Whatever you don’t appreciate, depreciates.

As couples, make appreciation a big deal. Celebrate your spouse for the simplest things. Never take them for granted. 

God bless you!




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Creative Ways To Show Romantic Love

Creative Ways To Show Romantic Love

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Creative Ways To Show Romantic Love

So yesterday, I started teaching on this topic. I established the fact that romantic love is essential in relationships and it makes marriage exciting.

Kindly read yesterday’s devotional.

5 Ways to Grow Your Romantic Love.

Yesterday, we looked at:

  • Understand their love language and speak it.

It is the duty of everyone in a relationship to discover, understand, and then start speaking their partner’s love language.

In marriage, you keep on speaking and rediscovering your spouse’s love language over time and as occasion demands. Yesterday’s love language may not be today’s love language.

  • No love without giving

A gift is like a magic wand that brings favor. The Bible says good understanding procures favor. Understand the magic that gifts bring and use it to your advantage whether in relationships or marriage.

Today, we are looking at:

3. Express your love to your lover in creative ways.

Just yesterday, while my housekeeper was cleaning and clearing the house, I saw one of the love notes my husband wrote to me way back in 1996. It was so heart-warming. I handed it over to him, and he read it to me again.

So sweet. I felt loved all over again. I saw his heart and his love so genuine and pure.

There was nothing sexual about that love letter. It communicated his love to me, our future together based on God’s promise, and our love together in its purest form.

Of course, I kept the note and cherished it. A 28-year-old love letter, neat and fresh, just like it was written yesterday. It was neatly written on pink cardboard and designed. Talk about romantic love, that is what I mean. My husband is more romantic than I am, you can bet.

It was not expensive, just a cardboard and pen, but it was and is still so priceless. It means so much to me.

Those days we could not afford anything fanciful, not even a date at a restaurant, but our romantic love was intact. No one could have convinced us that we were not in love.

So, singles, be creative in expressing your love to one another without being sexual.

To our married folks, good romantic love in a relationship serves as a good foundation upon which to build and continue expressing your love to each other in very creative ways.

Your husband or your wife will still long for that romantic part of you. Never allow the busyness of being married to steal that aspect of your marriage. If it does, the marriage starts to nosedive. Remember, he/she is still that boy or that girl you fell in love with. To be continued tomorrow.




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Growing Romantic Love As Singles and Couples

Growing Romantic Love As Singles and Couples

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Growing Romantic Love As Singles and Couples

It is very true that opposites attract, so it’s not out of place to have one partner more romantic than the other.

Even though romance is a feeling, it can be properly expressed in a decent way, especially in relationships, noting that there is a way to treat your unmarried partner. Like my Pastor said, you are a male by birth but become a gentleman by choice and by learning. So, you also become a lady by choice. There is a proper way to treat each other when you are in love and an improper way to treat each other when in a relationship.

Someone might say, we don’t have to be romantic in a relationship; we have to be all spiritual, so we don’t end up in fornication.

Yes, a lot of caution has to be put in place in order to honor God in your relationship. However, romantic love should not be totally thrown out the window.

Let’s see what romantic love is.

Romance or romantic love can be defined as a feeling of love for, or a strong attraction towards, another person, and the courtship behaviors undertaken by an individual to express those overall feelings and resultant emotions.

As singles, we teach to be courteous and put the brakes on romantic love so it doesn’t get out of hand. Like the Bible says in the Song of Songs:

Song of Songs 8:4 NIV [4] Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

There should be a proper blend between being spiritual and being romantic. Being romantic has nothing to do with being sexual. As a single guy, you can treat your partner with so much respect, honor, and courtesy, and that’s being romantic.

Married couples, you have all the license to express love in the most romantic ways without applying the brakes because you are married. Now is not the time to take your spouse for granted because he/she is now yours. Still maintain that strong feeling of love and attractiveness to one another.

5 Ways to Grow Your Romantic Love

  1. Understand their love language and speak it.

Singles, try and discover your partner’s love language and speak it. Couples, continue to express and speak your spouse’s love language in every way you can. Build on what you discovered about them when you were in courtship.

2. No love without giving

Some singles say, giving is not my thing, or we are not married yet, how can I give her/him gifts? It is abnormal to be in a relationship for a year and not to have given each other anything. It is not only ladies that should receive gifts; guys too should be given gifts. You show you care about someone when you give gifts to them.

In marriage, the gifts should continue and never cease. This is not about whether he/she really likes gifts. Everybody likes gifts. You express your love in gifts, not just in thoughts but in actions. The gifts don’t have to be expensive or elaborate, even though there’s nothing wrong with, once in a while, maybe on special occasions like a birthday or wedding anniversary, getting your spouse an expensive gift. It is the gesture and thoughtfulness in gifts that makes them a good way to express romantic love.

I will stop here and continue tomorrow. Stay blessed.




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Dating Dynamics For Singles and Couples 

Dating Dynamics For Singles and Couples 

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Dating Dynamics For Singles and Couples 

Let’s talk about something we all think about at some point: the journey from dating to saying “I do.” Whether you’re swiping right, already in a relationship, married, or just curious, you will learn something new today! 

Dating Days 

So, you’re dating. It’s like being on an adventure where you’re getting to know your partner. What makes them laugh, what dreams they’re chasing, and yeah, even what annoys them? Let me warn you, however, that you will never truly be able to know everything about them until you are MARRIED!

  1. Exploration Time: Think of dating as your exploration mission. You’re learning about each other’s past, what you believe in, and what you both want down the road.
  2. Talking It Out: Communication is key. It’s all about being real and honest with each other and building a strong foundation for whatever comes next. Talk about everything! 
  3. You Do You: It’s crucial to keep being yourself while you’re part of a duo. Balancing “me” and “we” is the real deal. Do not lose your identity because you are in love.
  4. Dealing with Disagreements: Too many disagreements? Normal. How you tackle these moments can make or break your future together.

Taking the Leap

Getting married isn’t just about food and parties. It’s like leveling up in a game where you commit to tackle all of life’s levels together.

1. Deep Connections: Once you’re married, you share more, support more, and get each other on a deeper level. Your destinies become wedged together!

2. Money Talks: From who’s paying for dinner to saving for a dream vacation money matters start to shift once you’re married. Most quarrels emanate from money issues. It is good to settle in this area. 

3. New Daily Life: It will no longer be just you, but now the two of you. You move from being selfish to selfless in other to be a good spouse!

After the “I Do”

Marriage is about growing on what you’ve already built, diving deeper into knowing and supporting each other.

  1. Be Committed: Marriage means you’re in it together, come what may, with a stronger sense of commitment.
  2. Deeper Chit-Chats: As life changes, the way you talk and connect evolves too. You must learn to be open, naked and not ashamed.
  3. More Than Lovey-Dovey: Intimacy goes beyond the physical; it’s about connecting on all levels, being each other’s rock. Be there for yourselves, in the bedroom and out of the bedroom
  4. Be on the same Page: You’ll face challenges, sure, but you’ll do it together, which only makes your bond stronger. One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand!

Keep Dating! 

Don’t let the flames of romance die out. Keeping the love alive is key to a happy marriage.

  1. Date Nights: Keep dating each other, even after you’re married. It keeps things fun and fresh.
  2. Talk the Talk: Keep the conversation going. Talk about your dreams, fears, and everything in between. The moment you stonewall, the wall is broken down and the devil will come in!
  3. Support Squad: Support each other’s goals and dreams. It’s you two and Jesus against the world and the devil, remember?
  4. Shake Things Up: Try new things together. It keeps the excitement alive. Be creative. Fight boredom. Do something new.

From dating to marriage, it’s about enjoying the journey together, through the ups and downs, and maintaining your joy all along the way! 




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How Mindset Can Make or Break A Love Life

How Mindset Can Make or Break A Love Life

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How Mindset Can Make or Break A Love Life

Many single ladies and guys are finding it difficult to know who the perfect will of God is for them. The guy is cool, and the ladies seem pleasant but is he/she the one God has in mind for me? 

This is one of the questions that has bothered the singles ever since, at least those that fear the Lord.

Some other carnal believers just think, ‘I am the one marrying here not God, so let me choose what I like and I will be good’. Nothing is farther from the truth than this.

For us married folk, I used to think, but we have the Holy Spirit and He knows all things but why are we not led by Him all the time?  Especially in our marital affairs.

The answer is in the state of our mind. 

It is our privilege as born-again believers to be led by the Holy Spirit. That is what distinguishes us from unbelievers. That is our ‘X’ factor. And you know what, whether you are single or married, the Holy Spirit delights to lead us.

Romans 8:14 NIV  For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. 

The problem is in the state of our minds. The Holy Spirit has information, wisdom, and strategies He wants to download to us, but our minds are too busy. He wants to tell us things, secrets about our spouses, about our intended partners. 

We will however not be able to receive this leading because our minds are too busy. There is the normal state of mind, which is serene, calm and quiet. There is the abnormal state which is busy, filled with worries, evil thoughts, doubts, etc

God can only lead us in our relationship and marriage affairs if our mind is stayed on Him.

Isaiah 26:3 NIV You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.

Isaiah 26:3 AMPC   You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.

The Amplified Classic translation explains it well. God will only guard and guide us with His peace which is the umpire that tells us we are on the right track when choosing who we are to marry.

He will guide us with His peace when we know that the Holy Spirit is teaching us what to do in our marriage.

Our minds have to be stayed on the Word. We have to discipline our minds for it not to be wandering. 

Our minds have to be focused on meditating on the word. If we want to enjoy the leading of the Holy Spirit, we have to actively keep our minds pondering, thinking, contemplating on His word, worship, and praying.

To know the voice of the Holy Spirit, we need to be ‘used’ to how He speaks.

Be disciplined with your mind. Think about what you are thinking about. Be quick to keep your mind stayed on the word. Keep your mind in worship, thinking of God’s goodness and His wondrous works. Plead the blood of Jesus on your mind to cleanse it from every dead works of unrighteousness.

Let your mind be free enough for the Holy Spirit to communicate with you and you being able to receive whatever He wants to say.

God bless you




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Why He’s Not Putting a Ring on It

Why He’s Not Putting a Ring on It

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Why He’s Not Putting a Ring on It

This devotional is for singles and married! 

The other day, I was talking our first son and his best friend, and my question was “When are you guys getting married? Both of them just smiled and replied with an expression like, “Marriage? Who is thinking of that?” When I was my son’s age, I was already “toasting” Pastor Sophia! 

Why do guys hesitate today? Why does it seem marriage is the last thing on their mind?

Let’s dive into this this morning. 

The world today is a fast-paced world, where instant gratification is often a click away, but relationships and marriage seem to be following a different timeline! 

This phenomenon has sparked curiosity and, at times, frustration among young ladies wanting to walk down the aisle. So, why are guys taking their sweet time to commit or walk down the aisle? 


Did you miss yesterday’s devotional? Read it below!


1. Individualism and Career Goals

The young man today is fiercely independent, valuing personal growth and career ambitions. Many young men are delaying marriage to focus on establishing themselves professionally and financially. This may nit be unconnected that there is “hunger” in the land! Building a career before building a home resonates strongly. For married couples, ensure there is a balance between you career and home! Family comes first! 

2. Perfect Timing

The concept of “perfect timing” is another factor contributing to the delay. Guys are more attuned to the idea of timing in their lives, often waiting for the perfect moment when all stars align – career stability, emotional readiness, and finding the ideal partner. This pursuit of the perfect scenario can lead to postponements in making significant relationship milestones.

After wedding, ask married couples, three will be more responsibilities, but this also makes you to sit up and harness every grace and opportunities available to take care of your family! 

I will stop here today! Watch out for the second part tomorrow! 




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Lord, Deliver Me From Me!

Lord, Deliver Me From Me!

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Lord, Deliver Me From Me!

We live in a world of constant noise – pings from social media, pressure to keep up with the latest trends, and an unrelenting expectation to be everything to everyone. It’s easy to get lost in that chaos, losing sight of who we truly are. Whether you’re single or married, there’s one prayer that strikes a chord deep within: “Lord, Deliver Me From Me.”

Psa 139:23 (MSG) Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; Cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I’m about;

We’ve all been there, staring at our reflection, wondering why we can’t just be a little more like this or a little less like that. In our pursuit of perfection, we become our own harshest critics and biggest roadblocks. But here’s a liberating truth: It’s okay not to have it all figured out. It’s okay to be a work in progress, constantly evolving and growing.

For the singles out there, society often makes it seem like you’re on a ticking clock, that you need to have your life mapped out with a fairy-tale ending. But guess what? Your worth isn’t tied to your relationship status. Your journey is uniquely yours, and it’s not a race against anyone else. Praying “Lord, deliver me from me” is a powerful way to let go of those self-imposed pressures and anxieties. It’s about asking God to help you embrace your singleness as a season of growth, discovery, and self-love. Being single isn’t a waiting room for happiness; it’s a chapter where you get to write the rules, discover your passions, and build an unshakable relationship with yourself and God.

Now’s your golden chance to dive into what makes you tick, explore new hobbies, and figure out your dreams – just you, no plus one needed. Use this solo time to get tight with God, finding out who you are in His eyes, which is pretty amazing and so much bigger than just being someone’s other half. Don’t just solo it; build your tribe of friends, family, and mentors – these connections are priceless. Got goals? Now’s the time to chase them down, whether it’s your career or learning something new. And most importantly, take care of your heart and mind, and find joy in your own company.

For the married folks, this prayer is equally potent. Marriage is a beautiful dance of togetherness and individuality, but it’s easy to lose yourself in the duo. “Lord, deliver me from me” is a heartfelt plea to maintain your essence while being an integral part of a union. It’s about asking for the grace to grow together without losing sight of who you are as individuals. It’s a prayer for patience, understanding, and the strength to be your partner’s ally, not their adversary. Remember, your marriage is as unique as a fingerprint, and there’s no one-size-fits-all formula. Embrace your journey, with all its twists and turns, and know that it’s okay to be imperfectly perfect.

Just because you’re hooked doesn’t mean you vanish into the “we” – keep that awesome “you” shining bright. Picture your marriage like a bike ride; you both get to steer and enjoy the view. Living with your lover means patience is your new best friend. Think of your spouse as your co-conspirator in this adventure of life, not the opponent you need to outwit or outlast. Embrace the one-of-a-kind life you two are living together, and enjoy it!

Whether you’re single or married, young or old, the prayer “Lord, Deliver Me From Me” is a powerful reminder that we’re not alone in our struggles. It’s an acknowledgment that sometimes, the person we need to be delivered from is ourselves. So, let’s take a deep breath and step into this journey with open hearts. Let’s be kind to ourselves, embrace our flaws, and celebrate our victories, no matter how small. After all, life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about trusting the One who does. Remember, you’re not alone. We’re all in this together, learning, growing, and finding our way. And in those moments when you feel overwhelmed, just whisper that simple yet profound prayer, “Lord, Deliver Me From Me,” and watch as peace fills your heart and guides your steps.




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5 Golden Tips for Singles and Married

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If all singles and married couples can master these 5 points, there will be fewer issues in their relationships. These are just the basic things; if you walk with the Holy Spirit, He will tell you how to tailor things to meet your specific needs in time.

He is the best companion ever in relationships and marriage. He knows what you and your partner need and knows exactly what wisdom to use and how to navigate the complex issues and nature of your relationship and marriage.

Here are the 5 tips:

  1. Master communication.

As a single, have conversations that reveal your true self and encourage the other person to do the same. Your conversations are for connection, not just surface talk. For married couples, keep communication lines open and honest. Share your feelings, dreams, and fears without reservations. Your conversations are to deepen your connection, ensuring both of you feel heard and understood.

  1. Understand yourself

As a single, be clear on who you are and what you want. What makes you happy. Be clear about your non-negotiable. This clarity will help you in finding and keeping the one person with whom you can truly do life together. As a couple, keep growing. Personal growth is essential to the health of your marriage. Also, encourage each other’s ambitions and passions.

  1. Handle Conflicts Smartly

As singles, know that disagreements are a part of your journey. If conflict arises, tackle it with maturity and understanding, knowing that it’s not about winning the argument but respecting your differences. As couples, see disagreements as a means to get to know each other better. Work at solving conflicts to benefit the relationship and not just the individual.

  1. Cherish and value your independence.

As a single, embrace and enjoy your single life, pursue your passions and interests, have friends outside your relationship. As couples, maintain personal interests and do things you enjoy. This contributes to a more healthy and vibrant relationship, which allows both partners to bring fresh experiences and insights into the marriage.

  1. Align your goals.

As a single, nurture the vision you share together for the future, whatever it is. Being on the same wavelength can prevent a lot of heartache eventually. As a couple, constantly check if your goals and dreams are still in sync. As you grow, so do your dreams. Ensuring that you are still heading in the same direction strengthens your bond and makes your journey together fulfilling and exciting.

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Help for the Abused-Part 2

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Help for Abuse In Marriage – Part 2

We have established that a good number of children of God cope with one form of abuse in their relationships or marriages. This is not meant to be so. Jesus Christ paid the price on the cross for me and you to enjoy a blissful marriage. It is the devil that is the thief that comes to steal, kill, and destroy.

However, if we can labour in the word of God, attend to God’s word, give it the needed attention, meditate on it, and confess it just like Psalm 1 instruct, we will be like a well-watered garden in our relationships and marriage. 

Psalm 1:2-3 ESV   but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. [3] He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.

God’s word promises us we will prosper in all that we do including in our relationships and marriages.

Whatever we see in the world, we can see it in our world.

So let’s delve into God’s word to see what He promises us. I have carefully written out confessions for every married person and for singles not enjoying bliss in their marriage and relationships.

These confessions are based on Ephesians 5:18-30

Father, I thank you because I am continually being filled with the Holy Spirit. I walk not according to the dictates of my flesh but according to the dictates and desires of the spirit. My thoughts are filled with godly thoughts. I have a merry heart, I am always singing and making melody in my heart onto God. I am always full of thanksgiving. I thank God for my spouse/ partner. I am grateful.

We are submissive to one another out of reverence for Christ. 

As singles, take this confession, I thank you Lord for this relationship. As a lady, I give myself to learning how to eventually submit. I am gracious and I grow in my relationship with the Lord.

As a guy, I practice unconditional love. I learn from the Lord how He loved not in a selfish way but in a godly way. I don’t desecrate her body but respect her as a child of the most high God. We put God first in our relationship.

Father, I thank you because I am continually being filled with the Holy Spirit. I walk not according to the dictates of my flesh but according to the dictates and desires of the spirit. My thoughts are filled with Godly thoughts. I have a merry heart, I am always singing and making melody in my heart onto God. I am always full of thanksgiving. I thank God for my spouse/ partner. I am grateful.

As a wife, I submit myself to my husband just as I submit to the Lord. Having this understanding that just as Christ is the head of the church, my husband is my head. I submit to my husband in all things irrespective of how I feel. My submission is in obedience to God and He will defend me. I graciously make my opinion known to him but allow him to have the last say. I recognize that anything that has two heads is a monster. I am not afraid to submit to my husband but I trust God to work in him.  I am a God-fearing wife. I take everything to God in prayer.

As a husband, I love my wife just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her. Just as Jesus was humble and died for the church so I am willing to die for my wife. I give up my rights as the head and become a servant leader. This I do to make my wife holy, better, smarter, blossom, and thrive, this I do by following the scriptures. I present her to myself radiant. Labouring in prayers for her to be a helpful meet indeed for me. I help to bring her to maturity by investing in her spiritually, mentally, and emotionally and exchanging her weakness for the strength that is in Christ.

As a husband, I love my wife as my own body because I recognize that when I love my wife, I am loving myself. I nourish and cherish my wife with love, attention, and affection. Jesus has shown me by example how to love my wife unconditionally. I leave my ideologies or the ways and methods I learned from my background and embrace the new ways Christ shows me.

Our marriages and relationships are blissful. Our lives are full of the Lord’s blessings because we give no place to strife. We deeply love ourselves and God is revealing to us new ways to submit and love ourselves so help us, God.

Be diligent in taking this confession and see the blessings thereof.

Imagine if you take this confession every day for the rest of this year.

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Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

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Buddy and Stella: The Listening Couple

Once upon a time, in a bustling city filled with bright lights and fast-paced lives, there lived a young couple named Buddy and Stella.

They were deeply in love and committed to building a relationship grounded in understanding and connection.

One evening, as they sat on the rooftop of their house, Stella shared her dreams and aspirations with Buddy. 

Instead of merely hearing her words, Buddy decided to listen truly. He put away his phone, looked into Stella’s eyes, and let her pour out her heart. He nodded, smiled, and used his body language to show he was fully present and engaged.

When Stella finished speaking, Buddy took a moment to gather his thoughts. He summarized and rephrased what she had shared, ensuring he understood her correctly. 

Stella’s face lit up with excitement. She felt truly seen and understood by Buddy’s active listening. It made her feel valued and cherished, knowing that he was genuinely interested in her passions and dreams.

They delved into conversations about life, faith, and their shared purpose. Questions like, “What impact do you hope to make in the world?” and “What are your wildest dreams and how can I support you in achieving them?” became the fuel for their connection.

In moments of vulnerability, they acknowledged each other’s emotions, just as Jesus did with compassion and understanding. 

When Buddy faced setbacks in his career, Stella listened without judgment, providing a safe space for him to express his frustrations. And when Stella experienced self-doubt in her emotions, Buddy offered unwavering support and reminded her of her inner strength! 

Most importantly, Buddy and Stella learned to avoid interruptions and assumptions. They realized that true understanding required patience and the willingness to hear each other out completely. They were quick to listen and slow to speak, just as the Scriptures advised.

Their love story continued to flourish as they embraced the art of radical listening. Their relationship became a haven of trust, where they could freely express themselves and find solace in the other’s understanding. 

They discovered that active listening was the key to unlocking a love that transcends generations—a love that speaks the language of the heart and nurtures the souls of both singles and couples.

And so, their love story continues to inspire others, reminding them of the power of radical listening. This power can ignite flames of love and understanding in the hearts of a generation yearning for authentic connection.

For Singles:

  1. Are you actively practicing radical listening in your friendships and potential romantic relationships? How can you incorporate the principles of active listening into your interactions?
  2. What are your deepest passions, dreams, and aspirations? How can you find someone who will truly listen and support you in pursuing those dreams?
  3. Reflecting on your past relationships, were there instances where active listening could have made a positive difference? How can you improve your listening skills in future relationships?

For Couples:

  1. How well do you currently practice active listening in your relationship? Are there areas where you can improve to foster deeper understanding and connection?
  2. What open-ended questions can you ask your partner to foster meaningful conversations and explore each other’s dreams and aspirations?
  3. How do you acknowledge and validate each other’s emotions in moments of vulnerability? Are there any specific ways you can enhance your empathy and support for each other?

For Singles and Couples:

  1. Reflecting on the story, what is one action you can take today to become a more active and empathetic listener in your relationships?
  2. How can you create intentional moments of undistracted listening with your partner or potential partner?
  3. Are there any assumptions or interruptions that you need to be more mindful of in your communication? How can you practice being quick to listen and slow to speak?

Good morning!




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Help for Abusive Relationships and Marriage

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Help for Abusive Relationships and Marriage

Abuse in relationships and marriage is the most common cause of separation and divorce in marriage.

As Singles, you should watch out for signs of abuse and be courageous enough to take the necessary steps. 

First, let’s look at the meaning of abuse.

Abuse means treating a loved one or partner with violence, disrespect, cruelty, harm, or force. When someone treats their partner in any of these ways, it’s called an abusive relationship. Abuse in a relationship can be physical, sexual, verbal, financial, or emotional. Or it could be all of these.

In an abusive relationship or marriage, it takes a positive mindset and courage to confront the abuser. Having healthy self-esteem will also help to know that you are not to be abused but loved and cherished. No one should be a victim, whether male or female.

When a partner is showing signs of abuse it is not alright to ignore it. An abuser in relationships will be an abuser in marriage.

There are many reasons for being an abusive partner, a major cause is a dysfunctional background. Most people who abuse their partner have been abused and they usually have a deep-seated emotional issue or immaturity.

In an abusive marriage, the husband or wife has a power imbalance and uses manipulation, intimidation, threats, and physical or emotional violence to control the other.

Abuse in relationships and marriage is often characterized by extreme jealousy, possessiveness, and a lack of respect for the other partner’s boundaries. 

A lot of marriages go through abuse of various kinds and different degrees. When violence and physical abuse are involved, a professional therapist must be sought.

The use of scriptures to pray and make daily declarations and confessions is also known to get amazing results. 

Declaring the word and speaking the Word over the abuser helps in rewiring the brain.

Genesis 1:1-2 (KJV)  In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters.

God spoke His Word to a situation that was without form and void. You too can speak to that situation.

Singles should not go on to marry a partner who is already showing serious signs of abuse.

I will end here this morning.

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5 Timeless Relationship and Marriage Secrets 

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5 Timeless Relationship and Marriage Secrets 

1. Patience and Kindness

Based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast.” 

Your lover or spouse will test your patience! Just telling you ahead! 

Throughout a relationship, there are times when you’ll need patience and times you’ll need grace to acknowledge each other’s kindness. 

Patience and kindness are the strings that bind all your excesses together, helping you through every uphill and making it easier to celebrate every high. 

It encourages couples to appreciate each other’s gifts, navigate through each other’s flaws with understanding, and dig in with care.

2. Love and Keep Loving 

Each One of You Also Must Love His Wife as He Loves Himself, and the Wife Must Respect Her Husband.

Ephesians 5:33 encourages wives and husbands to respect each other, which is the essence of mutual admiration and understanding.

When you respect each other, you create a safe environment for your love to grow. You can disagree with respect, appreciate your partner’s opinions, feelings, and well-being, forming a strong base for any relationship.

When you understand this, you will be able love and keep loving! 

3. Practice forgiveness

Colossians 3:13 reminds us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another; if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” 

The power of forgiveness allows relationships to heal, grow, and mature, building a foundation of trust. Grudges create barriers to love; forgiveness breaks them down and creates a bridge to the other person, a bridge to the heart.

My dear couple, avoid strife like a plague! You don’t want to dine with strife in any way! 

4. Be honest and transparent

What is the foundation of all relationships? Proverbs 24:26 says, “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” 

Honest communication is the lifeline of relationships. It builds trust, dissipates misunderstandings, and gives partners a clearer path. 

When we love another person, we need to know that in their love for us, they will be honest, and we can be honest with them. Then, the lines of communication are truly open!

Be sincere! You really don’t want to be caught in the web of deception! 

5. God cannot be wrong!

She was intelligent, ambitious, and the love of your life. You were intelligent, ambitious, and the love of her life. God was involved. In the journey of your unfolding relationship, keep referring to the encounter you had with God before you married your spouse! That will stabilise you and remove all doubts!

These five Biblical pieces of advice can help you and your partner enrich your relationship and build a loving, respectful union that can stand the test of time and flourish in times of joy and challenge. 

Whether you’re navigating the early stages of love or seeking to rekindle the flame in a long-term relationship, these timeless teachings will help you in your relationship or marriage.




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